As middle school counselors, we notice that certain problems or issues tend to reoccur more frequently than others. Because of this, we have developed a series of tips that we offer both to students and parents that we hope will help you resolve some of these problems together. Middle School students typically want to do things on their own, but they also need guidance from the adults in their lives. Here are some suggested strategies for a few common middle school issues.
Anger Management Does your child have difficulty managing angry feelings? Does he/she frequently become disrespectful when angry?
Suggest any of the following strategies to your child. Every child is different, so the key is finding the strategies that work for your child.
Recognize that anger can be controlled. We all get angry but we need to be careful what we do with that anger.
Think about what triggers your anger so you can be prepared.
Learn to recognize symptoms of anger in your body, like clenched fists, tense jaw, red/hot face, etc.
Use good self-talk—say things to yourself to help you calm down.
Talk with a trusted adult about your feelings. Just talking about the situation can help you calm down.
Channel your anger into constructive action. Think of ways to address the situation without being disrespectful or violent.
When you are calm, talk with the person who made you angry. Be kind but assertive.
Use stress management techniques like counting to ten, using deep breathing, going for a walk, etc.
Always feel free to ask your child’s teachers, principals or school counselors for additional suggestions!