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Connection
Connection
Those with high scores in the Connection perspective thrive on the emotional or physical responses they receive from other participants in kink scenes. They often speak about kink in relation to others, such as expressing excitement about how someone else responded or what happened with another player or participant. Connection tends to be strongly tied to those who experience emotional associations with kink activities. These emotions could go across a whole spectrum, from extreme humiliation to the euphoria of screaming with desire. Connections-centric kinksters often report feeling strong with their play partners that exceeds the connections they form with vanilla partners, as well as reporting high levels of emotions like excitement, inspiration, and relaxation. The emotional perspective tends to also value close connection to partners, as well as scenes that emphasize such connections. Connection kinksters may also tend to prefer the Roles portion of kink activities, as this places them with a direct relationship to the other members of the scene.
CONNECTION FAQs
CONNECTION FAQs
Q: Do people with high scores in this perspective not have specific kink interests?
Not at all! We do see a somewhat lower correlation between this perspective and the "Toys" perspective, but there are many people with high scores in "Connection" who also express strong preferences for particular scenes, toys, roles, or practices.
Q: Does a kinkster high in "Connection" need more aftercare?
No, this perspective and aftercare needs aren't related. If your partner needs more aftercare, that is something that can be established through communication and negotiation, not the KPI. We highly suggest reading this resource on aftercare.
Q: How does Connection relate to physical stimulation?
This is a very difficult question to answer. On one hand, there is an obvious link between emotional responses and physical stimuli: a car just missing your own when you are driving will doubtless elicit a physical response (heart racing) as well as an emotional one (feeling scared or perhaps angry). On the other hand, physical and emotional responses are not always predictably linked, and many kinkster will report non-traditional responses (the most common being pain/pleasure dualities). For people with high scores in this perspective, the relationship to the other participants is often more important than the particulars of the scene itself, and that is where the emotional stimulation occurs, which may feed into more intense physical feelings.
Q: Should I "use" kink as my emotional outlet?
Honestly, probably not, or at least, it should not be your only coping strategy. In particular, highly emotional participation in kink scenes can increase risk, just as kinking while intoxicated can increase risk. That is different from experiencing an emotional release from a scene, or from the connection with your partner(s) during kink activities. Participants with high scores in this perspective tend to value that emotional release from kink, even if they do not "use" kink as a way to process or handle their non-kink emotions.
Did you have a high score in "Connection"? Click the "Contribute Your Thoughts" above (or click here) to add your thoughts, resources, experience, writings, or artwork to help other users understand the Emotion perspective! We regularly review these forms and integrate them into our other resources. Please let us know your scene name so we can credit your work.
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Play Tips for Emotion Perspective
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Link to Emotion Story
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Non-fiction writing about Emotion in Kink
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Songs for Emotion
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