WOMEN ARE KNOWN FOR HOME BUILDING

The Secret Power: Why Your Home Rests on Your Heart

By Pastor Wisdom Ogbe

“A wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.” — Proverbs 14:1

Dear woman, you carry an incredible, divine power. This power is not just to nurture life, but to build homes, raise generations, and sustain peace. The entire strength and character of a family often lies in the heart of the woman.

The question is: How well are you building yours?

Life is busy—careers, parenting, and daily stress demand your energy. But after all that, you return to play your most vital role: the heartbeat of the house.

Let's examine the foundational pillars of your calling as a Home Builder.

🛠️ The Five Pillars of the Home Builder

1. 💗 Woman Spells MOTHER, Not MURDER

Being a mother is more than biology—it’s a commitment to nurture, protect, and sacrifice. Sadly, many homes are destroyed not by external enemies, but by internal forces: attitudes, misconduct, and neglect.

You have a choice: You can mother your home with love, patience, and unwavering care, or you can murder it with anger, disrespect, and unforgiveness. Choose to speak life into your house.

2. 🤝 Woman Spells HELPMATE, Not HEADMATE

Your role is not to rival your husband, but to powerfully complement him. You are called to be a support system, a source of balance, peace, and vision for your family.

Where men may lack patience or organization, a woman's strength shines through. Being a helpmate doesn’t signify weakness; it means you are powerful enough to lead without overpowering, to guide without controlling, and to love without condition.

3. ☮️ Woman Spells COMFORT, Not WAR FRONT

Men crave peace. After a long, stressful day, they do not want to return to a battlefield—they want to come home to comfort, understanding, and love.

Be the safe, sacred place your husband longs for. Greet him with joy, speak with grace, and become his lasting peace.

4. 😊 Woman is Known for JOYFUL SMILES

Your countenance sets the entire atmosphere of the home. Even when things are imperfect, your joy can become the fuel that lifts the entire family. Stay joyful, stay radiant—your light is desperately needed to drive out the darkness of daily stress.

5. 💞 Woman is Known for FORGIVENESS

To build a lasting home, you must be a master of forgiveness. Avoid dragging past issues into present conversations. Let go. Forgiveness is healing—for your soul, for your spouse, and for your home's foundation.

🛑 Choose Purpose Over Passion: The "Love at First Sat" Rule

We often chase what gives us butterflies, but butterflies fade and beauty changes. That is why we must replace "love at first sight" with "Love at First Sat."

Instead of merely falling in love based on emotion, sit down and reason through what you truly need in a lifelong partner.

Be careful what you're falling for:

Fails (Don't Build Here)

Lasts (Build Here)

Sex (It fades)

Character (It anchors)

Beauty (It changes)

Understanding (It connects)

Wealth (It comes and goes)

Faith (It sustains)

Love is not about finding a perfect person, but about loving an imperfect person perfectly. Build your love on purposeful character, not fleeting passion.

🙏 Final Word to the Home Builder

Dear woman, God has given you the greatest power to build. Choose to mother your marriage, be a loyal helpmate, and be a dedicated comforter. Smile, forgive, and love deeply.

May God lead you to your perfect match, and empower you to build a home that stands for generations. Amen.