Children often struggle to express their negative emotions, which can lead to frustration, anxiety, and other mental health problems. However, with the right approach, parents can encourage their child to open up and share their feelings. In this article, we will discuss how parents can encourage their child to talk about their negative emotions and the benefits of a child confiding their emotions with their parents.
Encouraging a child to talk about their negative emotions:
Create a safe space: It is essential to create a safe space where your child can express themselves freely without any judgment. You can do this by showing empathy and understanding towards their feelings, creating a calm and peaceful environment, and making them feel heard.
Validate Their Emotions: Children need to know that their emotions are valid and that it's okay to feel upset, angry, or sad. When your child expresses negative emotions, validate their feelings by saying things like "I understand why you feel that way" or "It's okay to be upset." This will help your child feel heard and understood.
Be an active listener: When your child shares their emotions with you, make sure to listen actively. Pay attention to their body language and tone of voice to understand their emotions better. Do not interrupt them while they are speaking and avoid giving them advice or solutions without understanding their feelings.
Avoid Judging or Criticising: Parents need to avoid judging or criticising their child's feelings. Avoid saying things like "That's silly" or "You shouldn't feel that way." Instead, try to understand where your child is coming from and show empathy. If you feel like you need to offer advice, do so in a way that is supportive and non-judgmental.
Model Healthy Emotional Expression: Children learn by example, so it's important for parents to model healthy emotional expression. Talk openly about your own feelings and how you cope with negative emotions. Encourage your child to do the same by asking them how they feel and providing them with healthy coping strategies.
Seek Professional Help When Needed: If you notice that your child is struggling with negative emotions, don't hesitate to seek professional help. A mental health counsellor can provide your child with the tools and support they need to cope with their emotions in a healthy way.
The benefits of a child confiding their emotions with their parents:
Builds trust: When a child feels comfortable enough to share their emotions with their parents, it builds trust between the parent and the child. This trust can help strengthen the relationship between the parent and the child.
Improves emotional well-being: Confiding emotions with parents can help a child feel better and improve their emotional well-being. It can help reduce stress and anxiety and help the child develop healthy coping mechanisms.
Encourages problem-solving skills: When a child confides in their parents, they can learn problem-solving skills. Parents can help their child develop coping mechanisms and strategies to deal with their negative emotions.
Helps with social development: When a child confides their emotions with their parents, it can help with their social development. They can learn how to communicate their feelings effectively and build healthy relationships with others.
Promotes mental health: Confiding emotions with parents can promote mental health by helping the child develop healthy coping mechanisms, reducing stress and anxiety, and building resilience.
If you have any concerns about your child's socio-emotional wellbeing in school, please feel free to get in touch with your child's homeroom tutor or year group leader.
Ms Zanthe Ng,
Senior School Counsellor (Whole School)
Mr Daniel Tan,
Counsellor (Whole School)
Ms Lori Ercan,
Counsellor (Whole School)