We learn to listen to our children
Ben is a 4-year-old child, sociable, cheerful, helpful with his classmates, and very kind. During school activities, Ben participates , always asks questions, and loves working in group. He is attentive and curious kid. One day during the assignment of a group work, Ben shows little interest, does not share activities with his classmates, cries, and asks the teacher to work alone because he knows how to do things without being helped!
A little perplexed by Ben's unusual behavior, the teacher tries to understand why Ben has been behaving differently that day, not usually sad or angry with everyone.
One morning during the Italian lesson, the teacher offers the children a game about the family. The teacher shows the children some dolls that she uses to represent family members. Ben doesn't want to play, he doesn't like this game, he just wants to watch.
At the end of the lesson the teacher asks Ben why he did not want to play, since he has always enjoyed playing games in Italian. A little sad and sulky, Ben says to the teacher: "I didn't want to play because I'm angry with my mom and dad"
"Why?" asks the teacher. Ben approaches and whispers in his ear: "because soon I will have a little brother and they won't love me anymore". Ben experienced the arrival of his little brother as a threat "now that the baby is coming and mom and dad will not love me anymore".
Small children do not have the maturity to understand that the arrival of a little brother is a beautiful event and that the love of parents for him will not change.
We must learn to talk to our children, explain to them that there are things that make us sad, angry, frustrated, but also if we express in our words what we feel and how we feel it helps us to feel better. When we learn to listen to our children, we dedicate time to their needs. Only in this way children will feel welcomed and understood and will not be afraid of their emotions.
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by Salvatrice - 12/30/2020