Jehovah's Witnesses are among the religious groups that practice extreme shunning of former members. Of all the Watchtower Society's legalistic doctrines, this one is perhaps the most responsible for uprising among former members against the Organization that has resulted in exhaustive examination and exposés of their flawed teachings and history.
Former members who disavow faith in the Watchtower organization's doctrines are branded "apostates." Jehovah's Witnesses are taught that they must hate such ones. An article titled "Search Through Me, O God" appeared in the October 1, 1993 Watchtower. Speaking about "apostates" on page 19, beginning with paragraph 15, we read:
15 Regarding them, the psalmist said: "Do I not hate those who are intensely hating you, O Jehovah, and do I not feel a loathing for those revolting against you? With a complete hatred I do hate them. They have become to me real enemies." (Psalm 139:21, 22) It was because they intensely hated Jehovah that David looked on them with abhorrence. Apostates are included among those who show their hatred of Jehovah by revolting against him. Apostasy is, in reality, a rebellion against Jehovah. Some apostates profess to know and serve God, but they reject teachings or requirements set out in his Word. Others claim to believe the Bible, but they reject Jehovah's organization and actively try to hinder its work. When they deliberately choose such badness after knowing what is right, when the bad becomes so ingrained that it is an inseparable part of their makeup, then a Christian must hate (in the Biblical sense of the word) those who have inseparably attached themselves to the badness. True Christians share Jehovah's feelings toward such apostates; they are not curious about apostate ideas. On the contrary, they "feel a loathing" toward those who have made themselves God's enemies, but they leave it to Jehovah to execute vengeance.--Job 13:16; Romans 12:19; 2 John 9, 10.
An article in The Watchtower, September 15, 1981, on page 29 under the heading "DISFELLOWSHIPED RELATIVES NOT LIVING AT HOME" has this to say (beginning at paragraph 18) "The second situation that we need to consider is that involving a disfellowshiped or disassociated relative who is not in the immediate family circle or living at one's home. Such a person is still related by blood or marriage, and so there may be some limited need to care for necessary family matters. Nonetheless, it is not as if he were living in the same home where contact and conversation could not be avoided. We should keep clearly in mind the Bible's inspired direction: "Quit mixing in company with anyone called a brother that is a fornicator or a greedy person . . . , not even eating with such a man."--1 Cor. 5:11.
See also the reference to this article on page 20 of The Watchtower, November 15, 1988.
The point of this commentary will be to show that the Watchtower Society's shunning doctrine does not adhere to the Bible. Further, an understanding of congregational practices of first-century Christians in the Jewish culture is necessary for a proper understanding of the scriptures on this matter.
The primary scripture for consideration is:
But now I am writing you to quit mixing in company with anyone called a brother that is a fornicator or a greedy person or an idolater or a reviler or a drunkard or an extortioner, not even eating with such a man.--1.Cor. 5:11 (NWT)
The text is clear that a person with whom the congregation should not mix company is one who is:
1) "called a brother" (that is, one who professes to be a member of the congregation); and
2) practicing fornication, greed, idolotry, reviling (insulting), habitual drunkeness, and/or extortion (theft).
Here it is important to learn the customs of association for worship practiced by first-century Jews and Christians, bearing in mind that Jesus and the apostles were Jews. They lived according to the Jewish lifestyle and customs of their day. Jesus taught in the synogogues; hence, he was called "Rabbi." Matt.26:25; 26:49; Mark 9:5; 11:21; 14:25; John 1:38, 49; 3:2, 26; 4:31; 6:25; 9:2; 11:8
There were two kinds of association for religious worship:
1) public meetings, such as at the temple and in synogogues, which anyone was allowed to attend; and
2) private gatherings of the different sects.
