I now realize that unconditional love means living in a state of acceptance, gratitude, and appreciation for those you love.
You do not expect anything and you are willing to live from the heart. It also means that if you don't like someone's behavior, you don't tolerate your own victim story.
You are your own screenwriter and film director. You have your part in everything instead of blaming, blaming and judging others.
Unconditional love means refusing to grasp, cling to, or project onto someone. You don't have to follow any rules to win your love.
Your love is a gift, like a gift. You give it willingly, just like that.
However, access to his inner circle is completely conditional. When someone can't treat you with the love, food, and respect you deserve, place them in your outer circle with an open, nonjudgmental heart, or remove them from your circle altogether.
If access to your heart, email, phone, and physical presence is on a scale of one to ten, with ten being complete access to your inner circle, those with dozens need what Brenet Brown calls "a bottle full of eggs."
In other words, they must have earned your trust. If the egg jar is half full due to a breach of trust, access needs to be reduced, not necessarily one, but five or six.
They may not be able to call you every day or sleep in your bed or spend Christmas morning with you.
So if someone doesn't treat you with full respect, just restrict access without making up a story. There is no point in becoming an explosive carpet.
It is also not explained. Your heart remains wide open. However, the border was closed. Unconditional love, absolute freedom, conditional access.
So it's not someone else's job to treat you right. It is your duty to treat it properly with appropriate restrictions that restrict access based on whether or not a person is entitled to full access to the inner circle. I finally understand