Setting Personal Boundaries

• Identify your physical, emotional, and mental limits. Consider what you can tolerate and accept and what makes you feel uncomfortable or stressed.

• Be aware of your red flags or situations that make you feel discomfort.

• Be direct with people regarding your boundaries.

• Give yourself permission. Boundaries aren’t just a sign of a healthy relationship; they’re a sign of self-respect. So give yourself the permission to set boundaries and work to preserve them.

• Put yourself first.  Putting yourself first also gives you the energy, peace of mind and positive outlook to be more present with others and be there for others.

• Be assertive.  Of course, we know that it’s not enough to create boundaries; we actually have to follow through.

• Start small. Like any new skill, assertively communicating your boundaries takes practice.

Invitation to Brave Space by Micky ScottBey Jones

Together we will create brave space

Because there is no such thing as "safe space"

We exist in the real world

We all carry scars and we have all caused wounds. 

In this space

We seek to turn down the volume of the outside world, 

We amplify voices that flight to be heard elsewhere,

We call each other to more truth and love

We have the right to start somewhere and continue to grow. 

We have the responsibility to examine what we think we know. 

We will not be perfect. 

This space will not be perfect. 

It will not always be what we wish it to be

But It will be our brave space together, 

And We will work in it side by side.