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Question: How do I help a friend out of a toxic relationship?
Advice by Phoenix Bamford:
These situations are complicated and hard to deal with for all parties involved. Keeping this in mind, you want to make sure you're not pushing them hard. I know you want what's best for your friend and them staying in that situation is upsetting, but pushing can make them feel uneasy and distance themselves from you.
Toxic relationships make the person feel like they can’t leave or that they're in the wrong for even considering leaving. There are phrases to avoid when bringing up the topic of leaving: Why don't you just leave? That person is toxic, leave their butt! Why is it so hard for you to leave them? They are not good for you. These phrases don't seem like much, but to the person who's in the relationship, it can make them feel bad about themselves, because they find it difficult to just get up and leave.
Here are steps you can take. The first step is to be there for your friend and listen to what they are saying. Try to remind them that they deserve love, respect, honesty and open communication. Let them know that you're there for them and that you are right beside them in whatever they choose.
If the toxic relationship is physical in any way, tell a trusted adult as soon as you can. I understand that it can feel like you're betraying your friend’s trust, but it is better for you to tell someone who can help them, than them ending up in the hospital or feeling more isolated. If you know your friend is in a physically toxic relationship and they start isolating themselves and stop talking to you, this is a sign that the physical abuse is getting worse.
If you or someone you know is dealing with a physical toxic relationship, please call this number for the 24/7 helpline 1-800-315-5579.
There is a local organization called Next Step that also helps with this very matter. https://www.nextstepdvproject.org/ this link will bring you to a page that can help you out of a toxic relationship and help you find the signs in an abusive relationship, because not all abuse is physical.
Question: How do you manage time while participating in sports?
Advice by Logan Buteau
Ideally one should have a flexible schedule beforehand and be aware of the responsibilities that are entailed. Balancing a work life schedule and a sports schedule can be tough and stressful. One should go home and talk to family, eat, do enjoyable things, sleep and repeat.
Question: How do I stop my tendencies to procrastinate?
Advice by Aryannah Butler - Rogers:
Procrastination is a very common problem for teenagers and adults which often can be a problem but thankfully there are many tips to help stop those tendencies. The First tip to stopping someone’s procrastination tendencies is they have to admit that they have a procrastination problem, unless you admit that you have this problem it will keep coming back. The second tip to stopping someone’s procrastination tendencies is for someone to find a good study area, having a quiet and calm place to study will help relax you and put you more in the mood to study. The third tip to stopping someone’s procrastination tendencies is they should set reasonable goals for themselves to reach, creating goals and plans to help to do the task you are procrastinating on can help make the tasks seem more manageable. The fourth tip to stopping someone’s procrastination tendencies is to work in a study group, working in a study group will keep you from getting distracted on your own. The fifth tip to stopping someone’s procrastination tendencies is to set aside all distractions, having many things someone can get distracted by will make it hard for someone to be able to finish the task at hand.