Tips for Talking to Children About Disabilities

It’s Ok to Notice

Children are naturally curious and will ask questions about what they see. It is important to keep explanations short, matter of fact, and positive while showing the person has nothing to be ashamed of.

Use Respectful Terminology

Don't use a disability as a way to describe an individual. For example, instead of saying "autistic child," it's better to say "a child on the autism spectrum."

Emphasize Similarities

Take care to separate the person from his or her disability by talking to your child about how he and the person with the disability are similar.

Teach Understanding and Empathy

Teach your child to look for strengths instead of just focusing on weaknesses. It's important for them to learn that just because someone can't do something, or struggles in one area, it doesn't mean they do not excel in other areas.

Address Bullying

Talk to your child about why intentionally hurting another child's feelings is wrong. It's important for your child to know that anyone, even someone who looks or acts different, has feelings just like she does, and deserves to be treated nicely and with respect.

Treat Devices with Respect

Teach your child to treat medical devices, such as canes, wheelchairs, and service dogs, with respect. Make sure they understand that the devices are there to help the person who needs them.