05 Marriage and Divorce
5. Marriage and Divorce
8:3231 - Allah's Messenger said: O young men, those among you who can support a wife should marry, for it restrains eyes from casting evil glances and preserves one from immorality;
8:3236 - Someone among the companions said: I will not marry women; another said: I will not eat meat; and another said: I will not lie down in bed. He the Prophet said: What has happened to these people that they say so and so, whereas I observe prayer and sleep too; I observe fast and suspend observing them; I marry women also? And he who turns away from my Sunnah, he has no relation with me.
8:3239 - Uthman b. Maz'un decided to live in celibacy, but Allah's Messenger forbade him to do so, and if he had permitted him, we would have got ourselves castrated.
8: 3240 - Allah's Messenger told his companions: “The woman advances and retires in the shape of a devil, so when one of you sees a woman, he should come to his wife, for that will repel what he feels in his heart.”
8:3247-49 - Allah's Messenger came to us and permitted us to contract temporary marriage. Yes, we had been benefiting ourselves by this temporary marriage during the lifetime of the Prophet. We contracted temporary marriage giving a handful of tales or flour during the lifetime of Allah's Messenger.
8:3252 - Sabra Juhanni reported: Allah's Messenger permitted temporary marriage for us. So I and another person went out and saw a woman of Bana 'Amir, who was like a young long-necked she-camel. We presented ourselves to her for contracting temporary marriage, whereupon she said: What dowry would you give me? I said: My cloak. I remained with her for three nights, and then Allah's Messenger said: He who has any such woman with whom he had contracted temporary marriage, he should let her go.
8:3309 - Aisha reported: “Allah's Messenger married me when I was six years old, and I was admitted to his house at the age of nine. Umm Ruman (my mother) came to me and I was at that time on a swing along with my playmates. She took me to a house, where had gathered the women of the Ansar. They all blessed me and wished me good luck and said: May you have share in good. She (my mother) entrusted me to them. They washed my head and embellished me and nothing frightened me. Allah's Messenger, came there, and I was entrusted to him.”
8:3311 - 'A'isha reported that Allah's Apostle married her when she was seven years old, and she was taken to his house as a bride when she was nine, and her dolls were with her; and when he (the Prophet) died she was eighteen years old.
8:3315 - A man came to Allah's Messenger and said: I have contracted marriage with a woman of the Ansar, whereupon Allah's Apostle said: For what dowry did you marry her? He said: For four 'uqiyas. Thereupon Allah's Apostle said We have nothing which we should give you. But there is a possibility that we may send you to a raid where you may get booty. So he sent that man in the expedition which was despatched to Banu 'Abs. {It’s obviously justifiable to steal from others to obtain your dowry. Also remember Allah’s messenger is allocated twenty percent of all booty.}
8:3354 - Allah's Messenger said: A divorced woman cannot return to her husband unless she marries another and he has tasted her sweetness.
8:3354 - A person divorced his wife by three pronouncements (repeating “I divorce you” three times); then another person married her and he also divorced her without having sexual intercourse with her. Then the first husband of her intended to remarry her. It was about such a case that Allah's Messenger was asked, whereupon he said: No, until the second one has tasted her sweetness as the first one had tasted.
8:3367 - Allah's messenger said: By Him in Whose Hand is my life, when a man calls his wife to his bed, and she does not respond, the one who is in the heaven is displeased with her until he (her husband) is pleased with her.
8:3428 - Sahla daughter of Suhail came to Allah's Messenger and said: I swear by Allah that I see in the face of Abu Hudhaifa the signs of disgust on account of entering the house, whereupon Allah's Messenger said: Suckle him. She said: He has a heard. But he (again) said: Suckle him, and it would remove what is there on the face of Abu Hudhaifa. She said: (I did that) and, by Allah, I did not see (any sign of disgust) on the face of Abu Hadhaifa.
8:3432 - At the Battle of Hanain Allah's Messenger sent an army to Autas and encountered the enemy and fought with them. Having overcome them and taken them captives, the men seemed to refrain from having intercourse with captive women because of their husbands were polytheists. Then Allah sent down the verse allowing sex with the captured women – “those whom your right hands possess”.
8:3448 - When anyone who has already a wife marries a virgin, he should stay with her for seven nights and then turn to his other wife, but he marries a woman who has been previously married he should stay with her for three nights.
8:3451 - As Sauda bint Zam'a became old, she had made over her day which she had to spend with Allah's Messenger to 'A'isha. She said: I have made over my day with you to 'A'isha. So Allah's Messenger allotted two days to 'A'isha, her own day (when it was her turn) and that of Sauda.
