I can practice Cooperation skills like sharing ideas and taking turns while drawing collaboratively. 

Skill Practice

Now you’ll practice using the Always Ask First Rule. You’ll say;

1. Who you need to ask. 

2. Be assertive. Stand up straight, face the person you’re telling, and use a strong, respectful voice. 

1. Read the scenario.

2. Show the Always Ask First Rule Card and ask students: What’s the rule? (Always ask your parent or the person in charge first.)

3. Ask students: Who can you ask first? Call on a few students at random. (Mom. Dad. Person in charge.) Have the other students put their thumbs up if they agree.

4. Have four or five students stand, face the drawing on the empty chair, and state assertively who they need to ask first: I need to ask my ______(mom/babysitter/ grandma) first.

5. Reinforce assertiveness skills with specific feedback: I noticed you standing up tall and using a strong, respectful voice.

6. Have students sit back down, then repeat steps 1–5 for each scenario.

Scenarios

Pretend this is…

• Your neighbor inviting you over to play his video game

• Your school librarian offering you some books to take home and keep

• Your older sister’s friend wanting to show you pictures on his phone

• Your bigger cousin offering you some special candies

• Your uncle inviting you for a ride in his new car

• Your teacher asking you to stay after school to work on a special project

Let's Practice!

Unsafe Touch Scenarios

Pretend this is…

• Your older sister, who is kicking you under the table

• Your grandma, who is mad that you took a cookie, and she’s slapping you hard on the hand

• An older boy, who is pulling you down the hall by the arm

• Your cousin, who is pinching your leg to get your attention

• Your seat neighbor at school, who is hitting you with his notebook

Unwanted Touch Scenarios

Pretend this is…

• A student in your class, who is putting an arm around your shoulder when you don’t want him to

• Your older sister, who is messing up your hair when you don’t want her to

• Your grandpa, who wants to give you a kiss when you don’t want one

• An adult volunteer in your class, who is holding your hand as you walk to lunch when you don’t want him to

• Your friend, who is hugging you when you don’t want to be hugged

Touching  Rule: A person should never touch your private body parts except to keep you healthy. 

Story and Discussion

Here’s a story about what to do when someone breaks the Touching Rule.

This is Ethan. Last week, his grandpa stayed with him and his little brother while his mom went out for the evening with friends. Ethan’s grandpa likes to play wrestling games with him and his brother. But last weekend, Ethan got an uncomfortable feeling in his body while they were playing the game. It happened when his grandpa started touching Ethan’s bottom.

1. What might it have meant that Ethan’s body felt uncomfortable? (That the touch wasn’t okay. That the touch was unwanted.) Uncomfortable feelings in your body might mean a situation is not okay.

Ethan recognized his grandpa was breaking the Touching Rule. He knows his bottom is private and that it was not okay for his grandpa to touch it. It broke the Touching Rule. Recognize is one of the Ways to Stay Safe.

2. Point to the Ways to Stay Safe poster. Think about which Way to Stay Safe Ethan could do next. (Refuse the touch. Report the touch.)

Think, Turn, Tell

3. Think about some words that mean no that Ethan could use to refuse the touch. (Please stop. I don’t want you to touch me. That part of my body is private.)

Ethan stood up and moved away from his grandpa. He told him in a strong, respectful voice, “Stop. I don’t like that. My bottom is private.” He told his little brother to go play in their room and then followed him there.

Point to the photo. Now Ethan is reporting to his mom that his grandpa broke the Touching Rule. He waited until the next morning because he was worried she wouldn’t believe him, but he knew he had to report it.

4. What could Ethan do if his mom doesn’t believe him? (Keep telling. Tell another adult.) Keep reporting until someone believes you.

Ethan’s mom believes him. She says, “I’m glad you told me. It’s not okay for your grandpa to touch you like that. It’s not your fault. I will talk to him about it.” Now Ethan only sees his grandpa when his mom is with him. Ethan feels safe and protected by his mom.

Skill Practice

Now you will practice reporting that someone has broken the Touching Rule. Review all the Ways to Stay Safe and their actions.

1. You can report to an adult you trust that someone has broken the Touching Rule. 

2. When you report, you need to be assertive. 

   • Stand up straight, 

   • face the person you’re reporting to

   • use a strong, respectful voice "I need to report a broken touching rule."

Scenarios

• Your mom’s friend has been touching your private body parts when he thinks you’re asleep. You’re reporting to your mom.

• A boy at after-school care touched your private body parts while he was helping you with your homework. You’re reporting to your older sister.

• Someone you know who works at your school touched your private body parts while you were in the bathroom. You’re reporting to your teacher.

• Your uncle touched your private body parts while you were swimming together. You’re reporting to your aunt.

• An older student has been giving you candy when you let him touch your private body parts. You’re reporting to the counselor.

Review

The Touching Rule: A person should never touch your private body parts except to keep you healthy. Paying attention to uncomfortable feelings in your body can help you recognize when someone is breaking the Touching Rule.

Recognize is one Way to Stay Safe. What are the other two Ways to Stay Safe that tell you what to do next? (Refuse. Report.) What can you say to refuse the touch? (Stop. Don’t touch me.) And who can you report to that someone broke the Touching Rule? (Adult. Mom. Teacher.) What can you say? (I need to report a broken Touching Rule.) Refusing and reporting when someone has broken the Touching Rule can help keep you safe.