I can show kindness by connecting with other people's feelings.

I can work Cooperatively with others to help each other create a story from an image. 

Lesson 1: Safe Side Stranger Safety

I can identify safe and unsafe situations.

I know what a Safe Side Adult is.

I know what a Safe Side Circle is.

Let's Practice!

Now you’ll practice using the Always Ask First Rule. You’ll say;

1. Who you need to ask.

2. Be assertive. Stand up straight, face the person you’re telling, and use a strong, respectful voice.

Scenarios

Pretend this is...

• Your bigger cousin asking you to drink from a bottle he found in his dad’s cupboard

• Your neighbor offering you some cookies

• A bigger student at school wanting to show you pictures on his phone

• A man offering you a toy at the park

• Your soccer coach inviting you to stay after practice for extra coaching

• You big brother’s friend asking you to play a game on his computer

Lesson 3: Safe and Unsafe Touches

• Identify safe and unsafe touches

• Refuse unsafe touches assertively in response to scenarios

• Refuse unwanted touches assertively in response to scenarios

Let's Practice!

Unsafe Touch Scenarios

Pretend this is...

• Your older cousin, who just sat down on top of you

• A student in your class, who is hitting you over the head with a book

• An older kid, who is tagging you hard on the playground

• Your mom, who is mad at you and shaking you by your arm

• Your neighbor, who is pinching your cheeks

• Your brother, who is holding onto you so tight it hurts

Unwanted Touch Scenarios

Pretend this is...

• Your aunt, who wants to kiss you, but you don’t want to be kissed

• A student, who has hooked arms with you while you’re waiting in line, but you don’t like it

• Your big brother, who wants to rub your back, but you don’t want him to

• Your teacher, who is patting your head, but you want him to stop

• Your after-school caregiver, who just started hugging you, but you don’t want her to

Story and Discussion

Here’s a story about what to do when someone breaks the Touching Rule

This is Deisha. Yesterday, Deisha’s mom’s friend was visiting. While Deisha’s mom was at the store picking up dinner, the friend offered to read Deisha a story. But while Deisha was sitting on his lap, he started touching her private body parts through her shirt.

1. Is it okay for the friend to touch Deisha’s private body parts? (No.) Deisha remembered the Touching Rule that she learned at school. She recognized that someone touching her private body parts is not okay. Recognize is one of the Ways to Stay Safe.

2. Point to the Ways to Stay Safe Poster. Think about which Way to Stay Safe Deisha could do next. Give think-time. Call on a few students at random. After each answer, have students put their thumbs up if they agree. (Refuse the touch. Report the touch.)

Deisha got off of her mom’s friend’s lap and moved away. She told him in a strong, respectful voice: “Stop. Don’t touch me.” The friend went onto the balcony, and Deisha went into the bathroom.

3. Who can Deisha tell about the broken Touching Rule? (Mom. Her older brother. A teacher.) Deisha wants to tell someone. She doesn’t want that touch to happen again. But she’s nervous about telling her mom. Deisha decides to tell her big brother first.

Now Deisha is reporting to her big brother about how their mom’s friend broke the Touching Rule. Deisha’s brother says, “You’re right. It’s not okay for him to touch your private body parts. I’m glad you told me. You know it’s not your fault he touched you.” Deisha’s brother helps her report to their mom once she gets home from the store that the friend broke the Touching Rule. 

Skill Practice

1. Read the scenario.

2. Point to your temple and say: Recognize: Does this break the Touching Rule? (Yes.)

3. Let’s say the rule together: A bigger person should never touch your private body parts except to keep you healthy.

4. Hold up your hand in a stop signal and say: Refuse: Say words that mean no. What could you say? Call on a few students at random to stand, face the empty chair, and say words that mean no. (Stop. Don’t touch me. That breaks the Touching Rule.) Have other students clap two times if they had the same idea.

5. Reinforce assertiveness skills you observe with specific feedback: I noticed you standing up tall and using a strong, respectful voice.

6. Cup your hands around your mouth and say: Report: Tell an adult. What can you say? Say together with students: I need to report a broken Touching Rule.

Pretend this is...

• Your uncle, who is touching your private body parts while you’re getting dressed for school

• Your neighbor’s older son, who is inviting you to play a game about touching private body parts

• Someone you know who works at your school, who is touching your bottom through your pants after helping you zip up your coat

• Your bigger cousin, who is touching your private body parts while you’re sitting on the couch watching a video

• Your grandpa, who is touching your private body parts while you’re playing a tickling game

Review

1. Let’s say it together: A person should never touch your private body parts except to keep you healthy. And you should never touch someone else’s private body parts. 

2. Who is an example of a person who might touch your private body parts to keep you healthy? (A doctor. Mom.)

3. If you recognize that someone has broken the Touching Rule, what should you do? (Refuse. Report.) What can you say to refuse the touch? (Stop. Don’t touch me.)

4. And what can you say to report the broken Touching Rule? (I need to report a broken Touching Rule.)

Refusing and reporting when someone has broken the Touching Rule can help make sure the touching stops. And remember, it’s never your fault if someone breaks the Touching Rule.