I liked how you were respectful and said “excuse me” when you bumped into Dane in the hall.

I noticed you standing up straight, looking directly at Jake’s face, and speaking calmly and firmly when he was teasing Becky. You were an assertive upstander.

You asked if anyone had seen your missing eraser instead of jumping to the conclusion that someone took it. That was a respectful way to handle the situation.

You asked how Shay was feeling instead of jumping to conclusions. Using your listening skills really showed respect to Shay!

Thank you, Skyler, for showing me your cool-down pass before leaving the room to go to the counselor’s office. This helps me know where you are.

I can see that you and Jamie don’t agree, but you are staying calm, listening to each other, and not interrupting. That’s very respectful.

That is a helpful use of self-talk when you repeated my directions to yourself to remember the steps for today’s science activity. Remember to also write the assignment in your planner.

I can see that you seem anxious, and it’s not unusual to feel that before giving a speech. Where do you feel it in your body right now? Good awareness! Let’s practice taking 3 good breaths into that area.

Your list of steps for the assignment is clear. This looks like an effective way to chunk down the assignment into manageable pieces. Your next step is to put due dates next to each one so you can monitor your progress and turn the project in on time.

You did belly breathing to calm down after feeling angry with Matt. That was a good first step. Now see if you can write down a few ways to solve the problem better.

I see you’ve been taking care to write the assignments in your planner. What kind of difference have you noticed that making for you?

I’ve noticed more confidence in you since you’ve been practicing your basic addition facts every day. What have you been saying to yourself to help yourself practice so consistently?

Wow--another step toward your ambitious IPS goal! Even though last week was a set-back, suppose you continue making small steps like this…what difference do you see that making for you?

Even though you’re feeling frustrated, you asked for help in a calm, assertive way. That makes it easier for me to help you. Whom else has noticed your new assertiveness lately?

I noticed you considered Jesse’s perspective when she bumped your backpack. You were able to recognize it was an accident instead of jumping to blame! How did you help yourself do that?

I’ve noticed a big increase in your class participation since committing to leaving your cellphone in the locker, Darrius. You have interesting ideas to share, which benefits the class and I like hearing them. What have you been noticing that’s different since making that commitment?