8:3453 – When the prophet said Allah revealed to him: “You may defer any one of your wives you wish, and take to yourself any you wish; and if you desire any you have set aside no sin is chargeable to you”, I (Aisha) said: It seems to me that your Lord hastens to satisfy your desire. {It seemed as if it finally dawned on Aisha that Allah was really Muhammad’s alter ego, there to reveal commands to satisfy his desires.}
8:3450 - Allah's Apostle had nine wives. So when he divided his stay with them, the turn of the first wife did not come but on the ninth day. They all the wives used to gather every night in the house of the one where he had to come and stay that night. It was the night when he had to stay in the house of Aisha when Zainab came there. He stretched his hand towards Zainab, whereupon she 'A'isha said: It is Zainab. Allah's Apostle withdrew his hand.
8:3458 - Jabir b. 'Abdullah reported: I met the Apostle of Allah whereupon he said: Jabir, have you married? I said: Yes. He said: A virgin or one previously married? I said: With one previously married, whereupon he said: Why did you not marry a virgin with whom you could sport and she could sport with you, or you could amuse with her and she could amuse with you? A woman is married for four reasons, for her religion, her property, her status, her beauty.
8:3466 - Allah's Messenger said: Woman is like a rib. When you attempt to straighten it, you would break it. And if you leave her alone you would benefit by her, and crookedness will remain in her.
8:3471 - Allah's Messenger said: Had it not been for Eve, woman would have never acted unfaithfully towards her husband.
8:3325 - Allah's Messenger set out on an expedition to Khaibar. As he entered the habitation he called: Allah-o-Akbar. Khaibar is ruined. And when we get down in the valley of a people evil is the morning for the warned ones. Abd al-'Aziz said: Muhammad and the army and took Khaibar by force, and there were gathered the prisoners of war. There came Dihya and he said: Messenger of Allah, bestow upon me a girl from the prisoners. Muhammad said: Go and get any girl. He made a choice for (seventeen year old) Safiyya. There came a person to Allah's Apostle who said: Apostle of Allah, you have bestowed Safiyya upon Dihya but she is worthy of you only. He said: Call him along with her. So he came along with her. When Allah's Apostle saw her he said: Take any other woman from among the prisoners. Muhammad spent that night with her {hours after she witnessed the murder of her husband and father}. Allah's Apostle appeared as a bridegroom in the morning. He said: He who has anything to eat should bring that and that was the wedding feast of Allah's Messenger.
8:3330 - When the 'Iddah of Zainab was revealed {verse from Allah telling Muhammad he should marry Zainab, the wife of his adopted son Zaid}, Allah's Messenger said to Zaid to make a mention to her about him. Zaid said to her: Zainab, Allah's Messenger has sent me with a message to you and revealed the verse of the Qur'an pertaining to her marriage to the prophet. Then Allah's Messenger came to her without permission.
8:3331 - Anas reported: I did not see Allah's Messenger giving a wedding feast on the marriage of any one of his wives as he did in the case of his marriage with Zainab, for then he sacrificed a goat on this occasion.
9:3474 - Allah's Messenger said: If you have divorced your wife with one pronouncement {talaaq – I divorce you or literally ‘undoing the knot’} or two then you can take her back, but if you have divorced her with three pronouncements, then she is forbidden for you until she married another husband.
9:3475 - Ibn Umar reported: I divorced my wife when she was in the state of menses. Whereupon Allah's Messenger said: Command him to take her back and leave her (in that state) until she is purified. Then divorce her when she is pure or she is pregnant.
9:3506 - Jabir b. 'Abdullah reported: Abu Bakr (father of Aisha) and ‘Umar (father of Hafsa) came and sought permission to see Allah's Messenger. They found Allah's Apostle sitting sad and silent with his wives around him. Allah's Messenger said: They are around me as you see, asking for extra money. Abu Bakr then got up went to 'A'isha and slapped her on the neck, and 'Umar stood up before Hafsa and slapped her saying: You ask Allah's Messenger which he does not possess.
9:3507 - 'Umar b. al-Khattab spoke to Hafsa his daughter {a wife of the prophet}: The news has reached me that you cause Allah's Messenger trouble. Had I not been your father he would have divorced you. {One day Muhammad was supposed to be with Hafsa, but instead he sent her to her father’s house. She returned to find him with Mary a slave (concubine) in her bed. He asked her to keep it a secret but she spread the news, angering Muhammad who told his then angry wives that he would have nothing to do with them. He threatened them with divorce and replacement with better wives. Q66:5}.