Christians and Jews participated in both. Christians, met in private homes, usually over a special meal with prayer. A presiding minister hosted the meal using either fellowship funds or personal funds. (Acts 20:20; see the footnote in older editions of the NWT)
Christians were instructed to "greet" one another with a kiss. (Rom.16:16; 1.Cor.16:20; 2Cor.13:12; Ti.3:15; 1Pet.5:14) When Paul sent his "greetings" in a letter to the Christians in Thessalonica, he requested that the "brothers" be greeted by a "holy kiss" on his behalf. (1Thess.5:26)
It was by this sign that Judas betrayed Jesus. (Luke 22:47,48)
Clearly, Paul did instruct Christians to expel from the congregation's fellowship any person who was purposely practicing willful sin. The disassociation would quite naturally exclude them from being greeted by the identifying "holy kiss," as well as not being allowed to share in meetings and the meals for Christian worship and prayer. However, Paul's instruction did not prohibit normal conversation or witnessing to former members. Nor were they barred from attending worship in the temple or the synagogues. Jesus, the apostles and Paul, along with the rest of the Jews, worshipped God both publicly in the temple and synagogues, and privately with small groups in various homes. (Acts 5:42) It was from the private Christian fellowship for worship that sinners were excluded.
If anyone comes to you and does not bring this teaching, never receive him into your homes or say a greeting to him. For he that says a greeting to him is a sharer in his wicked works.--2 John 11 (NWT)
The above scripture is not about people who have been expelled from the Christian congregation. When read in context, it is about anyone who "does not bring this teaching" [of the Christ]. Because they held congregation meetings in their homes (which might be little more than a dug-out or tent outside the city walls of Jerusalem), in their culture their neighbors might view inviting a non-Christian into the home as the Christian sharing worship with non-Christians.
Moreover, if your brother commits a sin, go lay bare his fault between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. But if he does not listen, take along with you one or two more, in order that at the mouth of two or three witnesses every matter may be established. If he does not listen to them, speak to the congregation. If he does not listen even to the congregation, let him be to you just as a man of the nations ['Gentile' in some translations] and as a tax collector.--Matt.18:15-17 (NWT)
There is no scripture basis for mandating that Christians must totally shun former members (that is, have no communication or conversation with them). The instruction is to expel them from the congregation and treat them like anyone else who is not a member. Especially, there is no scripture to support shunning of one's own relatives--parents, children and siblings.
If anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for his immediate family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever."--1 Tim.5:8 (NIV)
Even for the rest, Paul counseled against abandoning those separated from the congregation:
For your part, brothers, do not give up in doing right. But if anyone is not obedient to our word through this letter, keep this one marked, stop associating with him, that he may become ashamed. And yet do not be considering him as an enemy, but continue admonishing him as a brother.
--2Thes.3:13-15 NWT
When a Jehovah's Witness male qualifies to be an elder in the congregation, he is assigned an uncirculated proprietary book that gives instruction for counseling and disciplinary actions according to the Society's rules. The title of this book is Pay Attention To Yourselves and to All the Flock. Interestingly, on the bottom of page 103 in that book, it is stated that Jehovah's Witnesses need not be disfellowshipped for associating with disfellowshipped relatives except if the association involves "spiritual association" or if there is an attempt to excuse the former member's objectional behavior. It says:
"Normally, a close relative would not be disfellowshipped for associating with a disfellowshipped person unless there is spiritual association or an effort made to excuse the wrongful course."--"Flock book", page 103, last paragraph.
Despite this documented exclusion, Jehovah's Witnesses the world over are taught that to please Jehovah God they must shun their siblings, their children, and even their parents who either choose to leave or are disfellowshipped--especially if the crime is variance with Watchtower doctrine for which they are branded "apostates." And it is a fact that many Witnesses have been disfellowshipped for refusing to shun their disfellowshipped relatives.
If the law of Christianity can be summed up in one word, it is "LOVE." Does not love rescue and recover the sinner? Would Jesus shun the sheep who strayed from the flock?
Now all the tax collectors and the sinners kept drawing near to him to hear him. Consequently both the Pharisees and the scribes kept muttering saying: "This man welcomes sinners and eats with them." Then he spoke this illustration to them, saying: "What man of you with a hundred sheep, on losing one of them, will not leave the ninety-nine behind in the wilderness and go for the lost one until he finds it? And when he has found it he puts it upon his shoulders and rejoices. And when he gets home he calls his friends and his neighbors together, saying to them, 'Rejoice with me, because I have found my sheep that was lost.' I tell you that thus there will be more joy in heaven over one sinner that repents than over ninety-nine righteous ones who have no need of repentance.--Luke 15:1-7 (NWT)
Note that the sheep did not have to come back and find the shepherd, the shepherd went after the lost sheep.
