BE SAFE • BE RESPECTFUL • BE RESPONSIBLE • BE KIND • BELONG
“How we use our voice determines the quality of our relationships, who we are in the world, and what the world can be and might become.” - Harriet Lerner, The Dance of Connection
Please note there are few subpages to support effective communication.
EMAIL TIPS & PITFALLS
First, as a reminder:
PRINCIPLES & PRACTICES SUMMARY
In support of our health, our children, our spirits, our reputations, and our community:
PRINCIPLE A
Our words and our behavior matters.
PRACTICE #1
We regulate and take responsibility for our behavior & our emotional responses
PRACTICE #2
We avoid speaking about others and we don't listen to gossip
PRINCIPLE B
We are all human beings having human experiences.
PRINCIPLE #3
We choose to be honest & kind with our words and behaviors - always
PRINCIPLE #4
We maintain the dignity of others - especially when there’s a concern
PRINCIPLE C
Honest communication requires we suspend certainty.
PRINCIPLE #5
We check our assumptions & information and are open to other perspectives
PRINCIPLE #6
We assume goodwill in others- especially when they are imperfect
PRINCIPLE D
Positive results require solution-oriented engagement.
PRINCIPLE #7
We seek solutions - we may attack problems, but not each other
PRINCIPLE #8
We 'go to the source' of our concern - privately and respectfully
Would you like an extra 3 hours a week?
A Harvard Business Review article shares a statistic that professional adults waste about 27 minutes a day checking (not answering or composing messages - just checking) our inboxes.
27 minutes a day accumulates to over THREE HOURS a week. No one can afford that.
The same email confirms that “email isn’t the best way to communicate about … well, most things.” In fairness, the author admits that email can be a great way to to share uncomplicated information (unlikely to require clarification or follow-up) that multiple people can/should receive at the same time.
Science blames egocentric overconfidence, but we all know why email is tricky. While most of us think we are more effective electronic communicators than we actually are: tone, words, intentions are easily misinterpreted costing us even more time in clarifying breakdowns in communication.
Let’s work toward limiting email and improving our communication, our relationships, and enjoy an extra three hours a week.
Let’s work together toward limiting email to improve communication, support relationships, & enjoy an extra 3 hours a week!
Email (& General Communication) Etiquette Reminders
Response Time: Do not expect responses immediately or outside of work hours.
Time-Sensitive Messages: Understand that teachers generally cannot check email while they are teaching and that time-sensitive information should be delivered by phone call to the front office
Including (only) the Most Appropriate People: If you include several people, a response may be less likely (because people assume someone else might respond).
Using the Best Tool: Make sure you're using the best tool. In the case of a concern, make sure email is the best tool. If an email is necessary, it is generally best to address the concern as suggested below in the 'Who Should I Contact?' section.
Address People Professionally. Do not assume that a parent, a teacher, or any employee is comfortable being addressed by their first name until they have indicated so.
Confidentiality: Understand that confidentiality often limits information that can be shared, including most details about another student and/or any disciplinary responses for their behavior.
Other Students: Use great caution in using the name of other children. Parents may need to share names from time to time, but school staff cannot talk about a child with another parent.
Stay Open: Before drawing conclusions, be open to learning more.
Engage Cooperatively: Even critical feedback should be delivered in a manner that supports improvement.
Be Respectful: Positive, timely responses are generally more common when a concern is shared respectfully
Most Importantly, Remember: Parents & educators love children. Parenting and educating are both difficult and imperfect endeavors.
References & Works Cited
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Websites:
National School Public Relations Association, https://www.nspra.org
#SocialSchool4EDU · Training for K12 School Social Media Managers, https://socialschool4edu.com/
Respectful Communication Tip Sheet, https://www.eapcounselling.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/Respectful-Communication-Tip-Sheet.pdf
“Communications.” Glastonbury Public Schools, https://www.glastonburyus.org/district-info/communications
Articles:
Can Confirmation Bias Be Overcome? Proven Strategies To Try.” LinkedIn, 13 April 2023, https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/7-can-confirmation-bias-overcome-proven-strategies-try-k-c-barr
Ellis, Colin D. “Stop. Does That Message Really Need to Be an Email?” Harvard Business Review, 30 March 2021, https://hbr.org/2021/03/stop-does-that-message-really-need-to-be-an-email
Emanuele, Galen. “Assuming Positive Intent — Galen Emanuele | Team Culture & Leadership Keynotes.” Galen Emanuele, 8 March 2022, https://galenemanuele.com/blog/assuming-positive-intent
Emanuele, Galen. “*How To Shut Down Gossip — Galen Emanuele | Team Culture & Leadership Keynotes.” Galen Emanuele, 31 May 2022, https://galenemanuele.com/blog/shut-down-gossip *(title modified for language)
Epley, Nicholas. “(PDF) Egocentrism over e-mail: Can we communicate as well as we think?” ResearchGate, https://www.researchgate.net/publication/7378566_Egocentrism_over_e-mail_Can_we_communicate_as_well_as_we_think
“Must Read Tips for Emailing Your Child's Teacher.” Hello Sensible, 13 April 2023, https://hellosensible.com/tips-emailing-childs-teacher/
Rudolph, Kelly. “Positive Women - Take Responsibility For The Energy You Bring Into This Space.” Positive Women Blog, https://positivewomenblog.com/positive-women-take-responsibility-for-the-energy-you-bring-into-this-space/
Books:
Abrams, Jennifer. “Stretching Your Learning Edges: Growing (Up) At Work.” Amazon.com, https://www.amazon.com/Stretching-Your-Learning-Edges-Growing/dp/0998177032
Burokas, Nina. “Conflict Within Teams | Principles of Management.” Lumen Learning, https://courses.lumenlearning.com/wm-principlesofmanagement/chapter/reading-conflict-within-teams/
Safir, Shane. “The Listening Leader: Creating the Conditions for Equitable School Transformation.” Amazon, https://www.amazon.com/Listening-Leader-Conditions-Equitable-Transformation/dp/111918634X/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1Z1KNXHTOYJ5U&keywords=The+Listening+Leader+Shane+Safir&qid=1690726415&s=books&sprefix=the+listening+leader+shane+safir+%2Cstripbooks%2C185&sr=1-1
“Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well.” Amazon.com, https://www.amazon.com/Thanks-Feedback-Science-Receiving-Well/dp/0143127136/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
Tschannen, Megan. “Trust Matters: Leadership for Successful Schools (The Leadership & Learning Center).” Amazon, https://www.amazon.com/Trust-Matters-Leadership-Successful-Learning-ebook/dp/B00L0FGFN0