Politically Correct Pick up lines

Politically Correct Pick up lines

The very concept of politically correct "pick up" lines is slightly oxymoronic (self contradictory). But we are hardly ones to be orthodox in our beliefs.

Like a good love letter, one strong approach to starting a conversation is referencing a current shared experience, for example:

• unusual weather we are have, no?

• is it just me, or does this line seems long/slow?

• is there a story which goes with your ring?

• do you think we should overthrow the government using non-boring means?

These are not witty lines designed to get a laugh (except perhaps the fourth one) but rather to make an observation and create room for dialog. It is difficult to make general suggestions about these circumstances which will often be specific. But since the purpose of these lines is to open the possibility of communication, then paramount is a willingness to try, especially recognizing that you might fail and be rejected.

While it is desirable to say something clever to create a conversational opening, it is more important to be authentic and have the capacity to continue the conversation. For some people being witty and engaging comes fairly easily, but for most it does not. It is more important to be real than it is to be entertaining, especially if this is a stretch.

If you don’t have a shared experience, or this is not what you want to talk about then for many listeners, asking a question which make them think is often enticing. These almost always take the form of a question. For example:

• What have you learned that is counter intuitive lately?

• What has given you cause to be hopeful?

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Avoid introductory lines which are based on deception or crassly sexual (tho this is what most online advisers actually council). For example:

· If I said you had a beautiful body, would you hold it against me?

· Didn’t we meet before at the users group meeting ?

· You must be a pickpocket, because you stole my heart.

More important than the introductory line is what you say next if you are not rejected. Learn how to be a better conversationalist. Some general suggestions for improving your conversational skills include:

1. Listen as much as you talk

2. Ask questions based on the information you hear

3. Be able to tell stories or jokes

4. Come without and agenda, if the conversation progresses nicely you can mutually explore what the next step of being together is – if any. Start by assume you will chat briefly and then be on your way.

5. Get over your fear of rejections. If you try to start a conversation and it fails, it might well have nothing to do with you. It might well be the proper evaluation of the person you are trying to seduce that you are a bad match.

6. Back away gracefully. If the person expresses no interest in continuing the interaction, don’t be pushy, move on.

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