Developing Positive Self-Identity

Description:

Self Identity is the recognition of one's potential and qualities as an individual, especially in relation to social context. For example, the statement, “I am lazy” is a self-assessment that contributes to the self-concept. In contrast, the statement “I am tired” would not normally be considered part of someone’s self-concept, since being tired is a temporary state.

Why is this important?

When kids feel good about themselves, they are willing to take more risks academically and socially. For gifted kids, this is particularly important because if they don’t take risks academically, they tend to feel bored and dissatisfied. And socially, they will not make or keep as many quality friendships.

Tips/Suggestions

Although many high ability kids struggle with low self-concept, simple strategies exist that parents can use to increase self-esteem and improve the likelihood the child will have the confidence he/she needs to succeed socially and at school. Helping children recognize their own true value and how to develop skills will go a long way toward raising children with enough self-esteem to feel good about their place in their schools, their families and their social networks. They will take appropriate risks, and they will be able to enjoy the benefits of an effective self-concept. The strategies to make this happen are simple and straightforward, yet their effect can last a lifetime.

DO:

• Teach kids to serve others
• Help kids recognize their accomplishments and contributions
• Find the light at the end of the tunnel
• Assist kids in finding friends
• Encourage kids to take care of pets

DON’T:

• Praise inappropriately
• Let kids believe that everything is easy
• Overshadow their intuition
• Throw away success symbols
• Dismiss the value of a message