Sorry guys, mostly focused on female-focused finance books at first. I'll expand these recommendations as I read and listen to more
Rich girl nation by Katie Gatti Tassin : specifically chapter 3 -4, 6, 7 for men, chapters 3-7 for women. though chapter one can be put on the lens of "examine areas you are spending and why you are spending on them". Little heavy on feminism but good plans and examples
White coat investor- more specific financial advise for people in our position