Sexual Expression [6] 

“Partner Sex allows for endless possibilities: massaging, hugging, licking, kissing, caressing, biting, rimming, direct clitoral stimulation, oral sex, penetration (vaginal or anal), intercourse, nipple stimulation, fisting, playing with power and roles, tribadism, erotic talk, or sleeping together without genital sex."[6]

Vaginal penetration involves entering one’s vagina with fingers, fist, dildo, or other object. When experimenting with vaginal penetration it is important to make sure your vagina is wet (whether with vaginal fluids or lubricants). When penetrating a female partner, one can stroke, tap, circle, thrust, and experiment with different pressures and speeds.

Vaginal intercourse involves a penis entering a vagina. For females to experience pleasure from sexual intercourse, the vagina must be wet and open. The wetting and opening of a vagina typically occurs with foreplay and arousal. Certain positions at certain times will feel more exciting to you than others. The ‘man on top’ is not a ‘naturally’ better position at all. You can sit or lie upon him or lie side by side. Sit up with your legs over his and his penis in you. Or he can enter you from behind and reach around to caress your clitoris. (You can caress your own clitoris!) Pressure of the penis at the back of the vagina can be the key to orgasm for some women. If you want deep penetration and pressure on your cervix, choose positions that make these more possible. We are all different shapes and need to find positions that suit us. Intercourse is about pleasure and connection, not necessarily orgasm. Many women don’t experience orgasm during intercourse alone.

Oral sex involves sucking or licking our partner’s genitals. When oral sex is performed on a woman, it is called cunnilingus. When oral sex is performed on a man, it is called fellatio. The most successful oral sex is performed when the receiver is comfortable and confident with their genitals and the performer likes their partner’s genitals. It is important to remember that what feels good in oral sex will vary from time to time and partner to partner.

Anal stimulation occurs when a partner’s anus is stimulated with fingers, tongue, penis, dildo, or any slender object. An anus is not as elastic as a vagina, so care must be taken when exploring anal stimulation. It is important to ensure your partner is relaxed and that you have a lubricant, before engaging in anal. Anal bacteria can cause serious vaginal infections and cystitis, so if you want your partners finger(s) or penis or a dildo in your vagina after being in your anus, be sure they have been well washed first, and use a condom on a penis or dildo.