Deep Listening
Deep Listening
10/9/20, KatheyAdapted from UUA Soul Matters materialWhat Does it Mean to be a People of Deep Listening?includes spiritual exercises
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Contents● Introduction by email● Opening and closing words● Quotes
Email:This session is adapted from the Soul Matters materials provided by the UUA for the October 2020 theme, Deep Listening.Please find below:● Listening exercises● Questions for reflection● Questions for discussion● The Zoom link to our Chalice Circle
Listening one-on-oneWe are gaining experience with listening to each other in a group. But what aboutlistening to one person--in person and with no self-mute button?Video: Being a Good ListenerBeing A Good Listener:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-BdbiZcNBXg&feature=emb_logo
Listening to something familiar in a new wayBlackbird sung in Mi’kmaq, an indigenous language:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=99-LoEkAA3w&feature=emb_logo
From Wikipedia…“The Miꞌkmaq …are a First Nations people of the Northeastern Woodlands,indigenous to the areas now known as Canada's Atlantic Provinces and theGaspé Peninsula of Quebec as well as the northeastern region of Maine.”More about the Mi’kmaq at Wikipedia:https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mi%EA%9E%8Ckmaq
Should you wish to recall an English-language version, here’s a good one,recorded by Crosby, Stills, and Nash:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wORwlCy3JDI
Listening to the Universehttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=olG9HIztUKE&list=PLvXOKgOQVYP6D6LnHTjKRBiqVGrmWd-Ww&index=4
Listening to your inner voiceQuestions for reflection and meditation1. Who listened to you when you most needed it? Who first gave you the gift of deep listening?2. How has your listening needed to change as you’ve grown older?3. Have you forgiven yourself for failing to listen?4. Ok, you’ve been listening. Is it now time to talk?5. Are you having trouble hearing beyond the voice of your wounds?6. Instead of arguing with them, what if next time you asked “Will you tell meyour story? I’d love to know how you came to this point of view.”https://lifehacker.com/hear-the-biography-not-the-ideology-to-listen-better-17847554517. What if listening is actually an act of love?8. What gets in your way the most: The noise of the world? The noise of yourworries? The noise of our wounds?9. They say if we listen deeply to our anger we will discover fear or sadnessunderneath it. What is your anger trying to say to you?https://healthypsych.com/psychology-tools-what-is-anger-a-secondary-emotion/10. Are you still struggling with that old voice in your head that says “You aremeant to be seen not heard”?https://kimbsmith.com/you-are-to-be-seen-and-not-heard/
Questions for discussionIs there one question in the reflection and meditation list that captures thecall of your inner voice…that contains “your work”?Is life asking something from you other than the questions in the meditation list?
zUUm linkTBD by facilitator
End of intro and "homework" material to be sent by email--------------------------------------------------
Opening and Closing Words
Rebecca ParkerThere is a quality of listening that is possible among a circle of human beings, whoby their attentiveness to one another create a space in which each person is able togive voice to the truth of his or her life. There is themiracle of authentic narrative, made possible by listening that holds still longenough to let our truth be told.
Wild Geese by Mary OliverYou do not have to be good.You do not have to walk on your knees for a hundred miles through the desert, repenting.You only have to let the soft animal of your bodylove what it loves. Tell me about despair, yours, and I will tell you mine.Meanwhile the world goes on.Meanwhile the sun and the clear pebbles of the rainare moving across the landscapes,over the prairies and the deep trees,the mountains and the rivers.Meanwhile the wild geese, high in the clean blue air,are heading home again.Whoever you are, no matter how lonely,the world offers itself to your imagination,calls to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting—over and over announcing your placein the family of things.Note: the link to the above poem that is provided in the Soul Matters material appears tobe broken.
