I Hate You Because I Like You: How Media Can Be Dangerous For Young Girls
Nicole Bolinas
Nicole Bolinas
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Meteor Garden, Boys Over Flowers, and Hana Yori Dango are created across different countries and timelines, yet they offer the very same media content to the audience over the years- boy meets girl, boy hates girl, then boy falls in love with girl. I could go on with more examples of movies and tv series which adapt this trope and how these particular genres persist and continue to be a highly consumed media content, eventually becoming a part of mainstream media. But does mainstreaming automatically equate to normativity? Does it translate to it being a true and universal reflection of life, of our society? When a man hates me, does he truly like me?
Admittedly, I am one of the many consumers of this overrated romance trope. I was able to watch Meteor Garden during my elementary years because my nanny used to watch it, and I saw how she got giddy when Dao Ming Si has finally fallen in love with Shancai after weeks of bullying her in school. At a young age, I thought, "Perhaps this is how a guy lets a girl know that he's interested. I should be flattered when a guy is being mean to me, because then it would mean that he likes me."
According to Pamela Shoemaker and Stephen Reese (2014), what we see onscreen is actually a mediated reality, where media content is already influenced by several factors, such as the creator of the content, as well as his/her relationship with culture, power, and ideology.
Perhaps these movies and shows continue to be aired internationally because of its profitability for the producers. More viewers would mean higher popularity ratings, and higher popularity ratings would entice brand sponsorships and advertisements. So, even when these portrayal of romance and attraction can perpetrate gender-based violence, it wouldn't matter.
Therefore, media does not necessarily reflect life behind the scenes.
...Of Harmful Ideologies Influencing Media
In studying ideology as normalization, Croteau and Hoynes (2019) emphasize how the media "give us pictures of social interaction and social institutions that, by their sheer repetition, on a daily basis, can play important roles in shaping broad social definitions" (p. 292). The idea of men treating women harshly, then, is normalized in dating and relationships. It's okay for a guy to make a girl's life miserable at first, if it meant him developing feelings for her later on.
The 2001 Meteor Garden is the most popular TV show adaptation of the 90's Japanese manga series Hana Yori Dango, among its many remakes in 1995 and 2005 (Japanese), 2009 (Korean, Chinese), 2018 (Taiwanese remake), and in 2021 (Thai). This story of "four popular-but-misguided boys who bully the new girl in school then somehow become entangled in a romantic tale with her" (Rodriguez, 2020, n.p.) continues to live on for decades now, and it seems that media consumers have not grown tired of this story yet.
It goes to explain, then, how gender inequalities persist in our society, with the regular reappearance, consumption of, and exposure to this type of media content paving the way for the acts of aggression, dominance, and harassment of men to women to be normalized.
The Truth? He's Just Not That Into You.
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“Girls are taught a lot of stuff growing up. If a guy punches you he likes you. Never try to trim your own bangs and someday you will meet a wonderful guy and get your very own happy ending. Every movie we see, every story we're told implores us to wait for it, the third act twist, the unexpected declaration of love, the exception to the rule.” -Gigi Haim, He's Just Not That Into You
It took a lot of learning, unlearning, and relearning- at least on my part. I have to learn that what I see on TV should not be the standard of how I get the guy. There is nothing romantic at being bullied and yelled at by people, especially men who, supposedly, is "in love with me". I need to unlearn being tolerant of men's brute behavior, even when he is someone who I find attractive. When a guy is being mean to me, it just simply reflects how he really hates me. Likewise, if a guy is being nice to me, it does not necessarily mean that he is attracted to me and that it could simply mean as is, as the bare minimum. Finally, I have to relearn to empower myself as a woman- to know my worth, what I deserve, and to know how well I should be treated.
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Hello, Nics. This is Christine. As I reflect on my own experiences with TV series/ dramas I was able to relate to your realization on how women should relearn to empower themselves as a woman- to know our worth, what we deserve, and to know how we should be treated and regarded. Also with regards to dramas one very common storyline which I deemed to be disempowering to women is the "rag to riches" plot. Wherein, a poor, mediocre woman would meet a man who's a CEO of a big conglomerate then they'll fall in love and relive the Cinderella story. Or where a poor, mediocre woman who's been so miserable meets a man who's a CEO of a big conglomerate which turned out to be her father who is also looking for his long lost daughter and to whom he shall leave all his inheritance. These storylines often portray women to be financially inferior to men and/or should be someone dependent on men (may it be her lover, father, or brother). In short, damsels in distress in need of saving from a hero or prince harming. Unfortunately, these representations of women may shape women's belief of their own worth and capabilities. If internalize, women may think that they can never be financially independent and that the only way to climb the social ladder is to leech off on a certain man.
It is important to remember that in understanding the influence of media, we are also acquiring a sense of awareness of how its own content is specifically influenced by its producers: media organizations. In this blogpost we will explore two major media organizations- Philippine News Agency (PNA) and Rappler News, and how at certain aspects they are alike but also at the same time very different.
There is no better way to start the discussion on the two media organizations than in describing them through the writings reflected in their websites. Below is the description of PNA as well as its mission statement, to quote:
The Philippine News Agency (PNA) is the Philippine government’s official web-based newswire service.
Born on March 1, 1973 with its newswire operations relying only on teletype machines and typewriters, PNA has evolved today as an internet-based news service agency that provides timely, factual and objective news and information to its subscribers, readers and a host of other clients here and abroad.
