Grief & Loss

WHAT IS GRIEF?

Grief is an emotion that a person feels when they lose someone or something that was close to them.  Grief can occur from different types of losses, such as: 

Common feelings while experiencing grief are:

STAGES OF GRIEF

2. Anger

3. Bargaining 

4. Depression

5. Acceptance

BOOK NOOK

Before I Leave by Jessixa Bagley (Pre-K to 2)

In this book about moving away from friends, readers meet an anteater who is nervous about moving away. He plays for one last time with his friend, and then realizes that they can still keep in touch! Young readers will relate to the unsure feelings of the anteater.  

I Miss You: A First Look at Death by Pat Thomas (Pre-K to 2)

This book explains death in a way that young readers will understand. It explains what death is, and the ways that it can affect us. This book is an excellent resource for friends/family of someone experiencing the loss of a loved one, to help better understand what that person is going through.  

The Heart and the Bottle by Oliver Jeffers (K to 2) 

After the death of her grandfather, the girl in this book decides to bottle up her heart to keep it safe. Eventually, she realizes that she needs to get her heart back out. With the help of a younger child, she can return her heart to where it belongs. This is an excellent book about not holding in your feelings.  

Houdini Was...by 2nd Grade Students of White Bluff Elementary (Pre-K to 2) 

In this true book, students reflect on the death of their class pet, Houdini. They write that they are choosing to be happy because they had the opportunity to know Houdini and enjoy all of the great things about him.   

 Always Remember by Cece Meng (K to 3)   

After Old Turtle dies, the other sea creatures reflect on their memories of him and realize that he will always be remembered. A great reminder that even if a loved one has died, his or her memory lives on! 

The Remember Balloons by Jessie Oliveras (K to 3) 

The boy in this story loves sharing his memory balloons with his grandpa. Over time, though, his grandpa isn’t able to remember the stories in his balloons. This is a touching story about a boy as his grandpa begins to lose his memory.  

The Memory Box: A Book About Grief by Joanna Rowland (K to 3) 

The main character in this book reflects honestly on the loss of a loved one and moving on without them. This is a great book that children will quickly identify with as they face a new normal.  

 Ida, Always by Caron Levis (K-4) 

Gus’s best friend Ida, becomes very sick and eventually dies. This tender book takes readers through Gus’s journey as his best friend experiences sickness and death. Although Gus is sad, he remembers that Ida will always be with him. 

I Wish I Could Hold Your Hand: A Child's Guide to Grief and Loss 

A best friend has moved away…Dad no longer lives with the family… A favorite relative or pet has died. This warm and comforting book gently helps the grieving child identify his or her feelings—from denial and anger to guilt and sadness—and learn to accept and deal with them. Expressive illustrations help children discover that it is natural to feel the pain of loss, and that they can help themselves feel better by seeking the comfort they need in healthy ways. 

Help Me Say Goodbye: Activities for Helping Kids Cope When a Special Person Dies 

An art therapy and activity book for children coping with death. Sensitive exercises address all the questions children may have during this emotional and troubling crisis. Children are encouraged to express in pictures what they are often incapable of expressing in words. 

Sad Isn't Bad: A Good-Grief Guidebook for Kids Dealing with Loss 

Sad Isn't Bad offers children of all ages a comforting, realistic look at loss--loaded with positive, life-affirming helps for coping with loss as a child. It's a book that promotes honest and healthy grief and growth.

I Feel, Feel, Feel About Losing Someone Special 

I Feel, Feel, Feel About Losing Someone Special addresses the emotional side of life changes for younger children and helps children express their feelings and deal with their emotions. 

The Invisible String 

With over half a million copies sold, this accessible, bestselling picture book phenomenon about the unbreakable connections between loved ones has healed a generation of readers--children and adults alike--and has been updated with new illustrations and an afterword from the author. 

When I Feel Sad 

Readers will recognize similiar experiences in their own lives as this little guinea pig describes feeling sad when someone is cross or when something bad happens. Eventually our heroine realizes that feeling sad doesn't last forever. 

Gentle Willow: A Story for Children About Dying 

Amanda the squirrel is upset that she is going to lose her friend Gentle Willow, but the tree wizards give advice that help both her and Gentle Willow accept the change that comes with death. 

Moon Shadow's Journey 

For the very first time, young Moonshadow is flying south. Grandfather is leading the swans as they travel to a warm place for the winter. But when a terrible storm strikes, not all the swans make it through. Though his heart is heavy, Moonshadow finds the strength to continue the journey. Gillian Lobel's beautifully written tale deals gently with loss and bereavement, while Karin Littlewood's enchanting paintings create a memorable world for young readers. 

When Dinosaurs Die: A Guide to Understanding Death 

Straightforward and compassionate, When Dinosaurs Die explains death, dying, and coping with grief and loss in simple and accessible language for young kids and families. 

The Fall of Freddie the Leaf: A Story of Life for All Ages 

Appropriate for all ages—from toddlers to adults—and featuring beautiful nature photographs throughout, this poignant, thought-provoking story follows Freddie and his companions as their leaves change with the passing seasons and the coming of winter, finally falling to the ground with winter's snow.   

It Must Hurt A lot: A Child's Book About Death 

All children experience loss. It is a part of growing up. When Joshua's puppy is killed by a car accident he learns that some surprises come wrapped in the "package" of loss. We encourage adults to talk about these gifts with children. Sensitive, caring adults are made not born. The book is written for children ages 5 - 11 years. 

Activities

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Experiencing Grief and Loss 

Resources in Fresno County 

Footstep Program for Children and Teens  

Footstep is a program that supports children and teens who have experience a loss or change to due death. Children and teens are placed in a  group are of similar age and loss situations, and meet weekly for a total of six weeks. This program is held every Thursday from 5:30 to 6:20 PM at Saint Agnes Home Health and Hospice.

To sign up for the 6-week program, call (559) 450-5608

Location

St. Agnes Home Health and Hospice

6729 N. Willow Ave., Suite 103

Fresno, Ca