Failure and procrastination are born out of fear. If you remove fear, then it doesn't exist. Failure and procrastination need fear to feed their existence. When something can not stand on its own, but needs something other than itself to exist, it is a figment of our imagination. So what would exist if we lived and acted without fear? Instead of failure or lack of action, we would be participating in a lesson; learn better understanding; grow in who and what we are and what we can do; and receive teachable moments.

If we do not achieve our projected goal, our perspective will evolve. We would no longer view it as a failure. We would no longer procrastinate due to fear of "what if." Instead, we would see opportunity and a gained treasure. We can look to not only move forward but how to do better and what doesn't work for that exact moment. Once you learn something, you can never unlearn it. You can bury it or archive it, but when it needs to be put into use your brain can dust it off and put it back into action. And once you have learned you are forever different. So even if you try as hard as you can, you can do the same thing and never get the same exact results. Because you are different and will respond even at the slightest of change the results have no other choice, but to be the slightest of difference. What you must look at, is do you want to inch your way through life and always be late to abundance. Or do you want to take your world on by leaps and bounds?

We can even find this when we delegate when it is not true delegation. When we delegate to avoid or to hide - it moves into the space of fear and we are not owning our walk. It is still operating out of fear and can be a form of procrastination. If you always delegate, even in what was meant for you (in your personal life), then even your personal is not your victory nor your triumph. It will and does all belong to someone else. You are just a fraud.

There is a saying "Fake it til you make it." That is a meaningful but misguided encouragement. If we fake it then it becomes "like," - a state in which it mimicks what we truly desire it to be. The quote should be "face it til you make it." It is in facing it we allow the evolution, the change, the lesson, the growth - we enter into the state of being, The state of being means it is what it is - there is no mimicking no copying. You are - you will be.

Just because we call someone or something, doesn't make it that. We can use a screwdriver as a wedge, but it doesn't make it a wedge. We can call someone or even treat someone as a spouse, but that does not make them a spouse. A child can be raised to be their parent's significant other, but that doesn't make that child that parent's significant other. In fact, it only confuses and damages that child and that child's future relationships and possibilities. 

There is a difference between being a caregiver of one's parents and crossing boundaries into significant other territory that should never be crossed between a parent and a child. We can call it or things and people something else, while still trying to define and give them responsibilities as something they were never meant nor created to be. There are people who need to change their names because they have been living as people they were never meant to be. We wonder why things and people have an identity crises because of learnt and taught beliefs, behaviors, and expectations that were never meant for them.

We can call something love, but it is not love. It can be infatuation. It can be misguided appreciation. It can be the attempt to have control. But it is still not love.