how to make him want you

- Five simple but powerful words, and if you ingrain them into your relationships, you'll attract more men, and you will be far more powerful in any relationship than you've ever been in the past. And no, this isn't a clickbait. Keep READING. Now, statistically speaking, men are actually more likely to fall in love before a woman. But if you do find yourself wanting a man to fall for you, then don't forget these five words. They're gonna help you unlock a man's heart and make him want you. And I boiled them down to one single word, so they're really easy to remember, and they're really easy to implement into your life. Number one: You. Now, I believe that the definition of a great relationship is when both people put in, they focus their energy on the other person. And I found, throughout my life, and also being a dating coach, that there are basically two different relationship archetypes.

The first one are those types of people who get in a relationship in order to get something. Whether it's get a feeling, they wanna feel love from that person, they wanna get that, or they want to get someone to show off to their friends, or finally just have someone-- get someone who can entertain them. And then, the second archetype are those who want a relationship in order to give something; in order to give their love; in order to give their devotion; in order to give their emotion and their time into the relationship. And if he's giving in the relationship, he's giving his time, his energy, his resources, and putting everything he can into the relationship. And you're doing the same, you're being thoughtful, you're doing everything you can to make his life better. Then, ultimately, the whole becomes so much greater than the sum of two parts. And that really is the definition of a healthy relationship, is when both people focus their energy on the other person, and ultimately both are so much better off for being in that relationship. But keep in mind,

you've been told a lie from fairy tales and movies growing up. When you finally meet a great person, a great partner, or "the one" in your life, it doesn't mean that you finally found your better half, it really just means that you found someone to supplement your already incredible life. And I think a lot of relationship advice out there really caters to the type of people who wanna get lost in a relationship, who are willing to lose their sense of self, who are willing to lose their sense of "I," and as part of Sexy Confidence, I'm such a strong advocate.

It really-- not forgetting who you are and continue to build up who you are as a person, and being willing to stay independent of that person. It doesn't mean that, of course, you don't wanna spend a ton of time with that person, and share yourself wholly to your partner, but at the same time, you really don't want to lose every part of who you are, and just give into that person. Word number four is "Thanks." A recent study by a psychologist at the University of North Carolina, basically found that on days when partners reported feeling more grateful for their significant other's acts of kindness, or the things that they did, they also reported feeling much more connected to that person. And I can speak to this personally, I find that if Jessica and I ever get into a fight, or disagreement, we make sure that not shortly, thereafter-- I know it's cheesy, but we will kind of actually sit, especially before dinner, every once in a while we'll do this and just say, "What are three things that you're grateful for?" And always, if both of us are at least saying one nice thing about the other person, one thing that we're grateful for in our partner, but just gratitude, in general, in life has a way of just kind of washing away all the bull ...all the things that you think you care about, and it really kind of boils down to the most important things in your life. And there's a lot of psychology that goes into this where the moment that you start focusing on the things that are important and the things that really matters to you are the moment that you stop stressing about the things that don't. And the fifth word is "no." "No" is actually one of the strongest words in the dictionary, and I found with a lot of women when they start to fall for a man, or they're really interested in a man, they want to say yes to everything, right? They don't want to, you know, kind of ruffle the feathers, or make him feel like, you know, he's saying something that you disagree with, so you always say, "Yes, yes," and show interest, but actually, the type of woman who really attract men, and kind of pique their interest, are the type of women who are willing to say no, who are willing to call a guy on his bullshit. So, don't be afraid to do that, okay, don't be afraid to say no to a man even if you're attracted to him. Believe it or not, it's an incredible attractive quality, the type of woman who's willing to step up to the plate. And I'm gonna throw in a bonus that you can do that is going to make a man absolutely addicted to you. Here's the word-- (crickets chirping) Listening. Listening is such an important part of falling in love because as we fall in love, and as we really connect with someone on a more deep emotional level, we have a need to be heard, and you have a need to heard as well.