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People may require help in healing issues which could be categorised as: physicalmentalemotional, or of the spirit or soul.

How an issue manifests may be different from how it originated.  A physical skin condition, for example might have a physical or emotional/psychological cause, or a combination of causative factors.  An emotional issue might stem from a mental cause e.g. anxiety due to continually imagining negative future outcomes.

The mind, body and spirit, and soul, are linked.  Your emotional state can be affected by your physical wellbeing, and also by the way in which you think.  It is not really possible to separate mind, body and spirit, and soul.  They are all interrelated and impact each other.  For the sake of labelling issues it can be helpful to use the categories, but it should be noted that there may be impacts elsewhere, and that the root causes or triggers for the condition may arise from one or more of the other categories.

If the root causes/factors and triggers can be identified and addressed, it is then possible for the person’s self healing abilities to be activated for the condition to be resolved.

It may also be necessary to address the following for healing to take place and be effective:

As a basis to good health, people have the fundamental physical needs of: good foodclean watershelterappropriate temperature, and sufficient sleep.

Another important factor is the environment in which someone lives – whether the emotional environment (frequent arguments, disharmony or abuse), or the ‘energetic’ environment, which may also require healing, if a person is to prosper.  See ‘Places’.

 

Physical

For acute and life threatening issues e.g. breathing difficulties, heart attack, stroke, severe blood loss, trauma and broken bones, immediate medical assistance should be sought.

For some physical issues e.g. cuts, bruises, broken bones, it can be quite apparent how they have been caused – often as the result of a physical trauma or injury.  The necessary course of treatment and likely healing process is often apparent as well.

Many people nowadays are suffering from chronic conditions (i.e. continuing over time). For many chronic conditions, it is not apparent how or why they have come about.  It is also not apparent how or if they can be resolved, or how this might happen or how long it could take.  This in itself can lead to additional issues of despondency, despair and depression.

These chronic conditions may have many underlying issues.  Although someone may be genetically or psychologically pre-disposed to developing a certain condition, there is often the cumulative effect of a number of factors, which are then triggered to produce the condition or illness.  Triggers may take many forms, from emotional upsets such as divorce or bereavement, to traumas, and viruses.  I have witnessed many cases of pneumonia where the person has recently come out of a long term relationship.  I am not saying that all people in this situation are likely to develop pneumonia, or that it cannot come about in other ways.  It just serves to highlight that there may be many factors that need to be taken into account.

 

Mental

For certain mental conditions such as schizophrenia, psychosis, or severe depression, including suicidal tendencies I would recommend that people seek medical assistance, and where necessary, the help of a psychiatrist.

Mental means ‘of the mind’, and just as many people would say “we are what we eat”, I believe that, to a large degree, ‘we experience what we think’.

We all have ‘sub-conscious programming’.  Our subconscious runs our body systems – breathing, heart rate etc, and also various mental processes.  This is necessary, as there is no way we could do these things if we had to consciously think about them.  When we learn to drive a car, for example, we have to think consciously about all of the things we need to do.  With time, our behaviour becomes more automatic, until the time when we can (to an extent) ‘do it without thinking’.  The subconscious is great for enabling us to do all sorts of things we have learned ‘without thinking’.  Once we know how to open a door, we do not have to spend mental energy relearning how to do it each time.  Our thinking abilities are available for new things.

We all have mental strategies, or ways in which we have worked out how to do things, and we tend to keep using those strategies as long as they work – sometimes even when they no longer work.  Sometimes we may get stuck in loops of behaviour, which may not be beneficial.  It can be useful sometimes to look at our strategies and see if we can find easier, and more beneficial ways to do things.

Much of our experience of the world depends on our perception of what is going on – the meaning that we make of events.  This is different for each individual.  For example, one person being made redundant may view it as a great opportunity to get on and do something they have been wanting to do for ages – change jobs, travel, study etc.  Another person may be devastated and perceive it as a great loss or tragedy.

The meaning we make of events will vary depending upon the circumstances we are in, and the beliefs we have.

Not only do we attempt to make meaning of the world around us, but we filterthe information coming to us. What we notice, consciously, depends on what we are looking for, and this can be influenced to a great degree by the beliefs (often sub-conscious) that we hold.  We tend to look for ‘evidence’ that supports our beliefs.  This in itself is not a bad thing. The problem occurs when what we believe is negative or limiting for ourselves – e.g. ‘I’m not good enough’, ‘I’m useless at exams’, ‘I don’t deserve to be happy’ etc.

