One reason that it is so hard for a child with ASD to play is that the child has a hard time with something that is called cognitive “set shifting”. Let’s see if I can explain this well enough for you to understand the concept and then use that knowledge to help your child learn to set shift more easily and often.
Most of us are able to bring our attention in to focus on a detail in our environment - like the zoom function on a camera.
We are also able move out again easily for a broader and broader view - like the wide angle lens on the camera.
Looking at a toy car, for example, we can study for a moment the little wheel on the car and see how it spins. Then we can move our attention out to see and think about the whole car as a vehicle. Then we move our attention out further still and see the road system set up where we can drive the car.
If we are playing cars with a friend, it is not hard to take in what our friend is doing with cars three feet away... even if we had been entirely focused on the cool looking hubcaps on the car in his hand just a moment before. We can shift our attention into a planning mode and suggest that it might be fun to race our cars down the hall way together. Even if we imagined the race would start by the door to the kitchen, we quickly agree that it can start at the other end of the hall by the bathroom when our friend suggests this would be better. We can agree because we can imagine the race either way and don’t see that it makes any difference which way we go.
We can wait for our friend to get beside us in the hall way and coordinate when we will start our race. We are careful to follow the starting rules that we set up together because we can imagine our friend being angry if we “jump the gun” on the race and start out first.
After the race, we can take in our friend’s disappointment at losing the race even as we gleefully enjoy having won it. We can behave with good sportsmanship because we remember that we want to play with this friend again tomorrow.
Kids with ASD have trouble with this kind of rapid set shifting. It is like the distance function on the camera of the mind gets stuck at a single distance and can't move in or out.
The young child with ASD might be able to shift from looking at the wheel of the car to looking at the door of the car. But zooming attention out to look at the car as a whole is very hard once attention has been focused narrowly on the wheel.
This is one reason why drill type learning can be quite effective with children who have ASD. All the items in the drill are at a similar "set". For example, "What color is this car?" "Red" What color is this train?" "Green" "What color is this banana?" "Yellow".
The down side of drill is that even after successfully learning to answer questions in a one set drill format, the child never spontaneously describes the car as red or the train as green or the banana as yellow because answering color questions is one set, but talking about what you see in terms of color is another set entirely. So the learning is fragmented and often not functional.
In an older child with ASD, the problem with set shifting may make it hard for the child to move from a section in a math assignment where adding is required to a section in the assignment where subtracting is required — even though adding and subtracting are equally easy for the child to do.
In a high school aged child, the problem may be in trying to understand conversations that veer unexpectedly from wide topic to narrow topic.
Many of the strategies that are used to help children with ASD regardless of age are really little tricks that help the child with cognitive set shifting. Or long term strategies aimed at helping the child become a more flexible set shifter.
I will use an example from a recent therapy session to illustrate this concept. I got out a new toy to play with one of my little friends, Andy.
The toy is a nice combination of a construction toy and pretend play toy. The puzzle is meant to be set up like an inset puzzle. You assemble a park by setting the wooden pieces where they fit in the wooden base. Andy likes inset puzzles and knows how to do them. Unfortunately, Andy did not see this toy as a puzzle, he did not appear to see the toy at all. He just saw one rivetingly interesting part, the duck.
Andy became enamored with the duck. He immediately held it close and ran away so that there was no danger of my taking the duck away from him.
Far away from me, he looked at the duck over and over as he touched it. He loves animal toys and here was an exceptionally wonderful toy animal.
So now I was faced with a choice: Either give up on teaching him to play with this toy today, force him to play with it the way that I want him to (you can probably imagine how much fun that would be), or find some way to show him that playing with this toy would bring him as much joy as holding the little duck obviously gave him. I had been aiming toward showing Andy something at the level of pretend play but I was quickly re-evaluating and willing to accept any kind of social play. I was not willing to let him stay in the corner by himself utterly absorbed by that little duck.
Here is where the issue of set shifting comes in. Andy’s mental set around the toy was narrow (just this duck) and perceptual or sensory (how cool this duck is to feel and see) and non-social (I want to be left alone with this duck).