Mission: Provides daily news services to both local and foreign readers on the policies, activities, and programs of the Government and the Presidency.
Meanwhile, below is what is written in Rappler News’ “About” Page:
Rappler comes from the root words “rap” (to discuss) + “ripple” (to make waves). It was born to a new world of possibilities – driven by uncompromising journalism, enabled by technology, and enriched by communities of action.
Through cutting-edge stories, conversations, and collaboration, we aim to speak truth to power and build communities of action for a better world.
Formed as a company in July 2011 and launched as a website in January 2012, Rappler stands on three pillars – journalism, community, technology – that are bound by the shared values of trust, courage, integrity. It is composed of veteran journalists trained in broadcast, print, and web disciplines working with young, idealistic digital natives eager to report and find solutions to problems.
In simple terms, both PNA and Rappler are media organizations that have the general objective of providing factual information to the public via journalism.
Now, let us examine how the media organizations delivered the news about Chad Booc, a UP-graduate activist who recently died in an encounter with state forces last February 2022. Below are snippets of their respective news articles about Booc:
In Rappler News, Chad Booc is described in the headline as a Lumad teacher. Meanwhile, in the article produced by PNA, Chad is labeled as a NPA recruiter. Looking closely further at the gist of the news articles, the former focuses on reporting Booc’s death and the inconsistencies that went along on how he died, particularly in the context of state forces maliciously redtagging activists as terrorists. The latter on the other hand focuses on Chad Booc’s membership to the New People’s Army (NPA) and the Communist Party of the Philippines-NPA-National Democratic Front (CPP-NPA-NDF).
One might wonder, how can two media organizations which share the same purpose of delivering news have different sides to a story supposedly of one truth?
Two concepts can provide some explanation as to why two similar media organizations have different kinds of content. First, Croteau and Hoynes (2019) stated that media content is influenced in response to certain political constraints, particularly how media organizations comply with government regulations so as to avoid conflict. In terms of the PNA being the official state agency, news articles published in the website are therefore definitely aligning with the government’s plans on what they want the Filipinos to believe in. As such, because they continue to push the narrative of activists being terrorists, PNA continuously frames Booc as the leader of NPA and member of CPP-NPA-NDF.
The gatekeeping theory also explains how media organizations select which content is released to the public, since a gatekeeper “interacts with the organization, whose components must work together (Shoemaker & Reese, 2014, p. 137).” Factors such as economic concerns (value of each media content), power structures (organizational roles, structures, processes policies, and power) are always taken into consideration when publishing a media content.
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The 2022 Philippine Presidential Elections has become a hot topic for both the national and international scene, wherein international news agencies such as The New York Times (NYT) and the Korean Broadcasting System (KBS) have been closely monitoring and reporting the events transpiring in the Philippines both at the height of the presidential campaign period and at the publication of post-election results. Apparently, there presents the trend of post-truths, which was observed in the US since 2016 and has now found its way in the Philippines. Oxford Dictionary defines post truth as “relating to or denoting circumstances in which objective facts are less influential in shaping public opinion than appeals to emotion and personal belief” (2016, as cited in Cushion, 2019), and the epitome to this phenomenon is the presidential campaign of Ferdinand “Bongbong” Marcos Jr.
Marcos Jr. is the son of the late dictator, Ferdinand Sr., and the extravagant former first lady Imelda Marcos. As he came from a family of murderers and plunderers, he and his team consulted a British political consulting firm to “rebrand” the family image in 2016. Rebranding, in this sense, would mean literally erasing the atrocities his family has committed against the Filipino people during the Martial Law. The whistleblower of Cambridge Analytica, Brittany Kaiser, has detailed in an interview how this “rebranding” works:
So, as you call it historical revisionism, that's exactly what it is, but it's done in a data-driven and scientific way. So you undertake just enough research to figure out what people believe about a certain family, individual, politician and then you figure out what could convince them to feel otherwise. And you run tests until you actually start to see people's opinions and attitudes changing (ABS-CBN News, 2020).
Now more commonly known as BBM, he continues to benefit from years of widespread purveying of fake news and disinformation. This is even intensified now, as there surfaces reports of Facebook pages and groups, YouTube channels, and social media influencers being paid to actively participate in this political manipulation (Gavilan, 2022). From the “Tallano Gold” to the Philippines’ golden era under the Martial Law, he has effectively twisted the truth and convinced thousands of social media consumers who will be voting during the elections- so much so that he is currently set to be proclaimed as the 17th president of the Philippines.
References:
ABS-CBN News. (2020). Bongbong Marcos requested Cambridge Analytica to rebrand family image: whistleblower. ABS-CBN News. https://news.abs-cbn.com/news/07/16/20/bongbong-requested-cambridge-analytica-to-rebrand-family-image-says-whistleblower-marcos-denies-claim
Gavilan, J. (2022). Marcos Jr.'s campaign reaping benefits of years of disinformation – experts. RAPPLER. https://www.rappler.com/nation/elections/ferdinand-marcos-jr-president-campaign-reaping-benefits-years-disinformation/
Cushion, S. (2019). The Political Impact of Media. In Curran, J and Hesmondhalgh, D. (eds). Media and Society. 6th edition. Bloomsbury Academic.