Importance for homeschooling parents to have balanced relationships
Do you feel your relationship is not what it used to be? Well, disagreements are common with every couple but they have to be handled carefully, especially if you are homeschooling your child. If you are interested in knowing how to see past the fights and make your relationship work, read on...
Constructive confrontations
There are several ways to fruitfully confront a problem with your partner. For instance, look at the cause of the arguments to see what incites you and what restricts your communication. Does your partner make you insecure or jealous? Was it insecurity that compelled you to lash out? Usually the elements that lead to arguments have a lot to do with you and very little to really do with the subject that's being argued.
Choosing hurtful words:
It’s not good to get into worthless detail and absolutes. Angry replies such as "You are always trying to ignore me," might seem true at the moment, but are often exaggerated and will only cause defensive reactions. In case your complaint is genuine, don't humiliate by using an 'always', you’ll only end up making your partner angry.
Sorry
At times, all your partner needs is a sorry, but when it’s not coming, the argument intensifies. Take some time to think about what happened, if you think it’s your fault, say sorry. Also, if your partner is to blame and is sincerely repentant then you should forgive them.
Keeping a grudge
The biggest skill that a couple needs to develop is the ability to let go of a problem. Yet there are several times when some issue or a topic won’t settle, particularly if it wasn’t sorted out at the moment it happened. Normally, issues that are difficult to get way too involve violation of trust. If you're the one keeping a grudge, analyze whether the problem is that important or is it just leading to needless pain. If it’s important, you have to consider what the long-term success of your relationship will be with a problem that keeps two of you at locker-heads.
Being hurtful for no reason:
Long-term couples tend to develop bad habits like, deliberately doing or saying things that will hurt their better half. It's good to ponder over questions such as, will I speak to my parents like that? Just take a moment and think, if you called your friend every nasty adjective you know for being a few minutes late or not noticing your haircut, would that be acceptable to them? Then why should it be to your partner?
Remember, arguing may lead to certain positives outcomes – at times it's the only situation couples speak the truth, bringing about a huge sense of respite after offloading. Making-up offers closure, as it gives an opportunity to reiterate your affection for one another. However, this behavior may get destructive and addictive if it's repeated too often, so be careful if you don’t want things to get uncontrollable. And if you do feel that things are getting a little too much with your partner, seek help. Remember, life is too short and how satisfied you feel in a relationship has a lot to do with how connected you are!