Parents

Parents, please watch this short video with your family prior to the first competition of the season. I encourage you to share this with all of you family including grandparents and older siblings if they plan on being a spectator at our matches and tournaments. We all want the same thing for our student-athletes so it is imperative that we practice positive strategies that will contribute to their success on and off the mat.

PARENTS HANDBOOK

How do I discuss a concern with the coach? The first step in voicing any concerns should be for the student-athlete to communicate directly with coach. If that doesn’t resolve the issue the parent may contact the coach.

Please reach out to Coach Perry via email at christopher.perry@wcsdny.org. Emails will be returned within 24 hours.

Please use the “24-Hour Rule” - wait to discuss a situation with a coach until 24 hours after the contest.

Please do not approach the coaches for a conversation before, during or after any practices or contests. The coaches have responsibilities to the entire team at these times. Further, emotions can be high for all involved and that might not lend itself to productive discussion.

If we need to set up a further time to talk by phone or in-person we can do so. Please be aware that this meeting will also involve the student-athlete, barring any exceptional circumstances. It’s vital for us to ensure that our student-athletes, parents and coaches are all on the same page and to let our student-athletes know that their input is important.

We always welcome you to say "Hello" and encourage you to do so when we see you, just please leave all other matters for emails and scheduled appointments.

What concerns are appropriate to discuss with the coaching staff?

•Treatment of your child.

• Ways to help your child improve.

• Concerns about your child’s behavior.

It may be difficult to accept that your child is not playing as much as you expect. Coaches are professionals. They make decisions based on what they believe to be the best for the team and for all student-athletes involved. As stated above, certain things can be and should be discussed with your child’s coach. Other concerns must be left to the discretion of the coach.

What concerns are inappropriate concerns to discuss with coaches?

• Playing time, positions and line-ups

• Team strategy.

• Play selection.

• Other student-athletes.

We are their role models!

The critical factor in determining whether your child has a positive experience is the quality of their adult leaders – their parent and coach.

During matches and tournaments, please leave the COACHING to the COACHES. When parents/sibling are “acting as coaches” from the stands it confuses the wrestler and puts them in a bad place to decide who they should listen to. This negatively impacts the development of you son and our program.

Please leave the OFFICIATING to the OFFICIALS. We teach our wrestlers to respect authority and refrain from BLAMING officials and COMPLAINING about calls. Please represent our team and school the RIGHT way during matches and tournaments.

Parent-Coach relationship

Both parenting and coaching are extremely difficult roles. By establishing an understanding of each role, we are better able to accept the actions of each other and provide a greater benefit to our children. Parents, when your child becomes involved in our program, you have the right to understand what expectations will be placed on your child. This begins with clear communications from the coach of your program.

Communications to expect from your child’s coach

• Philosophy of the coach.

• Expectations the coach has for your child as well as all the players.

• Team requirements, special equipment, strength and conditioning programs.

• Procedure if your child is injured during participation.

• Game/practice schedule and updates.

• Team rules, guidelines and consequences for infractions.

• Team selection process.

Communications coaches expect from athletes/parents

• Any concerns expressed DIRECTLY to the coach.

• Advance notification of any schedule conflicts.

• Advanced notification of illness or injury – when possible.

As your child becomes involved in our program, it is our hope that he or she will experience some of the most rewarding moments of his or her life. It is important to understand that there also may be times when things do not go the way you or your child wishes. At these times, discussion with the coach is strongly encouraged.

Booster Club

Our Program relies heavily on your help through donations and the time you volunteer to the Ketcham Mat Wars tournament. Without your support we would not be able to provide this opportunity to our student-athletes.

President: Kathy Wilson

Cell: 845-797-1284

Email: sixwillies@gmail.com

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