Limiting beliefs, often become self fulfilling prophecies, as we look to find evidence for our beliefs – we focus on the perceived evidence that makes them ‘true’ , and that is what they become for us.  It is surprising how often limiting beliefs are not born out of personal experience, but are down to what we may have been told by others, often in childhood.  If we hear something often enough, or from someone we look up to, then we may well believe it – e.g. “You’re stupid”, “You’ll never amount to anything”.  Quite often, just by realising that these are not our own beliefs, we realise we can choose whether we still wish to believe them or not.  This can make a huge difference to our lives, and open up a huge range of possibilities that were previously closed to us.

Most people do not tend to think about what they believe.  They also don’t realise that their beliefs are not ‘set in stone’.  We change and update our beliefsregularly throughout our lives without thinking about it – we may no longer, for example, believe in the Tooth fairy.

We can, however, deliberately reassess our beliefs and see if they are serving us well – if not, we can choose to change them, and install new beliefs which are more positive and beneficial.  There are some very powerful NLP techniques for belief change.

There are many issues, which could fall under the category of ‘mental’.  Negative ‘self talk’, low self esteem, negative body image, lack of confidence, self sabotage, issues with food etc.

Depression – although commonly regarded in the category of mental illness, may be as the result of prolonged physical illness or emotional issues, and can be due to chemical imbalances in the brain (often a lack of serotonin).

Phobias – are intense irrational fears, where an experience – often in early childhood, has overloaded the young child’s ability to cope with it, and has evoked an instinctive ‘fight or flight’ response, which has then associated that particular event or object with extreme danger.  There is the positive intent of protecting oneself from future harm, but the sub-conscious strategy to do this is extreme.

Addiction – in some senses is thought of as a mental issue (our sub-conscious programmes and habits getting out of control).  There are often emotional factors and physiological factors.  It is often the case that various substances are taken initially as an attempt to self medicate, and redress imbalances – often of neurotransmitters (e.g. serotonin, dopamine etc).  The problem comes when the substance is controlling the person, and they feel compelled to take it – they lose power and are not in control.

 

Emotional

Emotional issues may be due to a range of factors.  Our emotional response is a fundamental and very useful aspect of how we, as humans, operate.  It provides feedback which we can use to guide us in future situations.  If we feel love or happiness, and have associated the feeling (appropriately) with a certain situation or action, we are more inclined to do that same thing again.  If we do something that we know we feel bad about – we may feel guilt, for example, and this is an indicator for us not to repeat the action.   If we learn from the emotional feedback we gain, we can then make (hopefully positive) decisions about our future.  We can think of it as our internal guidance system.

There can be problems when we make an inappropriate association, or do not revise the initial association as a result of further emotional feedback, e.g. in addictions, when the initial high, invariably sooner or later provides us with the ‘negative’ emotion of for example guilt, shame, or despair.

Emotions are often categorised as ‘Positive’ and ‘Negative’ emotions e.g. love – positive, anger – negative.  It is true that some may make us feel ‘good’, and some may make us feel ‘bad’, but they are all just feedback.

Fear – is a fundamental response to potential danger, and is therefore highly useful when that danger is present, but not all the time, and not for things which are not a threat.

Anxiety – is really fear about something in the future which is yet to happen.  It may be feedback to let us know that we do not feel comfortable or prepared for what is to come – maybe a public speaking engagement, but this makes us aware that we may need some extra preparation or practice.

Grief – is a natural response to the loss of, for example, a loved one.  Problems arise when it is not acknowledged or expressed, and is ‘buried’ or suppressed.

Guilt – is great feedback to let us know that we feel we shouldn’t have done something, and not to do it again.

Envy – it can be helpful to regard envy as highlighting things or situations that you would like to have in your own life, and realise that if it is possible for someone else to have achieved that, then you can too.  It becomes a problem when it is directed at the person who has those things.

A lot of our emotions are based on or influenced by our beliefs – different individuals and cultures for example have different ideas about what someone might feel guilty about (or not), or what might be regarded as shameful.

Issues can arise if our emotional response is out of proportion, inappropriate, or inappropriately expressed – either over-expressed or suppressed.  This can result in a variety of problems for ourselves and those around us.

Excessive or inappropriate fear can be seen in the case of phobic response.  Over expressed anger can manifest as rage, maybe road rage, for example.  Suppressed emotions can lead to depression, bitterness, resentment, low self-esteem and other issues.  Generally, emotions can only be suppressed for so long before they are expressed – the longer it is, the more likely that the way in which they are expressed is explosive in nature, as if the pressure has built and built until they can no longer be contained.

