What can we expect from attending a couples workshop?
Couples workshops are designed to provide tools and strategies to improve communication, deepen intimacy, and resolve conflicts constructively. You'll learn practical skills and insights that can enhance your relationship.
Is our relationship suitable for a couples workshop?
Couples workshops are beneficial for any relationship looking to grow and improve. Whether you're dating, engaged, married, or in a long-term relationship, these workshops can help strengthen your bond and address challenges.
How should we prepare for a couples workshop?
Come with an open mind and willingness to participate. It can also be helpful to discuss with your partner what goals or issues you'd like to address during the workshop, so you can focus on areas that are most important to you.
Will we have to share personal details or problems with the group?
Workshops vary, but many include both group activities and private exercises with your partner. Sharing personal details is typically voluntary, and facilitators emphasize creating a safe and confidential environment.
What if we're feeling hesitant or uncomfortable about attending?
It's normal to feel nervous or unsure about attending a couples workshop. Remember that many couples attend workshops to strengthen their relationship, and facilitators are trained to create a supportive atmosphere.
How long do the effects of a couples workshop last?
The impact of a workshop can vary depending on individual circumstances. Many couples find that they continue to benefit from the skills and insights gained long after the workshop ends, especially if they actively practice what they've learned. Gottman Institute research has found a significant effect on couples who implement one new strategy learned at such a workshop.
How can we continue to support our relationship after the workshop?
Practicing the skills learned in the workshop consistently is key. Schedule regular check-ins with your partner, continue to communicate openly, and be willing to seek additional support if needed.
What is meant by "Evidenced Based"?
The strategies and information shared at this workshop is based on the work of John and Julie Gottman and the Gottman Method. I am Gottman Method Level one trained and Affairs and Trauma trained. I have used these interventions to help over 100 couples to improve their relationships. John Gottman's reasearch provides a fundamental basis of what predicts relationship success and difficulties.
Isn't it your job to fix our problems?
How I see my role as a couples therapist is not to fix your problems but give you the tools to improve your relationship yourselves. No relationship is perfect and every relationship needs attention and work to improve. The goal of couples therapy then becomes how to move away from gridlock towards dialog.
How important is being right and winning the argument?
Your partner is not your enemy. They are the person that you have chosen to live life with. If one of you is focused on winning and being right then you both lose and feel less connected. The goal is to understand each others stories and attune to each others perspectives. You don't even have to agree! You just have to see how your partner sees the situation.
How can we continue to support our relationship after the workshop?
Practicing the skills learned in the workshop consistently is key. Schedule regular check-ins with your partner, continue to communicate openly, and be willing to seek additional support if needed. Troy also will discuss next steps for couples who are looking for additional assistance at the end of the workshop!