7 ways to make him fall in love with you again

1. Take use of the element of surprise

It's easy to get 'comfortable' when you've been together for a time. Takeaways and a movie on the couch have replaced the spontaneous, exciting dates you used to go on in the beginning of your partnerships. Even in the bedroom, what used to be passionate love-making sagas have dwindled to time-efficient sex a few times a week, and it can feel like you're just going through the motions. You both know exactly what to do to bring each other over the finish line, and you don't even try to add some excitement to the mix.

You need to change things up a little to make a man ache for you. You don't have to go crazy, but a few unexpected little surprises every now and then will keep him on his toes and pleasantly delighted. Every time you organize a surprise date somewhere intriguing, or introduce something new and kinky into the bedroom, he'll begin to anticipate future surprises, renewing his interest in you and the relationship. Because he's always wondering what else you've got up your sleeve, his desire for you will become stronger. Let's face it, we all appreciate being surprised out of the blue now and then.

2. Don't give up on your looks

We've all been there, ladies. You wouldn't dream of having him see you without looking your best at the beginning, but after a year, you can't be bothered to keep up the makeup/waxing/hairstyling/skincare procedures.

It's wonderful to feel at ease around your boyfriend and be free to be yourself, but mixing things up a little now and then can keep him intrigued and yearning for you. He adores you for who you are, but that doesn't mean he wouldn't appreciate it if you tried a little harder now and then.

“In order to identify which females are best equipped to carry on their genes, men's tastes are physiologically hardwired to find signals of youth and health attractive. It may appear absurd and unjust, but men simply cannot help themselves. Men are visual creatures.”

So, if you want to keep your man hurting for you, put on that outfit he likes on you, shake off the cobwebs, and remind him of what drew him in the first place.

3. Touch has a lot of power, so don't undervalue it

Remember how you couldn't take your hands off each other at the start of your relationship? Return to the previous stage. Granted, you may not have as much time, or your intimacy may be limited by children or job, but touching may be quite simple and quick. Do you kiss each other when you welcome or part? Do you offer him a hug at the end of the day when he's had a tough day? Touch is more than simply sex; it's the physical contact that lets him know you care. He won't be able to resist your touch if you become a continuous source of comfort in his life.

So, the next time you're out at a restaurant or pub, don't be afraid to make eye contact with the server or the other guys in your party. You don't have to go as far as flirting, but if another guy makes eye contact with you, he won't be able to resist finding you irresistible. Whether you've been together for a short time or a long time, knowing that you're still a catch for other guys would undoubtedly pique his interest and make him pay more attention to you.

4. Take a stroll down memory lane

How often do you think back to "the good old days"? Do you ever go back and look at photos from the beginning of your relationship? If you haven't yet, now is an excellent time to begin. Reminding your man why he fell in love with you in the first place can bring back all those happy feelings and thrills from when you first started dating. We can get locked in a habit and forget how aroused and happy we felt the first time we fell in love with someone. Use these old memories as a trigger to infuse some new energy into your relationship, and your man will naturally begin to crave you as a result.

5. Some things should remain a mystery

As time passes and you get more at ease with your partner, you may find yourself wanting to tell him everything. You want to tell him everything, from the newest gossip about your pals to a recap of the last series you watched. This may be your method of strengthening your relationship with him and keeping him informed, but for most guys, it can get tedious. That isn't to suggest he isn't interested in what's going on in your life; nevertheless, too much of anything may get irritating after a time, so try to refrain from telling him everything that comes to mind.

“The secret to keeping the romance alive in any relationship is to hold on to mystery. It's what keeps you interested in yourself, and it's also what keeps your spouse interested in you. The element of mystery keeps you thinking about the person you're with and makes you want to learn more about them - to stay with them and study them.”

When you start withholding information, he'll grow more interested. He'll want to know everything about your night out with the gals or your day at work.

6. Let him know you're still appealing to other people

This one necessitates some subtlety and caution. The idea isn't to make your partner feel betrayed or furious, but a little jealousy can go a long way toward making him yearn for you. Other men's attention will remind him that there's still competition out there, and he'll have to keep stepping up to the plate if he wants you to focus completely on him. So, the next time you're out at a restaurant or pub, don't be afraid to make eye contact with the server or the other guys in your party.

You don't have to go as far as flirting, but if another guy makes eye contact with you, he won't be able to resist finding you irresistible. Whether you've been together for a short time or a long time, knowing that you're still a catch for other guys would undoubtedly pique his interest and make him pay more attention to you.

7. Mentally stimulate him

You must also appeal to your partner cognitively and intellectually, as much as he must be physically drawn to you. This doesn't mean you have to go out and learn everything there is to know about his career so you can impress him when he gets home, but you can show interest in the things he enjoys. If you know he admires a particular author or sports team, a little light study will provide you with enough information to add some facts to the conversation. This will astound and surprise your boyfriend, and he'll appreciate the fact that you've invested time in his interests.

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