Rising Support Groups

Why Healing in Community Changes Everything

So many women come into betrayal trauma recovery believing they should be able to handle this on their own. Or they don’t even know that their experience has a name and its actual trauma. They often believe- if my partner’s harmful behavior stops I will be fine.

You are strong. You have survived a lot. You are used to carrying emotional weight quietly.

Unfortunately, betrayal doesn’t heal well in isolation.

Betrayal trauma impacts the nervous system, identity, safety, your ability to trust yourself and the world around you. Not just your partner, but your own perceptions and instincts. Now that you have the truth of your reality, you look back and wonder how you could’ve missed all the warning signs and red flags, how could you have been so naive? That kind of injury needs safe, steady relational repair. Insight alone is rarely enough.

This is why healing in community can be so powerful when it is done well.

No checklists.
Not overwhelming.
Not focused on retelling everything that happened.

But an intentionally designed, trauma-informed space where your body and nervous system can finally exhale.

Why Groups Work When They Are Structured and Safe

In my Rising groups, the focus is not on analyzing your partner or replaying the details of betrayal.

The focus is on you.

On helping you understand and feel safer in your body.
On reclaiming your voice and choice.
On building self-trust and internal steadiness.
On practicing boundaries, values, and self-protection.
On experiencing connection without pressure or performance.

When a group has clear boundaries and a predictable rhythm, something shifts. Women begin to regulate together. Calm becomes shared. You start to recognize yourself in other women’s experiences without comparison or competition.

Slowly and safely, many women realize something important.
They are not broken.
They are not too much.
They are not alone.

What This Looks Like in Real Life

Here are a few moments from this past week, shared anonymously and with care.

A woman paused mid-share and said she was confused by the idea of “doing the work.” Sitting and breathing felt backwards to her. The group laughed softly in recognition. What followed was relief. Several women named how unfamiliar it felt to stop fixing and helping, and how grounding practices were helping them feel safer in their bodies for the first time.

Another woman shared that safety had become her core value because she did not feel safe anywhere anymore. No one rushed to reassure her. No one tried to fix it. She was witnessed. Her experience was normalized as a nervous system response, not a personal failure.

During values work, someone said her values had been used against her in the past, and now she was learning to protect them and offer them only where they were earned and respected. Heads nodded. The conversation shifted from self-judgment to self-respect.

In a lighter moment, a woman shared something about herself that had nothing to do with betrayal. Her creativity. Her joy. The room softened. For a few minutes, she was not a trauma story. She was a whole person again.

When another woman apologized for crying, the group gently reminded her that her tears were welcome.

None of this involved graphic details.
None of it involved advice-giving.
And yet, this is deep work.

This is nervous system healing.
This is identity repair.
This is learning how to be in connection again without losing yourself.

Why Long-Term Community Matters

Short-term support can help stabilize a crisis. Ongoing community supports integration.

Over time, women often notice:
They recover more quickly after triggers.
Their boundaries become clearer without over-explaining.
They speak to themselves with more compassion.
They feel less pressure to be “done” healing.
They trust their inner voice more.

There is also something deeply reparative about being known over time, not just in a few moments of crisis.

This is why I keep Rising groups small, accessible and affordable, with different pricing options. Healing should not be rushed, and it should not only be available to those who can afford high-ticket support.

Sustainable healing requires sustainable community.

New Women and Long-Term Members Together

New members often arrive unsure of what to say. Afraid of being too much. Exhausted from explaining themselves everywhere else.

They listen. They watch. They breathe.

Long-term members are not “finished.” They are steadier. They model self-trust without trying to teach or coach anyone. Their presence quietly communicates something important.

It is possible to feel more grounded than you do right now.

Over time, new members become the steady ones. And the cycle continues.

You Do Not Have to Do This Alone

If you are looking for a space that centers you, not your partner
Structure without pressure
Community without comparison
Healing that honors your pace and capacity

Rising groups were created for this.

Some women come for a season.
Others stay for years.
Both are welcome.

You do not need to be ready.
You do not need the right words.
You do not need to know where your relationship is headed.

You just need a place where your experience is held with care.

If you want to learn more about current Rising groups, you can explore the options above. 

Healing happens in relationship.