Philosophy

All Honest Seduction material is in the public domain and can be copied and modified as is useful to you. We would love for you to give us credit, but it is not required.

This is a work in progress. We don’t believe we have any monopoly on the truth or that what we know is immutably right. We will change our workshop (and somewhat less frequently this website) to reflect the new things we learn. If you have suggestions for improvements we are very happy to hear them.

Our workshops are interactive. While there is some lecturing on the presenters’ part, we believe “the truth is in the room”- that the experiences, stories, suggestions and feelings of the workshop participants are vital to the workshop. We ask questions, encourage group discussion, facilitate role plays and break into small groups with greater individual participation. Correspondingly, there is a need on the part of participants to be revealing and open to talking about their intimate experiences. If you can’t do this, you might be better off skipping the workshop and watching for materials from us online.

We believe information should be free. We also think people who present workshops should not starve. We offer workshops on a sliding scale donation basis. If you are poor, give what you can, and you should consider yourself most welcome – your experiences and participation are appreciated. If you are not poor, we suggest you consider gifting us what you would spend on an evening at the movies. Larger donations are welcome and will help us develop this website more, do more workshops, print more propaganda, and eat a bit better. Our intention is to put written materials up print ready form (PDF). The text for the polyamory fingerbook is already on line. We are also happy to receive non-monetary gifts like love letters, warm socks, or chocolate. Go here of more thoughts about gift economy.

We might not be your cup of tea. The presenters of this work have explicit political agendas. We believe that more transparent intimate relationship will make the world a better place, not just for the couples (and triads, etc) involved, but for all those in contact with them. We also believe that Honest Seduction is a memetic structure which could supplant much of classical/dishonest seduction and have a significant benefit to the world. You might think this is either a bunch of self-important nonsense or the unnecessary politicization of romance. If so, we encourage you to ditch us, or if you want to set us straight, you can send us an email at mailto:honestseduction@angietupelo.otherinbox.com

Our principal qualification for doing these workshops is our willingness to try. We don’t hold advanced degrees in this material, nor are we licensed counselors. We do have lots of personal experience (in fact we honestly seduced each other). We have presented this workshop a bunch and most participants have been pretty happy with it. We don’t take our selves very seriously and you should definitely follow our lead in this.

The presenters of this material are actively polyamorous. It is not necessary for you to embrace multiple romantic partners to find this workshop useful, it is designed to aid participants of every kind of relationship model and sexual preference (including celibacy). That said, everyone is biased by their personal beliefs, and polyamory specific suggestions will be part of the workshop.