NET FIGHTERS

THE DOUBLE FACES OF INTERNET: FUN AND TROUBLES

Internet is a wonderful world as well a smart and alternative way to communicate each others. Communication trough Internet is also a way to breack down the barriers that separate each one of us, it could be also a wonderful place to be free to express ours ideas and share to the world our life and passions! BUT... this "smart Universe" could be also crowed of troubles, so it's really important to be awerne from these danger situations while we're surfing online. So in this presentation , our group, the NET FIGHTERS, will be glad to show you these types of troubles and how deal with it, pay attention!

Know the enemy before fighting it:

CYBER-BULLYING AND BODY SHAMING

The meta-verse is a fantastic dimension because it makes us easier to show our life and passions to the entire world and know new opinions, but sometimes these opinions could not be as nice as we think, in-fact it could be possible that this amazing but dangerous reality allows some rude and ruthless people to insult and abuse other users, exploiting their weakness and making their life harder and harder, making them Internet not a way to be free, but rather a cruel cage, trapping the lifes of many people in a computer.

What is "cyber-bullying"?

According to the Swiss site of iBarry "cyber-bullying is a word wich means a continue, repeated, offensive and sistematic attack made through Internet" and it regards largely the teenagers. In this phenomenon we can recognize two figures: the victim and the cyber-bull, there may be more than one. On the whole the victim and the cyber-bull are people who know each others in the real life, for example they get together at the same school. Furthmore the cyber-bull, also known as the mobber, spread rumors against the victim, upload embarrassing photos or videos, insult or threat the victim, willing to damage the image and the self-confidence of the person which is the target.

How fight cyber-bullying?

For fight cyberbullying you need to follow these simple rules:

First of all TALK WITH SOMEONE ELSE. The first step to be free from cyber-bullying is realizing that you are NOT alone, talk with your parents, talk with your teacher, talk with a friend, tell about your feelings, you're NOT weak.
Than, also helped by someone else, REPORT THE ABUSES. Don't be afraid doing that, you're not wrong!
After ask to the modders of the platform to CANCEL THE MATERIAL used for the abuse. Ask to the modders to act by the help of the authorities and look for the mobbers. (Google)
In addition , when the identity of the mobber/s is clarified have a talk the the bull. Talking with the mobber is a way to clarify also your problems, may have a meet with them will help you to go beyond your problems.

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Briefly cyber-bullying is a type of a virtual persecution, wich include two figures (the victim and the mobbers); for fight this type of abuse we have to talk with someone else, report the abusing, start enjoying our life again. Remember YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

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What is "body-shaming"?

As the site my-personaltrainer.it say "body-shaming is the compless of action finalized to humiliate and criticize someone about his/her body". This form of abusing is largely perpetuated on social media and mass media, due to this fact body-shaming is sadly becoming more and more popular among all people. Additionally are evident two figures: the victim, who suffer the abuses, and the body-shamer, who want to embarass and damage the self confidence of the victim, making fun of some of his/her body features. Morover it's an aggressive behavior (active or passive) meant to hurt a person or a group of people. In addition it could be asscocieted to others social disfunctional behaviors, such as racial discrimination, omopobia, bullying, cyber-bullying, mobbying, stalking or iper-sexualization, too! In a society where apperience come first, who don't respect these prerogative of omologation is a target of insult and persecution in the worst cases.

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How fight body-shaming?

