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So many of us will say, “it's been four years, five years seven years, and I just don't feel he's into me anymore”, and so, I wanted to dedicate some time today just to address that really powerful, really important topic of how to make him fall back in love with you again after a long unexpected breakup.
I think the first thing to think about is typically when we're afraid that someone is falling out of love with us. We tend to overdo it, and this isn't may be applicable to all people, but it's applicable to a whole lot of people.
We become needier, we want more reassurance, we seek more validation, we want to know if they're seeing someone else, maybe now we're going through his phone, maybe we're going through his computer.
We're trying to figure out where the love went, and in doing that, we actually push our partners further away so that's step number one be really mindful of how your doubt translates into action.
If you are doubtful now, you might be more insecure, you might be needier, you might lack confidence, you might lack or struggle with your self-esteem, and now we're actually making it easier for him to emotionally disconnect because we're not who we were in the beginning that fun sexy confident vibe that we once presented is now gone, is now dwindling, and so I would be really mindful of that number one if you are reading this article saying that, "is me", "that is totally me", "I am needy", "I'm smothering", "I'm overwhelming", "I can't take the hint", "I can't give this guy a break".
#1 Give Him Space, Give Him Time Now
It's okay if you're not alone, so many people behave just like that, but now that you're aware of it, do something about it maybe that means you give him more space which sounds counter-intuitive because typically when we feel like something is leaving us we want to grab it, we want to clutch it, and keep it close to us that's what sort of our bodies want to do.
It's what our mind wants to do, we don't want to feel rejection, we want to avoid rejection so we hang on to it. We hang on to something that we think is leaving but in doing that as previously mentioned, we worsened the problem, give him space, give him time now.
What are you going to do with that time in that space boost your self-esteem boost your sense of self, your confidence, embrace your independence, your autonomy that can be such a powerful method in re-sparking the attraction, reigniting the spark of attraction, and so now that we've identified that, so many of us transform into more needy partners.
We know what to do about it give him space to embrace, your autonomy, your independence, self-pick-up, new activities that are also a really sexy and attractive way to get him to fall back in love with you. Break out of a monotonous routine, break out of a really rigorous schedule, try something new come home with a new hobby to talk about, come home with a new adventure to mention, or maybe propose an adventure for the both of you to do bring back the excitement into your relationship, and I know it is easier said than done.
Life gets in the way we have jobs, we have dogs, we have kids, we have commitments, we have family members, we have you know poor health in our family, we have stress, we have financial struggles. The list goes on and on and you are absolutely right if you're saying, “I don't have time to be cool or adventurous or spontaneous”.
I empathize with that, so maybe we don't say you are spontaneous, 100 of the time but maybe you're spontaneous 10 of the time maybe you're spontaneous one Sunday, a month, it doesn't mean revolutionizing the way in which you live your life although that would be a dream.
The reality is we have to make this shift suit your life, you have commitments that you can abandon. You have relationships that you can't abandon, and you deserve to nourish and maintain those relationships while getting him to fall back in love with you.
All of this to say go back to the fun in your relationship, be playfully excited, avoid tension and pressure. When we're insecure when we're needy when we seek that validation, and that reassurance. We add a lot of pressure to the pot men tend to handle pressure quite badly and I think what's really important to add is that there are so many things in our lives we can't get rid of, and we can't control.
#2 Create Light In Relationships
I just mentioned some of them to you a minute ago, your job, your family your friends, your commitment your responsibilities the dogs, the kids the schedule. There are so many things that you can't get rid of that, you have to keep up with, but your relationship for many is disposable and that's such an important thing to be mindful of because if you continue inducing pressure on him if you keep adding more tension to his life, and he can't abandon all of those other important things.
Where do you think he will trim the pressure from the relationship? There are so many women who say, “my partner dumps his stress on our relationship” or “whenever he's stressed out we take the toll for it”. We have to deal with the bulk of the burden for that, and that's something that so many of us struggle with, and that's why it's so important that we create light in our relationships. People are attracted to light, they will follow it all by themselves.
You don't have to ask him for validation anymore, he'll give it to you because you're fun and you're light and you're exciting and you're tender so it might be really important for us to zoom out for a second here and say. Am I still being that way in my relationship? Am I light and fun and airy? Am I embracing my autonomy? If the answer is no, so we've just uncovered a really powerful opportunity for you and you can start making those changes right now!
#3 Make A Plan
Right now after reading this blog, right now, pick up your phone text your best friend, and make a plan for Saturday to do something new, hit the gym in a new location, go for a run in a new neighborhood, meet a new friend, join a new group, embrace a new activity, do it now! Do it now! And see how you feel, see what it's like to bring the new conversation to the dinner table. See, if that makes things feel more exciting, more thrilling, and these are really organic ways to make him fall back in love with you.
To make him see the value in the relationship, and realize holy smokes. I absolutely cannot lose this person, and if you're struggling to make these changes, you're also not alone, know if there's one thing, I also just really want to drive home in this blog, is that what you are experiencing is human normal, and if you don't know how to snap out of it, that in itself is also really normal, and very human.
#4 Build Attraction In Your Life
It's all about attraction, build attraction in your life, learn how to be the most attractive version of yourself, your relationship will thrive, because of it I'm confident it will be a great tool, and what I would love to hear from you is whether or not this article resonates whether or not it was helpful.
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