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23 Tips To Make A Man Fall In Love With You Quickly
How to make him fall in love with you
Maybe there is a man in your area who likes you or maybe a little more than that… Exactly, you are in love.
But there is only one small thing:
You're not sure if he likes you.
Or…
You know for sure that he is not in love with you.
And this is by far the most frequently asked question I get from women. They ask, "how to make a man fall in love".
They prefer to hear a magical solution to make a man fall in love who works anytime, anywhere within minutes. In this article I'll give you 23 tips to make a man fall in love with you.
They may not all be equally neat, but they do work.
Tip 1: Undertake as many adventures as possible together
Happy just married couple jumping What I mean by this:
Try to do as many different activities with him in as many different locations as possible.
This creates the illusion that you have known each other for longer, for example:
Exercise together.
Have a drink in town.
On an adventure to the zoo.
Make sure you have as many different memories together as possible, not only will he feel like he knows you longer, but it will also make him like you much more.
After all, you are the one with whom he experiences all those crazy adventures, which will make him long for more.
Bonus tip: If you really want to give him that butterfly-in-the-stomach feeling, then undertake an activity together that releases a lot of adrenaline.
Research shows that this drastically strengthens the mutual connection. For example, go bungee jumping once, even playing a game of twister already works wonders. Left foot on… green.
Tip 2: Make him think the relationship is his idea
So you've been dating for a while and you think it's time for the next step? While this may be tempting to tell him this directly...
Do not do it.
You can give him a few subtle hints, but above all, give him time.
A man wants to think that a relationship was his idea, typically such a (stupid) men trait that you cannot blame him.
Don't put pressure on him
Even if you recognize several signs that tell you that he is in love with you .
When he feels like you're trying to force a relationship, he'll think you're desperate, or bad things.
So give him space and time, especially in the initial phase.
If it feels to him that the relationship was his idea, he will not let you go quickly, this prevents him from saying he wants to slow down .
Tip 3: Make eye contact
Eye contact I keep finding it funny, the impact of eye contact is and still remains underestimated. It is simply a great way to induce (sexual) tension in a man.
You can literally seduce him through eye contact without saying a word to him.
Ever heard of the movie Twilight ?
This film clearly shows what eye contact can do to two people, so you can see that an incredible amount of tension is built up between Edward and Bella. If you don't know the film, here is a small impression:
As you can see, eye contact plays an incredibly big role here, so make sure you use it too.
But I have to say that there are a number of do's and don'ts , because of course you don't want to come across as a weirdo to him.
How do you do it in a good way?
In this article are my 5 best tips eye-decorate, will know exactly what you should and should not do.
Tip 4: Why touching men is very smart ( His Secret Obsession)
Touching him is so important that it would just be foolish not to use it. You don't even have to believe my blue eyes:
In 1992 a study was done showing that you are perceived as more attractive, nicer and longer when you touch someone.
Well, you are not supposed to be pawing (save that for a later date).
No.
I mean touches like:
Fixing his clothes.
Put your hand on his shoulder when he's joking.
Giving him a playful punch when he makes a silly comment.
This is because he will feel more familiar with you when you touch him now and then.
This creates the idea that he has a chance, so you give him the green light to fall in love with you.
Tip 5: Decorate it by not decorating it
How do you do this? Well look, it's just like Fanelli puts it:
“Rather than spending your time trying to lure him in, remember that people who are comfortable with themselves are interesting because they're doing things that make them happy, and that's very attractive.”
-Dr. Joe Fanelli
What we can learn from this is that having a good life will make him find you more attractive. You can apply all the other tips in this article, but if you don't lead a fun and interesting life, he will turn off.
So make sure you have a fun and interesting life, doing the things you've always wanted to do since childhood (but that your mama might have forbidden you).
Not only will it make him find you more attractive, it will simply make your life even more enjoyable. Win win.
Tip 6: Let him invest energy and time in you
This might be a bit tricky because when you are in love you want to see him as often as possible.
