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The Parent Guide to Resilience
The Parent Guide to Resilience
The purpose of this Parent’s Guide is to help you increase resilience in yourself as well as in your children. The definition of resilience and the skills and attributes for developing it will become clear in future chapters. We know you’re busy. Raising a family is no easy task- WhyTry Program
The purpose of this Parent’s Guide is to help you increase resilience in yourself as well as in your children. The definition of resilience and the skills and attributes for developing it will become clear in future chapters. We know you’re busy. Raising a family is no easy task- WhyTry Program
Parenting Teens Through Love and Logic
Parenting Teens Through Love and Logic
Parenting Teens through Love and Logic: Contact Teen Health Connection to receive free parenting classes to assist you in parenting a more effective way and in turn assisting your teen with improved behavioral management.
Parenting Teens through Love and Logic: Contact Teen Health Connection to receive free parenting classes to assist you in parenting a more effective way and in turn assisting your teen with improved behavioral management.
Contact Information: teenhealthconnection@teenhealthconnection.org
Contact Information: teenhealthconnection@teenhealthconnection.org
Talking to Your Teen
Talking to Your Teen
The ChildMind Institute has provided some tips for communicating with your child effectively. Click here for more information
The ChildMind Institute has provided some tips for communicating with your child effectively. Click here for more information
When children are struggling with something, they may want to talk it out. Many times it is helpful to the person to simply talk. They are not always looking for help, advice, or to be told what to do. They just want to be heard. Depending on what the person is going through, they may feel uncomfortable sharing their thoughts and feelings, and this is often due to a fear of being judged, which can make them feel ashamed of their thoughts or feelings. Being judged happens in many different forms, so learning how to listen non-judgmentally can be rather difficult.
When children are struggling with something, they may want to talk it out. Many times it is helpful to the person to simply talk. They are not always looking for help, advice, or to be told what to do. They just want to be heard. Depending on what the person is going through, they may feel uncomfortable sharing their thoughts and feelings, and this is often due to a fear of being judged, which can make them feel ashamed of their thoughts or feelings. Being judged happens in many different forms, so learning how to listen non-judgmentally can be rather difficult.
Things to AVOID!
Things to AVOID!
The following is a list of behaviors, actions, and words that can make a person feel ashamed of their thoughts or feelings, and may make it difficult for the person to freely share what they are thinking or feeling.
Saying, “Why?” Especially when said as, “Why did you…”
Many facial expressions or body language, including the following:
fear, anger, sadness, surprise
looking distracted, confused, or frustrated
Taking an exasperated breath
Minimizing events, feelings, or thoughts.
Saying, “That’s not a big deal.” or “Don’t worry about it.”
Saying, “Don’t be sad (or mad, scared, worried, etc.).”
Saying, “So…” or “So what?” or “Who cares?”
Seeming rushed, distracted, or bored
It is important to avoid the above types of judgment when listening to someone. This can be difficult, especially since many of these types of judgment are so common and generally unintentional. However, as these types of judgment begin to diminish, it becomes easier to listen non-judgmentally, making the person feel more comfortable with sharing.
Ways to Listen NON-judgmentally
Ways to Listen NON-judgmentally
First, let the person tell their whole story
Do not interrupt with input, similar stories, or advice
The person does not care at this point. They just want to be heard.
There may come a later time that you can do this.
If the person comes to a natural stopping point and you want more information about something, ask them.
“I heard you say [this], and I was wondering if you could tell me more about that.”
“So, what was that like?” or “How did that make you feel?”
“Oh, tell me more about that.”
Pay attention to the person and their story.
Put everything else aside- phones, computers, tablets, etc.
Say things like, “Go on.” or “Okay”
Use whole-body listening.
Be okay with silence.
Sometimes, the person needs to think before speaking again.
Other times, the person may just need a moment of quiet before moving on.
It is important to allow for this silence.
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