9:3512 - Fatima bint Qais reported that Abu 'Amr divorced her absolutely when he was away from home. She went to Allah's Messenger and mentioned that to him. He said: There is no maintenance due to you from him and he commanded her to spend the 'Idda in the house of Ibn Umm Maktum, for he is a blind man and you can put off your garments. She said: When my period of 'Idda was over, I mentioned to him that Mu'awiya and Jahm had sent proposals of marriage to me, whereupon Allah's Messenger said: As for Abu Jahm, he does not put down his staff from his shoulder and as for Mu'awiya, he is a poor man having no property; marry Usama b. Zaid (Mohaammed adopted son). I objected to him, but he again said: Marry Usama; so I married him. {Idda is a period of waiting during which a woman cannot remarry to ensure she is not pregnant. A woman if she is to survive after divorce must remarry for no maintenance allowance is due her}
9:3539 - Allah's Messenger said on the pulpit: “It is not permissible for a woman believing in Allah and the Hereafter to mourn for the dead beyond three days, but in the case of the husband it is permissible for four months and ten days.” {No mention of mourning period for a wife is stipulated}.
9:3553 - Uwaimir came to Allah's Messenger and said: Messenger of Allah, tell me about a person who found a man with his wife. Should he kill him, or how should he act? Thereupon Allah's Messenger said: “Verses have been revealed concerning you and your wife.” Without four witnesses to confirm the crime, Allah recommended they both invoked curses inviting the wrath of Allah on themselves if not telling the truth. So he divorced her with three pronouncements (‘I divorce you’ three times) as Allah's Messenger had commanded him. Ibn Shihab said: Subsequently that was the practice. (al Mutala'inain) {If you do not have four witnesses just say you are telling the truth and invoke the curse of Allah upon yourself. If you are lying the curse will take effect. Sharia law on divorce – as simple as that.}
9:3562 - Allah's Messenger asked a person from the Ansar and his wife to invoke curses upon one another in order to testify to their truthfulness, and then effected separation between them. {Muhammad recommended invoking curses upon one another as the way to ascertain the truth? So much for fact finding, investigation, dialogue, reason and logic?}
9:3595 - Allah's Messenger said: The right of inheritance for a freed slave rests with one who emancipates. {A freed slave had no rights to their spouse or children once emancipated. Any inheritance due to them would go to the person freeing them.}
9:3600 - Allah's Apostle said: He who took the freed slave as his ally without the consent of his previous master, there is upon him the curse of Allah and that of His angels and that of the whole mankind, and there will not be accepted from him his obligatory acts on the Day of Resurrection. {Freed slaves must obtain permission from their previous owners before they can seek any new alliance.}
9:3601 – Ali {Muhammad’s son-in-law} said: He who thinks that we (the members of the Prophet's family) read anything else besides the Book of Allah tells a lie. He who innovates or gives protection to an innovator, there is a curse of Allah and that of His angels and that of the whole humanity upon him.
9:3604 - Allah's Messenger said: He who emancipates a believing slave. Allah will set free from Fire his every limb for every limb of his (slave's), even his private parts.
SB 1:28 The Prophet said: 'I was shown the Hell-fire and that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful.' It was asked, 'Do they disbelieve in Allah?' (or are they ungrateful to Allah?) He replied, 'They are ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favours and the good done to them
SB 4:231 - I asked 'Aisha about the clothes soiled with semen. She replied, “I used to wash it off the clothes of Allah's Apostle and he would go for the prayer while water spots were still visible.”
SB 6:301 - Once Allah's Apostle went out to the Musalla he passed by the women and said, “O women! Give alms, as I have seen that the majority of the dwellers of Hell-fire were women.” They asked, “Why is it so, O Allah's Apostle ?” He replied, “You curse frequently and are ungrateful to your husbands. I have not seen anyone more deficient in intelligence and religion than you. A cautious sensible man could be led astray by some of you.” The women asked, “O Allah's Apostle! What is deficient in our intelligence and religion?” He said, “Is not the evidence of two women equal to the witness of one man?” They replied in the affirmative. He said, “This is the deficiency in her intelligence. Isn't it true that a woman can neither pray nor fast during her menses?” The women replied in the affirmative. He said, “This is the deficiency in her religion.”
SB 7:121The Prophet said, 'If a man invites his wife to sleep with him and she refuses to come to him, then the angels send their curses on her till morning.'
SB 6:298 – Aisha said The Prophet and I used to take a bath from a single pot. During my menses, he used to order me to put on an Izar (dress worn below the waist) and used to fondle me.
SB 38:504 - Narrated Jabir bin 'Abdullah: I was accompanying the Prophet on a journey and was riding a slow camel that was lagging behind the others. When we approached Medina, I started going towards my house. The Prophet said, “Where are you going?” I said, “I have married a widow.” He said, “Why have you not married a virgin to fondle with each other?”
SB 58:236 - Khadija died three years before the Prophet departed to Medina. He stayed there for two years or so and then he married Aisha when she was a girl of six years of age {he being 50}, and he consummated that marriage when she was nine years old.
SB 62:15 - Narrated 'Aisha: Allah's Apostle said (to me), “You have been shown to me twice in (my) dreams {when she was aged five}. A man was carrying you in a silken cloth and said to me, 'This is your wife.' I uncovered it; and behold, it was you. I said to myself, 'If this dream is from Allah, He will cause it to come true.'”