I wanted to widen his mental set to include more than just the duck. I really wanted to shift his mental set from the feel of the duck to pretending that the duck was doing something like swimming in a pond quacking or anything. But, as I said, at that moment, I was ready to settle for Andy being willing to let me be involved in his play in some way.
I try to think of something that we have done happily together before. I coax him into my arms where I twirled him a couple times. I sit with him in my lap facing me and dip him down, so his head touches the floor and pull him up which he likes. Soon I am saying “Ready, set…” and he says “Go” to get me to dip him down again. I ignore the not entirely forgotten duck that he clutches in his hand.
Physically interactive games are nearly always fun for Andy so we play on these terms for a while. I don’t even think about the duck until he is firmly in the mind set of Play with Tahirih is fun.
In terms of set shifting, we did not shift very much from Andy's set. Andy was already involved in a sensory activity (enjoying the physical properties of the duck) so I stayed with a sensory activity (spinning and dipping).
I was now part of his sensory play—important to his play, in fact, because he couldn't twirl himself around like I could. We had established happy reciprocal play. I am no longer Tahirih the potential duck thief. I am Tahirih the carnival ride. Covertly, I am plotting to get that duck but I don't want to let Andy know this.
As I played with Andy, I moved into a corner of the room. I was sitting in front of Andy so that it was not so easy for Andy to run off across the room like he did last time. I also bring the rest of the game pieces closer to us. Andy is smart and observant. He becomes aware that I might be setting him up so he lays down limp on his back with the duck clutched tightly in his hand and his hand down by his side. I slip the duck out of his hand while he looks away avoiding eye contact with Tahirih the duck thief! But before he can react to my thievery, I quickly I replace the duck in his hand with the wooden boy. When Andy looks at it, I say “Hi boy!” and then quickly put the duck back in his hand. "Hi Duck!" Andy forgives me for stealing the duck because I give it right back.
We play this little game over and over. I give him back the duck every other time. Each toy that I slip into his hand is greeted by me enthusiastically - “Hi girl!" "Hi duck!" "Hi mail box!" "Hi duck!" "Hi tree!" "Hi duck!" Andy tolerates this little game and even starts participating by willingly giving up toys and looking into his hand to see what I have slipped in. He looks at me when I take to long greeting the toy, so he likes that I am greeting each toy.
Now Andy's cognitive set includes both me as a play partner and more toys than just the duck. I have helped him shift his focus to include many more elements to his play. I have even been able to introduce a pretend play element into the play with the little greeting toys routine. At this point, Andy tells me that he's interested in the game by suddenly sitting up rather than laying down passively letting me slip toys in and out of his hand. He is clearly more ready to be engaged in play with me now that he understands what we are doing.
After Andy sat up, I brought out the doorway part of the toy and then and we started playing a game that went like this:
I set a wooden boy on one side of the door and knock
Andy opens the door.
I say Hi Boy and send the boy through the door. Andy looks at the boy and then sends him back through the door.
I close the door and say Bye Bye boy
Repeat with new wooden piece sent through the door including the girl, mailbox and finally the duck.
We played this game with Andy enjoying it enough to independently send the duck back out the door (giving it up of his own volition).
Now the game was starting to look like pretend play. Could we put the doorway into the wooden base? We did and we started to move the pieces through the door on the track, just as is intended with this toy.
I do not believe that this game ever looked like a park to Andy — but he did learn to use the toy physically as it was intended. The doorway was an element of pretend play that made sense to Andy and he put pieces of the game into my hand to get me to play with them.
Andy was able to shift his understanding of the game from one that was narrow, perceptual and self-directed to one that was much wider, conceptual, and social.
Now, here is the easier way that I might have accomplished all this. I could have simply shown Andy a video clip of the game before I ever showed him the toy and he would have started with the cognitive set that I wanted him to have.
The whole toy would have seemed familiar as soon as he looked at it the first time rather the only familiar item being the duck. He would have known what we were going to do with the toy.
Regardless of what strategy you use, the moral of this story is that it is very difficult for a child with autism to shift attention, not just from activity to activity but also from a narrow focus to a wider focus, or from a wider focus to a more narrow focus within an activity. If you can see that this is the problem as you are playing, you will need to find ways to help your child zoom in and out as needed.