There are several critical periods in development in which children start to learn more social-emotional skills, which form the foundation of their ability to self-regulate and empathize with others. At younger ages, children are building their self-regulation skills that then advance into more and more socially complex relationships as their brain matures.
The first critical period is around 3-4 years old and through Kindergarten. The prefrontal cortex matures, allowing children to begin to focus their attention, stop to think before they act, and switch perspectives and tasks. Children around this age begin to self-talk as a way to self-soothe and learn to share and cooperate with others. As children get older in their elementary school years, interactions with their peers and the ability to form more complex relationships becomes increasingly important.
The desire for independence and the formation of self-identity in relationship to peer bonds becomes more evidence in middle school and high school years. This is the age when a person is particularly impressionable to cultural influences and peer attitudes, as well as the earliest onset for substance use disorders and mental health illnesses that have the potential to persist across the lifespan.
One method of implementing SEL at your school is to choose among existing, evidence based programs that have been designed and practiced. Evidence based programs have been studied and proven effective at improving different aspects of emotional intelligence skills. The best approach is to bring key stakeholders together that have been established as an SEL team and then, together, decide which aspects of SEL curriculum is best to focus on in relation to your school.
Use the following to visit CASEL's website and learn what questions an SEL team might collaboratively discuss in choosing the right SEL curriculum for your school:
https://schoolguide.casel.org/resource/selecting-an-evidence-based-program/
As you present different evidence based program options to your SEL team, you may decide that the best approach to SEL at your school is to take aspects of existing curriculums and adopt them to the particular needs of your unique student body. Not every SEL curriculum emphasizes the same values, teaching methods, and social-emotional skills. The following document by the Wallace Foundation provides a comprehensive analysis of SEL evidence based programs and compares what measurable outcomes they target:
Critical period in preschool and elementary school aged children: https://wallacefoundation.org/sites/default/files/2023-08/navigating-social-and-emotional-learning-from-the-inside-out-2ed.pdf
Critical period in teenagers: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S014976341830160X?dgcid=api_sd_search-api-endpoint