Sexual Arousal and Response
The first model of physiological arousal, created by Masters & Johnson, involves four parts: excitement, plateau, climax, and resolution. It is what people typically believe constructs a positive sexual experience. Additionally, it can be broken into three simple stages: the buildup, the orgasm, and the comedown.
Masters & Johnson’s model presents a sequence of events with a finite end. A different model, presented by Gina Ogden, Ph.D., presents spheres of energy as a flowing continuum. These energies are referred to as the Three Dancing Spheres of Energy which are pleasure, orgasm, and ecstasy. The Dancing Spheres allow for the sexual moment to be lengthened, and feelings to continue. It is a model based on an energetic definition of sex rather than sex as an action or set of physical responses.
Orgasm
When it comes to orgasms, there is no one size fits all. One can experience multiple different kinds of orgasms, all from different kinds of simulation. The three main areas of stimulation within your vagina are the cervix, uterus, and clitoris. Not all these areas will be a gold mine. To find your gold mine, and reach orgasm, you must explore your body and participate in some trial and error. Some ways to explore how to have an orgasm are masturbating, using a vibrator, consuming media, asking a partner to help, and talking through your experiences.
A part of the clitoral system, that is often viewed as a mythical treasure trove, is the G-spot or urethral sponge. The G-spot is “erectile tissue surrounding the urethra." Our G-spot is filled with blood vessels and glands. These glands produce a fluid like the male prostate. The G-spot can often be felt by pressing on the interior front wall of the vagina, typically this area will have a rough texture or ridges. Constant stimulation of this area, for some women, can lead to ejaculation. Female ejaculation is the release of fluid from the urethra. The fluid released is a “prostatic fluid mixed with glucose and trace amounts of urine. It can be clear or creamy, and the smell and taste may vary during our menstrual cycle." While they are most assumed connected, the G-spot is not the only way a women can ejaculate.