I can identify the difference between expected and unexpected behaviors.
I can explain what the expected behavior is during a given situation.
I can recognize my personal triggers that lead to the Blue, Red, and Yellow Zone.
I can identify coping tools and work on problem solving to avoid triggers.
Read Aloud: Be Who You Are by Todd Parr
Have students write at the top of a piece of paper “Be Who You Are” with their name written just below.
Students who are multilingual can write it in many languages.
Have students draw a picture of their full body selves with a pencil.
Add lots of details that are special to them —hairstyles, clothing styles, etc.
likes and dislikes, personalities, hobbies
Let students know that if they have always wanted to wear a bow tie with rainbow suspenders, for example, they can draw themselves this way.
Students can also change their hair to a style that represents their true selves — maybe a student has always wanted short hair or has wanted to dye their hair pink.
After they have drawn themselves in pencil with lots of details, have students trace over the pencil lines with a black permanent marker. •
Once students are done outlining, they can color in their drawing of themselves with crayons, colored pencils or markers.
Home Link: Practicing Skills at Home
Lesson 1: I'm In Charge
I know how to respond when a stranger knocks on the door.
I know how to react when a stranger approaches me on the street.
I know how to stay safe when I'm online or on social media.
I know how to respond when me or someone I know is being bullied.
Video
Student Booklet
Demonstrate following the Always Ask First Rule in response to scenarios
Identify the adult they should ask first in response to scenarios
Demonstrate assertively saying who they should ask first in response to scenarios
An older boy at school wants you to light toilet paper on fire in the bathroom? Never-Never Rule: Never play with fire.
Your cousin says you can borrow her bike, but you don’t have a helmet? Never-Never Rule: Never ride on wheels without wearing a helmet.
Your older sister’s friend wants you to hold the gun he has in his bag? Never-Never Rule: Never touch guns.
Your soccer coach asks you to stay after a game for some extra coaching? Always Ask First Rule: Always ask a parent or the person in charge first.
That last What If story is an example of when to follow the Always Ask First Rule.
Zamia is part of a chess club run by Mr. Pacey, a teacher at her school. Reed is a college student who helps Mr. Pacey run the chess club. Reed spends a lot of time helping Zamia learn about chess. Practice is just ending, and Reed is offering to help Zamia get ready for the next tournament. “Meet me at the neighborhood library today right after school,” Reed is saying. “With just a little more practice, I bet you can win this tournament.” Zamia is excited about Reed’s offer. She really wants to win the tournament!
1. Recognize: Is it safe for Zamia to go with Reed to the library after school? (Yes. No. Difficult to decide.)
2. Does Zamia need to ask a parent or the person in charge first before going with Reed? (Yes. She needs to ask first before going somewhere with someone.)
3. How will asking first help Zamia keep herself safe? (Her parents will know where she is. They can help her decide if it’s okay to go to the library with Reed.)
4. Zamia needs to ask her parents or the person in charge first before going somewhere with Reed. Look at the illustration. Who is the person in charge here? (Mr. Pacey.)
Let’s find out what happens when Zamia tries to ask first.
Zamia wants to go to the library with Reed, but she remembers she needs to ask first. Mr. Pacey is the person in charge at the Chess Club, so she asks him. He says she needs to ask her parents, but Zamia doesn’t know how to contact her parents during the day. Reed says her parents will probably be just fine with her meeting him at the library. “The library is very safe, and you’ll be with me,” he tells her.
Zamia wants to go to the library with Reed, but she remembers she needs to ask first. Mr. Pacey is the person in charge at the Chess Club, so she asks him. He says she needs to ask her parents, but Zamia doesn’t know how to contact her parents during the day. Reed says her parents will probably be just fine with her meeting him at the library. “The library is very safe, and you’ll be with me,” he tells her.
5. Zamia can’t contact her parents to ask first before going somewhere with Reed. Think about what Zamia should do now to stay safe. Give think-time. Turn and tell your partner your ideas. Call on a few students at random to report. (Tell Reed, “Sorry, but I need to ask first.” Tell Reed, “Maybe next time.”)
