Self-care PraCtices
Anxiety
The Little Things | Longer Term Practices | Self-Compassion & Inner Critic | Unplugging | Anxiety | Emotions | Health & Nutrition
The Little Things | Longer Term Practices | Self-Compassion & Inner Critic | Unplugging | Anxiety | Emotions | Health & Nutrition
‘This is not you. This is something moving through you.
It can leave out of the same door it came in.’
Cleo Ware
Anxiety is normal… As humans we have used it for thousands and thousands of years to help us survive. That said, it still feels horrendous to experience.
What can help is understanding the process of anxiety, why it happens and how it impacts our bodies and sensations.
Imagine you are crossing a road and an idiot in a souped-up Saab is driving too fast and doesn’t see you. You jump out of the way. Anxiety is what helped you jump.
Car approaching Your senses notice a threat – you see and hear the car.
Jumping out the way Your body takes action. This could be fight, flight or freeze.
What the body is doing
The eyes and ears call 999 to pass information to the brain – there’s an emergency and it needs a boost of energy to tackle it!
The brain then sends an email to the adrenal glands who are chilling out on the top of the kidney.
The adrenals are kicked into action and send an immediate delivery of adrenalin (via the blood stream) to organs such as the heart, lungs and muscles, which are needed to deal with this emergency.
The adrenals also delivers some cortisol to the brain, which shuts down the admin team in the pre-frontal cortex (who make all the rational decisions) and give the SWAT team, who are poised for action in the brain’s limbic system, the green light. Once the threat has passed or been dealt with the SWAT team go back onto standby and the admin team come back online.
This makes sense if you consider the car analogy - if you spent time thinking about getting out the way of a car, you'd probably be too late! That's why the SWAT team, who make quick direct action are needed and the admin team who might need to organise a meeting to discuss the event are not!
These deliveries of adrenalin and cortisol cause physical and sensory shifts in some of the following ways:
This is all amazing when we need to react quickly to an actual threat, not so great when the threat is less obvious!
When there is nothing to fight...
And there is no way to run...
Or our body freezes...
We are left with the uncomfortable sensations and feelings that the threat/stress response has caused.
Also, because the adrenaline has not been put into action and released, it takes longer for the sensations to disappear.
We then tend to shame ourselves for experiencing these sensations!
Or feel frightened by them.
Which in turn, causes more fear...
making us feel anxious...
which can re-trigger the threat response... It's an annoying catch-22.
Things that can help in the moment
Don’t stress about what caused your senses to perceive ‘threat’. Later, when you are regulated, you can come back and investigate.
It is useful to note for yourself things that can cause your anxiety but, in the moment, just know your SWAT team is running the show and the admin team will not be up and running for a while.
Understanding your body’s response, however messy it feels, it’s a protective response. Know that your body is trying to support you and protect you.
Imagine someone has jumped in front of a bullet for you. You wouldn’t yell at them for their response, if there was no bullet, you would thank them for their help and reassure them that there was no bullet. We kind of need to do the same! Don’t feel the immediate need to try and fix it - befriend, be curious and name what it is ‘a stress response’ and know your body is trying to support you.
Know it will not kill you - though the sensations may cause you to feel this way.
Can you get some fresh air?
Bring your attention to your breath. Take a few deep breaths.
If you are surrounded by people, can you remove yourself and take a moment to get some space/air either by yourself or with a trusted friend.
Find a space to sit on the floor with your back against a wall. This can help ground you and give the sensation of support.
Hugging a pillow or something weighted can help you feel calm.
For some people distraction helps, for others this can make things worse and the avoidance and need to ignore the sensations heightens them. If this is the case for you this video may help with suggestions {add video}
Humming – might sound strange but in terms of regulation - it activates the vagus nerve which counteracts the stress response. When you hum, your vocal muscles create soothing vibrations that travel down your throat and chest and trigger a relaxation response.
Things that can help in the long-term
Work on regular regulating practices (see regulation)
Nutrition
Vitamin D Making sure you are getting enough sunshine.
Magnesium Can improve sleep, help calm nervous system and improve mood.
Vitamin B6 (supports your adrenal glands) Chickpeas, bananas, soya beans, milk B12 – is essential for nerve tissue health and brain function.
Probiotics Studies have shown that the bacteria in your gut can impact your mood.
Restricting Caffeine/Sugar – (see nutrition)