Understandable, only there is one problem:
This very quickly gives the impression that you are “easy” . And men - even if he likes you - find that very unattractive.
If you want a man to fall in love with you then you have to let him make an effort for you. Make sure he puts time and energy into you.
This will make him see you more valuable, people just appreciate it more when they have to work hard for something. In addition, men also have the urge to perform, which is important.
Some simple things you can do to get him to invest time and energy in you
Ask him for advice , for example about something that happened at work. Even though you don't really need his advice at all, asking for it will earn you bonus points.
Let him solve a problem in your house , for example let him change a lamp. I don't mean by this that you have to be helpless and weak, but it is nice to have him work for you a little bit.
You also want to prevent him from seeing you as “too easy” . Right, you want to let him make an effort for you. So, for example, if he suggests meeting him on Monday evening at 10:00 PM, say:
“Sorry, I am not that kind of woman. If you want to be with me then at least I want you to put in a little effort. Let's go there and there next Saturday, because that is much more fun. ”
In short. Let him put a lot of time, energy and effort into you.
Tip 7: Share your opinion with him Have no opinion
We talked about it in the previous tip, asking him for advice is a fun way to make him fall in love with you. But this does not mean that you should suddenly start asking for advice about everything.
This is counterproductive.
Men fall for women who occasionally dare to share their opinion, it is not for nothing that one of the biggest turn-offs for men is a woman without an opinion.
So if he asks you:
"What do you feel like?"
Then don't say:
"I do not know…"
… But just say what you feel like at that moment. In other words, don't forget to give your opinion from time to time.
Tip 8: Look handsome
The male brain reacts differently than the female brain to visual stimuli. It turns out that a man's brain responds much more strongly to the display of sexually tinted pictures.
Right, the superficiality of men is confirmed here for the umpteenth time.Now we can do two things:
Complain about the superficiality of men.
Accept it and make smart use of it.
The second option is my personal preference and I am glad you feel the same way.
Looking handsome? Take care of yourself
I really don't mean that you have to starve yourself and loot the clothing stores with your credit card.
What I do mean:
Put on nice clothes.
Spend time on your hygiene.
Take the time to make up.
Spend time in the gym every week.
It doesn't have to be all that extreme, as long as he can see that you are spending time on your appearance and taking good care of yourself in general. This is what men catch when:
"Gosh, she made an effort for me, maybe I have a chance."
If you want to make him fall in love with you, this step is indispensable.
Tip 9: Laugh at his sense of humor (even if he's not funny)
From studies and surveys have shown that women want a man with humor.
Which is funny, because men are looking for a woman who can make them laugh. As if it had to be.
Laughing at his jokes will give him the confirmation that almost every man is looking for, making him think:
"She laughs at my jokes, I knew it, I'm so funny too."
You stroke his ego and impulsively he will feel better about himself, meanwhile he thinks that you are the one who brings this feeling out in him.
For that reason, he will want to see you more often and start to like you more and more.
The funny thing is that this is the same for every man, because every man you meet will make an effort to make you laugh. So take this kind of opportunity to laugh at his jokes.
Tip 10: How to make him happy in bed
You've probably heard that love goes through a man's stomach? Although there is a (small) grain of truth in this, there are a number of things that are much more important than food ...
Sex is one of them.
I don't need to tell you that a good sex life is important for a good relationship. Different with this one.
Well, I'm not saying you have to go to bed with him on the first best night, but if you've been dating for a while, at least make sure the bedroom is good. And not entirely unimportant:
That it stays good.
Being great will make him like you more and stay in a relationship with you longer.
How do you make sure that sex is (and remains) good?
Tip 11: Mirror his movements
You will find this trick in all fields, even the smartest business people use it. There is of course a very good reason for this:
It functions.
We humans are simply attracted to people who are “the same” as us.
Something as simple as mimicking his movements will make him feel more attracted to you. A study shows that it is not only about the movement, but that the timing also plays a role.