Let us pray that the Watchtower Society will soon be blessed with "new light" on their policy of extremist shunning of former members, thereby liberating thousands--both within and out of the organization--from the heart-strickening anguish imposed by this cruel, unjust, and unscriptural dogma.
Although BEACON website is expressly for former Jehovah's Witnesses, as stated in the header, the Internet being what it is, Jehovah's Witnesses and other apologists frequently visit the site for the information presented. Occasionally one will send a post, as in the case of this concerned person who felt compelled to respond to the Jehovah's Witnesses and Shunning article to express the Witnesses' viewpoint on the matter. As it appears to be a fair representation of their perspective, I think it is fair to post it here in the interest of presenting both sides of the issue. The following letter is presented as written, and was received in Beacon e-mail in April 1999. --Ros
Hi,
This is in regard to the web page at http://www.xjw.com/shunning.html "Jehovah's Witnesses and Shunning"
The writer of this page fails to recognize the different levels of inappropriate conduct or sins of Jehovah's Witnesses and others associated with them. There is a lot more involved then just expelling someone from the congregation if he sins etc. It can not just be summed up that if they sin they are as the gentiles. (1) If a person recklessly rejects Jehovah and obviously causing trouble for others in the congregation, he needs to be removed and he should not be associated with in this state as his only aim is to corrupt anyone that will listen to him. Remember, family relationship is not the goal of True worship. If anyone, even a family member is a threat to your spiritual future is it not best to reject him, or should you give in and die with him? Some seem to think this is a punishment for the wrongdoer. It is not, it is a form of corrective counseling from Jehovah. When a person is put out of the congregation, yes, he feels terrible. That's the point, because if he really belongs to God he will accept this corrective action and make progress to reenter the congregation with having learned a great lesson. But for the ones who do not return, then obviously they never had what it took to be one of God's people. And what would it have accomplished in letting this person stay and possibly cause harm to the rest of the congregation if he was never humble enough to be one of God's true worshipers.
Now for some of the other scriptures that were mentioned on this topic, don't really apply, I won't go through them all, but they were for different situations. Like when a person is LOST it does not mean an unrepentant sinner. It means someone who has lost interest in his spiritual health for some earthly reason, like work, money, relationships, etc. Yes, he may have sinned in this course but it is not the same sin of an apostate who does not want to conform, this type is from being spiritually weak. And others are referring to someone who does commit serious sin but is regretful of it and truly repentant. And still others are referring to ones in the congregation who are not good associations, not that they have done anything to be disfellowshiped, but on the lines of inactive or who share in questionable activities. The ones in the congregation would not want to be a close association to this person, but not shunning him either, but admonishing him to improve his situation. And there are still others, so this is definitely not a black and white issue. The Idea behind shunning is to protect the innocent from the influence of Satan, no matter who this influence is coming from, whether close family or other wise, no relationship is worth losing your eternal hope. And in some respects its not so much a question of who is right or wrong about a theological uncertainty, but about conformity of the congregation. If you let this happen then soon you will be doing nothing but discussing different theological questions and not serving God. So it is cut off at the roots when it shows itself.
Thanks,
[name withheld]
I am satisfied to let this Jehovah's Witness' response speak for itself without further comment.
--Ros
The Watchtower religion is notable for its severe disfellowshipping policies and associated extreme shunning of former members which often results in shattered family relationships. Not to mention that anyone deemed worthy of disfellowshipping is judged to be unworthy of everlasting life and salvation. Yet, Jesus said that the good shepherd would leave the flock and go seek to bring back the sheep who had strayed. Further he said:
I tell you that thus there will be more joy in heaven over one sinner that repents than over ninety-nine righteous ones who have no need of repentance. --Luke 15:4-7 NWT
Bearing this in mind, this page is dedicated to presenting some of the more peculiar stories of Watchtower Society "justice" under the auspices of "keeping the organization clean." The following is the first story of more to come.