Another link to the poem:https://www.anythinklibraries.org/blog/poetry-picks-wild-geese-mary-oliver
QuotesThe first duty of love is to listen.Paul TillichWisdom is the reward you get for a lifetime of listening when you'd have preferredto talk.Doug Larson
Caring people “listen to” while opportunists “listen for.”Alan Robert NealOur listening creates sanctuary for the homeless parts within the other person.Rachel Naomi Remen
The less blame and criticism in our words, the easier it will be for others to hear us.When someone trusts that we’re actually interested in understanding them… theycan stop defending themselves and just hear what we’re saying.Oren Jay SoferListening to both sides of a story will convince you that there is more to a story thanboth sides.Frank Tyger
We don’t just listen for clarity and guidance,we listen to become larger.Those voices calling us homeare our home.We don’t have conversations,we are our conversations.We must remember friends:Who we listen to is who we become.Rev. Scott Tayler
Contents● Introduction by email● Opening and closing words● Quotes
Email:This session is adapted from the Soul Matters materials provided by the UUA for the October 2020 theme, Deep Listening.Please find below:● Listening exercises● Questions for reflection● Questions for discussion● The Zoom link to our Chalice Circle
Listening one-on-oneWe are gaining experience with listening to each other in a group. But what aboutlistening to one person--in person and with no self-mute button?Video: Being a Good ListenerBeing A Good Listener:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-BdbiZcNBXg&feature=emb_logo
Listening to something familiar in a new wayBlackbird sung in Mi’kmaq, an indigenous language:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=99-LoEkAA3w&feature=emb_logo
From Wikipedia…“The Miꞌkmaq …are a First Nations people of the Northeastern Woodlands,indigenous to the areas now known as Canada's Atlantic Provinces and theGaspé Peninsula of Quebec as well as the northeastern region of Maine.”More about the Mi’kmaq at Wikipedia:https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mi%EA%9E%8Ckmaq
Should you wish to recall an English-language version, here’s a good one,recorded by Crosby, Stills, and Nash:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wORwlCy3JDI
Listening to the Universehttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=olG9HIztUKE&list=PLvXOKgOQVYP6D6LnHTjKRBiqVGrmWd-Ww&index=4
Listening to your inner voiceQuestions for reflection and meditation1. Who listened to you when you most needed it? Who first gave you the gift of deep listening?2. How has your listening needed to change as you’ve grown older?3. Have you forgiven yourself for failing to listen?4. Ok, you’ve been listening. Is it now time to talk?5. Are you having trouble hearing beyond the voice of your wounds?6. Instead of arguing with them, what if next time you asked “Will you tell meyour story? I’d love to know how you came to this point of view.”https://lifehacker.com/hear-the-biography-not-the-ideology-to-listen-better-17847554517. What if listening is actually an act of love?8. What gets in your way the most: The noise of the world? The noise of yourworries? The noise of our wounds?9. They say if we listen deeply to our anger we will discover fear or sadnessunderneath it. What is your anger trying to say to you?https://healthypsych.com/psychology-tools-what-is-anger-a-secondary-emotion/10. Are you still struggling with that old voice in your head that says “You aremeant to be seen not heard”?https://kimbsmith.com/you-are-to-be-seen-and-not-heard/
Questions for discussionIs there one question in the reflection and meditation list that captures thecall of your inner voice…that contains “your work”?Is life asking something from you other than the questions in the meditation list?
zUUm linkTBD by facilitator
End of intro and "homework" material to be sent by email--------------------------------------------------
Opening and Closing Words
Rebecca ParkerThere is a quality of listening that is possible among a circle of human beings, whoby their attentiveness to one another create a space in which each person is able togive voice to the truth of his or her life. There is themiracle of authentic narrative, made possible by listening that holds still longenough to let our truth be told.
Wild Geese by Mary OliverYou do not have to be good.You do not have to walk on your knees for a hundred miles through the desert, repenting.You only have to let the soft animal of your bodylove what it loves. Tell me about despair, yours, and I will tell you mine.Meanwhile the world goes on.Meanwhile the sun and the clear pebbles of the rainare moving across the landscapes,over the prairies and the deep trees,the mountains and the rivers.Meanwhile the wild geese, high in the clean blue air,are heading home again.Whoever you are, no matter how lonely,the world offers itself to your imagination,calls to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting—over and over announcing your placein the family of things.Note: the link to the above poem that is provided in the Soul Matters material appears tobe broken.
Another link to the poem:https://www.anythinklibraries.org/blog/poetry-picks-wild-geese-mary-oliver
QuotesThe first duty of love is to listen.Paul TillichWisdom is the reward you get for a lifetime of listening when you'd have preferredto talk.Doug Larson
Caring people “listen to” while opportunists “listen for.”Alan Robert NealOur listening creates sanctuary for the homeless parts within the other person.Rachel Naomi Remen
The less blame and criticism in our words, the easier it will be for others to hear us.When someone trusts that we’re actually interested in understanding them… theycan stop defending themselves and just hear what we’re saying.Oren Jay SoferListening to both sides of a story will convince you that there is more to a story thanboth sides.Frank Tyger
We don’t just listen for clarity and guidance,we listen to become larger.Those voices calling us homeare our home.We don’t have conversations,we are our conversations.We must remember friends:Who we listen to is who we become.Rev. Scott Tayler
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