Mental Wellness for Your Child

2020 has been a highly stressful year for the majority of us; including our children. Children experience difficult emotions like us but their reactions are often different from ours due to their developmental level.

Stress - We are our child's security blanket and they are unconsciously watching our emotions. If we are stressed, angry or frustrated they will react. Projecting a sense of security around your child even in difficult times can help them maintain emotional regulation.

Resiliency - Countless studies show that resiliency is a key strength of a child. Don't be afraid to explain difficult situations to your child if you feel comfortable. They have questions and look to you for answers. Again, you are their security.

Empathy (the art of understanding others situation) - Teaching or modelling (showing) empathy helps a child develop self-worth, emotional regulation and perform better academically. Being considerate of others and showing kindness is good us as well as everyone else.

Pressure - Childhood has become less carefree there is no getting around it. Teaching and modelling how to deal with pressure is an important life skill that will set your child up for life. Simple things such as taking regular breaks; focusing on tasks completed not tasks to do; celebrating completed tasks and not over-extending all add up to a big difference.

Multi-tasking - The art of doing 20 things badly all at once. One study showed that those that think they were actually more efficient multi-tasking were actually not. Our brains don't actually multi-task but rather rapidly switch back and forth using up glucose every time we switch. This creates the feeling of tiredness and the desire to snack on high sugar foods. Teach single-tasking through encouragement and modelling. It will teach a child to be calm, complete tasks and focus.

Electronics - They have become an essential tool these days. Use them responsibly by not using them an hour before bed or have them on in the bedroom as the blue light they emit stops the brain from sleeping. Model not being on a device when engaging with a child if you want the child to not follow the example when they get a phone.

Self Care - This is essential when managing stressful times. Finding something to do for both you and your child that you can enjoy and look forward to regularly. Keep the routine and check in with yourself about when you need to take that time. Modelling this will teach your child great stress management skills and provide that routine and security they need from you.

Mindfulness - One of the simplest ways to reduce stress for everyone including your child. Model and teach this by stopping and focusing on the present even for a few seconds. Future concerns and past worries will always be there. Put them aside for a minute and focus on the right now. How is your breathing, are muscles tight, what can your senses recognize? Do this regularly.