Flip examples of him
When he smiles, smile back.
When he puts his hand on his leg, put your hand on your leg.
This will create a lot of attraction without him realizing it. Make sure you leave the masculine movements to him and do not try to imitate them.
Tip 12: Expose yourself to him
It may sound a bit crazy, but this time I mean literally expose yourself to him.
For 40% to be precise. According to a study by Leeds University, this is the right amount of exposure.
(The image opposite shows the correct amount of exposure.)
They found that when a woman showed 40% skin, she was found to be the most attractive.
So when you go on a date and the opportunity allows it, make good use of it.
Tip 13: Have in-depth conversations
Deep conversations, It's true that first dates are often a bit shallow and light-hearted, and there's nothing wrong with that. In the beginning it is simply new and exciting.
... Anyway, you are already a few dates later.
If you want to win him over, it is high time to have some deeper conversations. These conversations cause a deeper connection between the two of you.
For example, an experiment shows that:
In-depth conversations increase the bond of trust and the willingness to enter into a relationship.
Keeping information hidden from each other has the opposite effect.
In other words, through in-depth conversations you create a real connection with him. This connection will cause him to consider you “relationship material” .
"But Tim, what exactly do you mean by in-depth conversations?"
By this I mean talking about things that you don't normally talk about.
For example, say:
“I never actually tell anyone this, but in the past… [describe here an experience from the past]…”
Now it can be a bit scary to tell a personal story, it is always difficult to be vulnerable.
But if you really like him, it might just make him feel a bond he doesn't have with anyone else simply because you're so honest.
Tip 14: Show interest in him
Today, few people really listen to each other.
It seems as if everyone feels an urge to prove themselves to the other.
This translates into:
Men who constantly brag.
Women who talk about themselves in one piece.
With this we only forget one very important thing and there is no one who can describe that better than Dale does:
"You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you."
By showing interest in a man he will automatically show more interest in you, this is such a typical trait that every person has.
So when you meet up with him, make sure you actively listen and ask questions. This will make him like you much more than if you try to convince him of how nice you are.
Tip 15: Don't tell him you like him just yet
Do not do itThere are many women who tell a man directly that they are in love with him - whether after one or 30 days - this remains a bad plan.
Telling him that you are in love with him is depriving him of the chance to fall in love with you.
Because men want to conquer you at the beginning of a relationship and when it is immediately clear that you are in love with him, there is nothing more to conquer.
So keep it to yourself for a while, otherwise you will make it a lot more difficult for yourself than it already is.
Tip: By the way, I wrote an article in which I describe the 7 steps that a man needs to fall in love. Read this article and you will immediately understand why it is not a good idea to tell him that you are in love with him.
Tip 16: Let him think of you from a distance
If you've been dating for a while and have shared a bed, it's time to take the next step.
What's the next step?
Sexting.
If you have no idea what sexting is then I understand. Sexting is the sending of exciting messages. You may be thinking now:
“Phew. Nice and important. ”
I thought so too, until research showed how important sexting really is.
"Sexting makes a positive contribution to a healthy relationship"
Not surprising that 88% indicated during a survey that they had used sexting at some point.
All in all, enough reason to make use of this too.
Now you may be wondering how best to send such an exciting message? Fair is fair, this is simply more difficult than you might initially think.
Tip 17: Play with his jealousy a little bit
Make him jealousFrom a biological point of view, men are not very inclined to enter into a relationship with someone.
Simply because they didn't need the protection of a woman in the past.
The other way around is of course the same story, but that aside.
However, there is one thing that makes all men want to “own” a woman . Owning might sound a bit bad, but that's how it truly feels to us.
What that thing is? Jealousy.
Jealousy makes him feel like he has to fight for you
And even though men don't like to admit it, this “I-have-to-fight-for-her” feeling creates a lot of attraction.
In one fell swoop he will realize how nice you really are.
He now runs the “risk” of losing you, and he doesn't want that.
