Grief and Loss
Resource Page
Post Falls School District Elementary Counseling Program
Fact Sheets: GRIEVING CHILDREN
Information for Families About Grief What you may see at home. How to help your child
· Children grieve when they have a major loss in their lives
· The loss could be due to death or separation (i.e. divorce, jail, moving)
· Children grieve for people and also animals/pets.
· Everyone experiences grief in their own unique way
· Because children are often less able than adults to put their feelings into words, their grief is expressed through their behavior
· Children’s reactions will differ depending on their level of emotional development, their relationship to the loss, the information they receive concerning the loss and their past experiences with loss
· Shock/denial
· Sadness
· Lack of feelings
· Guilt
· Rebellion
· Sleep disturbance
· Appetite disturbance
· Fighting
· Withdrawal
· Poor concentration
· Attention seeking
· Change in peer interactions
· Physical complaints
· Preoccupation with the loss
· Regression
· Loss may be seen as temporary or like sleep
· Nightmares
· Blame self for loss
· Easily upset
· Excessive crying
· Clingy
· Bedwetting
· Temper outbursts
· Self harm
· Argues
· Play or drawings with a dark twist to them
· Increase in physical complaints
· Child may laugh and seem happy
· Allow child to express feelings. Say:
-Go ahead and cry, it takes courage to express your sadness.
-Would you like to talk about your tears?
-You don’t have to be strong for me.
-I know it will take time for you to feel better, I will help you as much as I can.
· Avoid saying:
-I know how you feel.
-It could be worse…
-Everything is going to be okay.
-But you still have….
· Keep your routine the same and predictable
· Be honest and don’t minimize the loss
· Allow child to attend memorial if wanted
· Find ways to remember the person/animal lost
· Observe your child’s behavior.
· Be involved with your child – listen to them
· Reassure them their feelings are normal
Additional Grief Resources
· Hospice of North Idaho – 208-772-7994 (support groups for grieving children)
· www.centerforloss.com (Grief books and other resources)