Stella-Ralph

“When Baba Wants You, He Gets You!”

How Stella and Ralph Hernandez First Met Baba

by Kendra Crossen Burroughs

This is an account of a talk given by Stella and Ralph Hernandez at Meher Center, Myrtle Beach, in May 2007. This much-loved couple could always be found at meetings sitting in the same seats in the Meeting Place; just as Kitty and Jane would always sit in their seats in the front row, so Stella and Ralph always took their seats a couple of rows back. Now it was their turn to sit on the stage.

At the time, Stella was one of the Center Board members (though she hated the meetings!) and a hostess at Baba’s House (Meher Abode) during its hours open for visitors. Ralph worked for many years in the Gateway and as a caretaker. Both regularly conducted tours of the Center for visitors.

Ralph started out telling us how they first learned of Baba through Dana Field, who had attended the 1954 men’s meeting known as the Three Incredible Weeks with Baba in India. Baba had mentioned that He would be coming to the United States in 1956—to Meher Center and other places—and Dana came to St. Petersburg, Florida, to tell people who might be interested in meeting Baba.

Ralph and Stella and their children were living there at that time and had recently become interested in spiritual philosophies. They were meeting in a group with other couples who were mostly reading about Catholic saints; they knew nothing of Indian religions. They had read about “cosmic consciousness” and the teachings of mystics like Joel Goldsmith (whose system is called the Infinite Way), and they had a little inkling of what a master was—“but not much,” Ralph admitted. They didn’t know anything about practices like vegetarianism or celibacy, and here came Dana with his seemingly fanatical ideas about food (his own diet consisted mainly of fruits and nuts) and his reluctance to sit close to a woman. Ralph said they didn’t take him seriously and considered him a bit weird. In later years they would joke that they had come to Baba in spite of Dana, because “when Baba wants you, He gets you!”

Dana came to the group meetings with pamphlets and pictures of Baba, and the first image that Ralph and Stella saw was the Mahabaleshwar photo of May 1954, in which Baba is leaning against a railing against a mountainous backdrop.

Stella picked up the story at the point where they were to meet Baba at the Center. She said that although she had attended the spiritual discussion group, she was so busy raising her children that she didn’t really take it seriously—it was just a pastime. She welcomed the chance to go to the Center because she hadn’t had a vacation in years. With the children being cared for by their grandparents, she figured she’d have a lot of fun in Myrtle Beach. Well, she did—but not the way she expected. “The first time I saw Baba, that was it,” Stella said. Baba came out of the Lagoon Cabin and stood in front of it just as Stella and Ralph came along, and for a few seconds He looked right at her. With that one glance, He stole her heart completely.

Baba proceeded down the steps and over the bridge that crosses the lagoon. Ralph watched in awe at Baba’s physical being—His presence, His aliveness, His eyes, His beauty. All ideas he had formed about masters seemed like mere foolishness, and “we stood there, dumbfounded.” When Baba’s eyes met Ralph’s, “something happened deep inside of me. I got all shook up and couldn’t think.” Not wanting others to see him sobbing, Ralph walked behind the Original Kitchen.

When the people from Florida were called in to meet Baba in the Lagoon Cabin, Ralph saw no one but Baba in the room, although he knows the others must have been there. Baba conveyed in a natural manner such questions as, “Are you happy to see Me?” “Do you want to say something?”

Ralph said, “Baba, when I saw You near the boathouse, You took my breath away.” Baba replied, “I take away very little, and I give the infinite Ocean of Love.”

Stella hardly recalls the details of the meeting; she could only look at Baba. She was confused—“Who is this man? Why do I feel this way?” She hadn’t heard much about Baba or read anything about Him yet, but she felt like a little child who had been taken to the fair.

The Hernandezes met Baba in 1958 as well but concluded their brief reminiscence here. Interestingly, they said that when they returned home and wanted to tell their group about Baba, it had disbanded and they never saw those people again.

Ralph added that they last saw Dana Field not long before he died, when they visited him in a nursing home in California. Ralph chuckled, “And they were feeding him meat!”