When he realizes this, he will automatically like you more and try harder for you.
But don't try to make him TOO jealous. What you can do, for example, is this:
Upload "accidentally" a photo with another man on your Facebook.
Where possible, in a conversation, say, "I was having a drink with ... (name) ... and he told me ... [which applies to your conversation] ..."
So play with this a little bit, but don't overdo it.
Tip 18: Let him know what type of man you like
An attractive man will not settle for a woman who does not know what she wants.
This gives the impression that it is a desperate woman who is satisfied with the first man.
And that is simply far from attractive.In other words, let him know what type of man you like.
Even though that description is very similar to him, it doesn't matter. Because by letting him what you want in a man he'll think:
“Gosh. She knows exactly what she is looking for in a man. ”
This will make you seem anything but desperate.
Tip 19: Make him fall in love in 36 questions
This may sound a bit crazy, but the psychologist Arthur Aron used these 36 questions in his laboratory to make two people fall in love with each other.
I am aware of how strange this sounds, but there is not a word of it.
Even stranger than it sounds are the results. For me that was reason enough to write about it.
And I did that at the time , you can read it back in this article .
But I must warn you, these 36 questions work terrifyingly well.
Tip 20: Sometimes give a lot of attention and sometimes not
If you've ever dated a guy who one time responds to your message within 10 seconds and the other times doesn't let you hear anything… Then you know what I mean, this causes a lot of confusion and sometimes even a little frustration.
The reason this works so well - and it doesn't matter if you're male or female - is because it's unpredictable.
Because when a person systematically knows what is going to happen, the fun is soon over. That's why watching a movie a second time is much less fun:
It's boring because you know exactly what's going to happen.
Instead of repeating the same movie over and over, you want a new movie, because a movie you don't know yet is much more exciting.
The same goes for a relationship
When every week is the same there will come a day when one of you says:
"I no longer like this ..."
Nobody wants a boring relationship. And you can prevent that by simply providing variation. Sometimes give him a lot of attention and other times not. Be a little distant one moment and not the next.
Well you understand my point, make sure you have variety.
Tip 21: Be a bit mysterious
If you want to make him fall in love with you, it is on the one hand important that he gets to know you well, but on the other hand it is important to remain a little mysterious.
This is because he will then think:
"I don't know what it is about her, there is something mysterious about her."
And men love this, you are simply not predictable. As a result, he wants to learn more about you, because there is still so much about you that he doesn't know ...
So don't tell him your entire life story from day one, but be interested in him instead (tip # 14). Tell a few things about yourself and then talk about him again.
This way he will want to know more about you, this is often the moment when he is falling in love with you.
Tip 22: Flirt with him
You know what I mean:
Give him the sexy look.
Make a subtle ambiguous comment.
Run your fingers through the hair when he says something to you.
Wiggle your upper body a bit when you are talking.
Give him your brightest smile when he says something funny to you.
… And so on.
It's true that men aren't good at picking up subtle signals, but flirting is a whole different story.
Men love these kinds of subtle signals and will keep him thinking about you all the time. He'll long for the next time you see him while his sexual fantasies run wild.
Tip 23: Take care of him a little
Be a little caring towards him, by this I mean:
Dress up his clothes.
Cook for him sometime.
When he wakes up, bring him a cup of coffee in the morning.
Send a message to ask him how his sick grandmother is doing in the hospital.
It may sound a bit strange, but these kind of caring things remind him a bit of his mother.
… Every man has some sort of predisposition to look for a woman who would also be a good mother. Because instinctively men are looking for:
A woman who is sexy (tip # 7).
A woman they have to make an effort for (tip # 5).
A woman who is caring and can take good care of other people.
Making sure you do something caring for him every now and then will make him more likely to see you as “relationship material” .
"Is this all it takes to make a man fall in love with you?"
No.
The above tips are good; applying these tips will drastically increase the chances of him falling in love with you.
Also see - His secret obsession
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