How To Save Your Relationship When It's Falling Apart

Many people can identify with the really challenging concept or situation of, "Our relationship is falling apart and I really want to fix it." So if you are one of these people, welcome to happily committed. This article is written for you, it is written to help you know what to do, and where to go for a delicate relationship you might be facing, how to fix it so that you can stay together so that you can make this work so that you can stay happily committed.

Regaining Self-Control

When it comes to fixing a failing relationship, it's all about regaining self-control. Usually, in a fragile and delicate relationship, we find ourselves having to abandon parts of who we are for the sake of the relationship. Abandoning parts of who we are can look like not hanging out with friends, not doing things that we usually enjoy, not saying or sharing beliefs that might jeopardize our partners’ interest in us.

This crisis forces us to abandon parts of ourselves for the sake of keeping it alive but think about that phrase “Abandoning yourself for the sake of keeping it alive” which means that you're gonna have to abandon one thing to keep it alive and then abandon another thing to keep it alive. Like food, you're feeding it all of the things that you once really really valued just to keep it alive. And then the problem grows and it grows and it grows.

So the only way to regain control over a falling relationship is to stop feeding it your values, stop abandoning parts of who you are, stop abandoning things that you truly love and enjoy and respect so that it can continue living and growing.

Regain Your Self-Esteem

Regain your self-esteem, regain your sense of self, to invest in your personal development. The more connected you are to yourself, the easier it will be to stand strong in this thorny relationship, and toxic relationships - and if you are in a one you can empathize with the fact that - they'll push you, they push every single limit in hopes of breaking through them.

If you regain your self-esteem, you regain your self-control, you regain your sense of self, I then want you to really look at your relationship. Look at this delicate relationship that you're in. Can it survive without you feeding it parts of who you are? Can it survive with you being confident? Can it survive unless you are broken? If the answer is "No, it only works when I'm sad, it only works when I am broken, it only works when I don't hang out with those friends, or go to those places, and when I don't do things that piss off my partner," then I think the real question that this blog should address is, "Do you want to stay in this?"

If you have to become a lesser version of yourself for the sake of making this relationship happy, making your partner happy, then is this partner worth what you lose? Is what you gain worth what you lose? The only thing more painful than leaving a bad relationship is staying in one.

If you're in a bad relationship and you make yourself better and it's still bad, then is it the relationship for you? I cannot answer this question. Only you can answer this question. So instead of making a really rash decision now just spend time marinating on this. Spend time asking yourself, "Ok well, if, in order to eliminate the toxicity in my relationship, I have to regain my self-esteem and regain my sense, sense of self, which then makes the relationship suffer," then is the equation adding up? If the answer is, "No," my recommendation - as painful as it is to say, and maybe as painful as it is to hear - is that you've got to go.

Leave a situation that is bad for you because if you put up with it, it will stay. If you don't set limits for yourself if you don't have boundaries in place to protect yourself, are you doing yourself a service or a disservice? Are you loving yourself or harming yourself by being in this relationship? I know. This writing got very deep very quickly and very tough and dense very quickly. But if you're in a relationship that is about to fall apart, you know the difficulties grow as quickly. A thorny relationship grows so fast that we tend to lose control.

So after reading this blog, spend some time asking yourself, "How am I going to regain this control, and am I able to regain this control while in this relationship?"

I personally relate. I've been in a thorny relationship. It's something that really drove me and motivated me to develop this business, to develop my career path to develop who I am, and the things I've dedicated my life toward ─And I'm here to help. I'm here to help you. I'd love to hear about what it is that's going on. I invite you to please click this link if you want to save your relationship and share with us what you're going through.

Share with us what you feel might be toxic. Share with us whether or not you've tried to elevate your self-esteem, whether or not it's worked, whether or not it hasn't.

The more we know about you, the more we can help, and the more we can guide you on your journey to being happily committed in a relationship, to being happily committed to yourself.