You Don’t Have to Know Everything Right Now
Growing up means figuring out who you are—what you like, what you believe, who you trust, and how you want to live your life. That includes your feelings about sex, relationships, gender, and attraction. These things can be confusing, and that’s okay.
You’re not supposed to have it all figured out.
It’s normal to:
Be curious or unsure.
Change your mind over time.
Take your time before trying anything.
Feel different from your friends or what you see in the media.
There’s no rush. No one else gets to set your timeline.
Your Worth Isn’t Defined by Sex
Whether you’ve had sex or not, whether you're dating or not—you are already valuable. Your body is yours. Your choices matter.
You are not:
“Behind” if you’ve never had a relationship.
“Bad” if you’ve had sex.
“Weird” if you’re not interested in sex.
“Wrong” for wanting to wait, explore, question, or grow.
You are simply human.
Be Kind to Yourself
Learning about sex and relationships can feel overwhelming sometimes. But you’re doing something important: you're taking time to understand, ask questions, and think things through.
That’s strong. That’s mature. That’s how you take care of yourself.
So be patient. Be kind. Forgive yourself for mistakes. And remember: you don’t have to be perfect—you just have to be true to yourself.
Final Words
Sex is a personal subject, but it’s also a human one. Everyone deserves to learn about it in a way that is honest, respectful, and inclusive.
You’ve made it through this book because you’re curious, smart, and thoughtful. You care about doing things the right way—for yourself and for others. That’s something to be proud of.
Take what you’ve learned. Keep asking questions. Trust your instincts. And know that whoever you become, and however your story unfolds, you are worthy of love, respect, and safety—always.
If you ever want extra help or information, here are some safe places to look:
Planned Parenthood
Scarleteen.com
text HOME or HOLA to 741741
School counselors or trusted adults
You’re not alone. You never have to figure it all out on your own.
Take a moment to show yourself what you have learned.
Thinking Questions:
What are some early warning signs of abuse in a relationship?
Why might it be difficult for someone to leave an abusive relationship?
How can a friend safely support someone who is being abused?
What steps are included in creating a safety plan?
How does education help people avoid unhealthy or abusive relationships?