There may be problems when emotions get stuck and associated with past events –   i.e. something from the past is still charged with a (for us) ‘negative’ emotion – one that makes us feel bad.

Very often people have what is often referred to as ‘Emotional baggage’.  This means that there are things from their past which can still evoke an emotional response, and by nature of not having been cleared or dealt with, have an impact on their present and future life.  In dealing with these issues; it is only the ‘negative’ emotional response about the past that we tend to bother about; we do not want to remove good feelings about the past.

It is possible to get the situation where someone has had a bad day – they may have been late for work, had difficult clients, got reprimanded, had to miss lunch etc.  Later they get home, and a partner or child may say something which would not normally cause a reaction, but because of the day they have had, they erupt with a negative emotional outburst.  Emotional baggage stops you from reacting appropriately to what is happening in the moment.

There are some amazing NLP based techniques which can be employed to clear the ‘negative’ emotions of past events, quickly, easily, and painlessly.  Doing this can have a hugely positive effect on the way you are able to live your life.  It can then be possible to react to a situation in the moment.

Many flower remedies and essences are targeted at emotional issues.

 

Spiritual/Soul

In general, not many people in ‘modern’ society are aware of, or consider, issues of the spirit or soul.  They are, however, at the heart of many shamanic practices, and occur where at some level someone is disconnected in some way from themselves or their environment.  If someone is ‘not feeling themselves’ or is ‘not right’ without any kind of medical or physical explanation – it may be worth investigating the possibility of a soul, spirit, energetic, or psychic issue.

Common soul issues include ‘soul loss’, and ‘soul fragmentation’.  These can occur as a result of traumatic events, which might include abuse, or accidents, where the person’s soul, or part of it, leaves the body.  Often, it occurs when a person’s nervous system cannot handle the sheer level of emotional or physical pain of something e.g. immense shock or grief. This is a natural survival mechanism, but it may be necessary to ensure, at a later date when it is safe to do so, that it is returned and integrated into the body, otherwise the person is not fully there, or whole.  Many people with soul issues may not fully engage with life, and may seem distant or dissociated.  This may only occur in certain areas or aspects of their life.  It makes sense for a person to protect themselves from possible further pain by being disconnected, but it may no longer be necessary, and is preventing them from having a full and happy life, and being fully engaged.

Other common soul issues occur when people are not aware of whom they are, or persist in activities that are against the nature of their very being, or what their soul knows they should be doing.  This is often indicated in language when people talk of what they are doing (often work) as ‘soul destroying’.  When people are doing things that they love, they may use language such as ‘it makes my soul sing’, or ‘my soul soars’.  Be aware of this kind of language as useful information and feedback.

Different people have different definitions or hypotheses about what the soul and spirit are.  I regard the soul as being the fundamental essence of who we are.  I believe it to be an eternal part of us (which has experienced past lives, and goes on beyond physical death).  The spirit on the other hand, I would liken to a flame, and is the power or driving force behind us moving forward in life.  I believe it to be dependent on the breath, and circulating, or present in the whole body, whereas the soul is more localised in the heart area.  When someone no longer has breath, or has sufficient blood loss, they die and the spirit can no longer be sustained in the body – the flame goes out.  There is no longer the driving force or living environment for the soul, and it leaves and moves onwards.  If someone has setbacks, or is constantly negatively influenced by outside sources, they may become ‘dispirited’. They lack the drive or motivation to continue.  We also hear talk of a ‘spirited performance’ when someone has put their all into something.  Spirit relates to how energised, alive and purposeful or motivated we feel.

Other issues can involve psychic or energetic problems – e.g. suffering from the effects of someone’s negative thoughts or wishes towards you.  These may be regarded as thought forms or spells.  This can also include the negative effects of envy on the recipient – ‘Envidias’.

Some people are affected by Spirits (discarnate beings) – human and otherwise, and some have Attachments, where an energetic being or object can be attached to or within the person’s aura or energy field.

A person’s energy field can also have energetic imprints, which may relate to disease or illness.  The illness may or may not be apparent in the physical body, but the person would benefit from the pattern being cleared.  Current or past issues will also show up in this way, and a lot of shamanic work and energy healing work involves clearing issues on this level so that they can be cleared physically, or do not manifest physically in the first place.  Karmic issues can also be present and may require addressing and healing.