SB 62:17 - Narrated Jabir bin 'Abdullah: When I got married, Allah's Apostle said to me, “What type of lady have you married?” I replied, “I have married a matron' The prophet said, “Why, don't you have a liking for the virgins and for fondling them?”
SB 62:18 - The Prophet asked Abu Bakr for 'Aisha's hand in marriage. Abu Bakr said “But I am your brother.” The Prophet said, “You are my brother in Allah's religion and His Book, but she is lawful for me to marry.”
SB 62:65 - Narrated 'Aisha: that the Prophet married her when she was six years old and he consummated his marriage when she was nine years old. Hisham said: I have been informed that 'Aisha remained with the Prophet for nine years {i.e. till his death.}
SB 62:137 - We got female captives in the war booty and we used to withdraw before ejaculation (avoid pregnancy) to ensure better price for their ransom. So we asked Allah's Apostle about it and he said, “There is no need because each soul that is destined to exist will come into existence, till the Day of Resurrection.”
SB 72:715 - Rifa'a divorced his wife whereupon Abdur Rahman married her. Aisha said the lady came, wearing a green veil and complained of her husband showing green spots on her skin caused by beating. Aisha said, “I have not seen any woman suffering as much as the believing women. Look! Her skin is greener than her clothes!” The wife said, “By Allah! I have done no wrong to him but he is impotent and is useless to me” Abdur-Rahman said, “By Allah, O Allah's Apostle! She has told a lie! I am very strong and can satisfy her but she is disobedient and wants to go back to Rifa'a.” Allah's Apostle said, to her, “If that is your intention, then know that it is unlawful for you to remarry Rifa'a unless Abdur-Rahman has had sexual intercourse with you.” {So although the woman was badly beaten, Muhammad’s judgment was for her to return to her abusive husband until she at least satisfied him in bed. An important point is made in this verse about the status of women in Islam. Aisha says, I have not seen any woman suffering as much as the believing women. This is very telling, candid statement. Obviously outside the Muslim community, women did not suffer as they did within and Aisha noted that fact for posterity. It was Muhammad who ordered them to be veiled, to be beaten, to be obedient to their men-folk and to be locked up within their houses.}
SB 75:397 - The Prophet said, If anyone of you, when intending to have a sexual intercourse with his wife, says: 'Bismillah, Allahumma jannibna-sh-shaitan, wa jannibi-sh-shaitan ma razaqtana,' and if the couple are destined to have a child (out of that very sexual relation), then Satan will never be able to harm that child.
SAD 11:2045 - A man came to the Prophet and said: I have found a woman of rank and beauty, but she does not give birth to children. Should I marry her? He said: “No. Marry women who are loving and very prolific, for I shall outnumber the peoples by you.” {The scheme to outnumber non-Muslims with Muslims via prolific reproduction was clearly hatched by Muhammad himself.}
SAD 11:2141 - The Apostle of Allah said: Women have become emboldened toward their husbands, he (the Prophet) gave permission to beat them. Then many women came round the family of the Apostle of Allah complaining against their husbands. So the Apostle of Allah said: “They (the women) are not the best among you.”
SAD 11:2142 - The Prophet said: ‘A man will not be asked as to why he beat his wife.’
SAD 12:2220 - Thabit ibn Qays Shimmas beat his wife Habibah and broke some of her part. So she came to the Prophet after morning, and complained to him against her husband. The Prophet called on Thabit and said to him: “Take part of her property and separate yourself from her.” Thabit said: I have given her two gardens of mine as a dowry, and they are already in her possession. The Prophet said: Take them back and separate yourself from her.
SAD 11:2126 - A man from the Ansar said: I married a virgin woman in her veil. When I entered upon her, I found she was already pregnant. The Prophet said: She will get the dowry returned, for you made her vagina lawful to you. The child will be your slave. When she has begotten, flog her.
SAD 11:2135 If I were to command anyone to make prostration before another I would command women to prostrate themselves before their husbands, because of the special right over them given to husbands by Allah.
SAD 11:2155 - The Prophet said: If one of you marries a woman or buys a slave, he should say: “O Allah, I ask Thee for the good in her, and in the disposition Thou hast given her; I take refuge in Thee from the evil in her, and in the disposition Thou hast given her.” When he buys a camel, he should take hold of the top of its hump and say the same thing.
SAD 41:5251 - A woman used to perform circumcision in Medina. The Prophet said to her: Do not cut severely as that is better for a woman and more desirable for a husband. {Muhammad unambiguously recommends the practice of circumcision, seeming more concerned with the husbands pleasure from a sexually responsive wife than for the woman herself.}
Al Tirmizi 2:1584 - Muhammad said: O Ali! It is not lawful for anyone except me and you to go to a mosque in a state of sexual defilement.