6. Reed doesn’t think Zamia needs to ask first. Is that okay? (No.) What should Zamia do when Reed tries to get her to go the library without asking first? (Refuse: Say words that mean no. Leave and report what happened to a trusted adult.)
Let’s find out what Zamia does to keep herself safe.
Zamia tells Reed she can’t go with him if she doesn’t ask first. After school she walks straight home. Later that evening, Zamia tells her father about how Reed asked her to go with him to library after school, and how he told her she didn’t need to ask first. Her father is glad that Zamia told him what happened. “Following the Always Ask First Rule helped you stay safe,” he says. “I’ll talk with Mr. Pacey to make sure Reed knows it’s not okay to try to go somewhere with kids after school without their parents’ permission.”
Refer to the Ways to Stay Safe Poster. How did Zamia use all the Ways to Stay Safe to keep herself safe? (She recognized she needed to ask first before going somewhere with Reed. She refused to go. She reported what happened to her father.) Remembering she needed to ask a parent or the person in charge first helped Zamia stay safe.
Scenario 1: The Mall
Imagine your friend invites you to go to the mall with him. His older sister will drive you there and bring you home in a couple of hours.
1. If this were you, who would you ask first before going to the mall, and what would you say to that person? When you and your partner have an answer, stand up.
2. What would you say to refuse your friend if the person you asked told you no? When you and your partner have an answer, sit down.
Scenario 2: The Lost Dog
Imagine you’re playing at the park. A man comes rushing up to you saying his dog ran off and he needs help catching her right away! He asks you if you can please help him catch his dog before she gets lost or hit by a car. The man looks really worried. He needs your help right now!
1. If this were you, who would you ask first before going to help the man find his dog, and what would you say to that person? When you and your partner have an answer, stand up.
2. What would you say to refuse the man if you were at the park by yourself and there wasn’t a parent or person in charge to ask first? When you and your partner have an answer, sit down.
Scenario 3: Online Meeting
Imagine you’re playing your favorite online game on a computer at the library. Another player sends you a message. She wants you to give her your phone number so she can call and talk to you. This person has always been very friendly.
1. If this were you, who would you ask first before sending the player your phone number, and what would you say to that person? When you and your partner have an answer, stand up.
2. What would you do if the other player kept asking for your number even after you said no? When you and your partner have an answer, sit down.
Today we learned about the Always Ask First Rule. What is the Always Ask First Rule? (Always ask a parent or the person in charge first before going somewhere, doing something, or accepting something from someone.)
What does “person in charge” mean? (The older person who is responsible for making sure you’re safe when you’re not with your parents.)
Why does asking a parent or person in charge first help you stay safe? (Adults can help you decide if a situation is safe or not. He or she will know where you are. He or she can tell you if it’s okay.)
What should you do if you need to ask first, but there isn’t a parent or person in charge nearby for you to ask? (Call your parents. Find a person in charge. Refuse to do something.)
What should you do if someone says you don’t need to ask first? (Refuse: Say words that mean no. Report: Tell an adult.)
Identify safe and unsafe touches
Refuse unsafe touches assertively in response to scenarios
Refuse unwanted touches assertively in response to scenario
Unwanted Touch Scenarios
Pretend this is…
Your grandma trying to give you a kiss when you don’t want one
Your uncle inviting you to sit on his lap when you don’t want to
Your teacher wanting to hold your hand on the way to the library when you don’t want him to
Your dad offering to give you a piggyback ride when you don’t want one
Your older cousin putting his arm around you during a movie when you don’t want him to
Unsafe Touch Scenarios
Pretend this is…
A boy sitting on the floor behind you during the school assembly kicking your back
Your babysitter pushing you into the car because she’s in a hurry and upset about you being late for school
Your uncle shaking you by the shoulders because he’s mad that you drank all the orange juice
Another student tripping you on purpose during the kickball game at recess
Your sister hitting you in the face because you didn’t do what she wanted.
I can explore and learn more about my personal abilities, interests, likes, and dislikes.
I can connect what I am "smart" in and what careers I might be most interested in.