Body-shaming is a hugely popular phenomenon, even so there are some tips that are really usefull for fight shames on our body:

USE IN A RIGHT WAY YOUR SOCIAL. Social can help you to know new realities, but in fact you live in the reality, don't mind any rude comment made by a stranger on a social, relay on real, true, reliable frindes and look for their help when you need it!
IMPROVE YOUR SELF-CONFIDENCE and DON'T TRUST BEUTY STANDARDS. All of us mustn't trust unachivable beuty standard, wich are made by big fashion corporation for induce people to buy their prudocts, instead focus improving your self-confidence, it could be quite simple to do, for be a confident person you can start adopting some useful tips, such us taking up doing sport, doing exercise, or why not taking up a new hobby, it may help you to deal with stress, too. Then if you think you are a weak person remember that is not wrong being weak, the mistake is want to still be weak.
START DON'T MINDING OTHERS' OPINIONS. Watch the world by your own eyes and mind, be opened to others' advices, but never mind rude comments, watch and judge yourself by your own, don't be influenced by others. At the beginning it could be difficult, but now start bulding the better view of yourself, step by step, without being hurry, also trough the help of your close people.
PAY ATTENTION. Not only the victims have to fight body-shaming, everyone is called to respect other people and be always kind with each others, everyone must not make fun of others, but rather help them to improve themself.

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THE BODY POSITIVE MOVEMENT

As well as body-shaming, in the recent years is rapidly growing in popularity "the body positive movement". This movent, born betwen 2010 and 2011 to deal with the issues caused by body-shaming, it's meant to help people to accept and respect all their own body features, others ones and overall their body in all its complexity, in fact the "body positivity" does not include only body features like weight, but also all of kind of things thought as imperfection incuding lentles, acne, cellulite... and disability, too! In conclusion this movement want to challange beauty standards and help people to accept their bodies in their deversity and complexity.

But there is something to say more..

Recently the body positivity is becoming a way to make marketing, adopting "curvy" and disabled models only for satisfy the consumers, moving away from the main object of the "cause", wich is help people to accept and respect their and others' bodies. Many people say that the body positive movement induce people to adopt in some cases a bad style of life, encuraging them to adopt a bad diet.

To sum up body-shaming is a type of abusing largely perpetuated on Internet, there are two diffferent figures, who are the victim, generally a person with body "imperfection" or disfunction, and the body-shamer, who want to embarass and damage the self-confidence of the victim, making fun of his/her body. How to deal with body shaming as a victim: use in a right way your socials, improve your self-conffidence, forget beuty standards, mind only other's advice anddo not consider any rude comments. Furthmore everyone has to be kind with each others.

AN ISPIRING STORY

CICCIOGAMER89

A PERSON WHO MADE HAPPY MANY AND A VICTIM OF INTERNET

One of the most popular victims of cyber-bullying and body-shaming among teens is Mirko Alessandrini, commonly known with the nickname of Cicciogamer89, he is one of the most famous italian youtubers.

Mirko became a youtuber in 2012, since then he started publishing contents only about videogames, after that in 2013 he reached 100.000 subscribers, thanks to his pleasantness; following that, Mirko decided to made a face reveal, cause of this, below his videos, he started to receive negative comments which insulted him for his body, due to this he went through a long period of depression.

On 1st October 2016, while he was signing autographs at Romics, a boy hit Ciccio with a Nutella croissant, just for making fun of his body, and ran into the crowd. After about 1 hour the boy returns again with another croissant to hit him again; but the youtuber called the security and finally they captured him. After that the boy cried in front of him, so Mirko decided to not file a complaint. The event will be remembered from the web with the name of "NutellaGate" .

1 year later Mirko get to weigh 215kg, in front of this and the abuse suffered at Romics, he decided, along with his brother, to do a bariatric surgery, through the sleeve gastrectomy procedure. In the same year, he published an autobiographical book, that is called "Io, Me e Me Stesso", who tells about his familiar situation and his relationship with food.

Thanks to the sleeve gastrectomy Mirko came to weigh about 114kg and nowadays he's under 90kg.

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"WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF I FIND MYSELF AS A VICTIM OF INTERNET ?"

Let Leonardo talk

Luckly I've never dealt with such problems, but searching and knowing fact about Net's troubles I raised my awerness, in case I'd face with such sorts of problems. Since I've never had to cope with harassement while I was surfing online, I can just imagine what I'd do.

First of all I'd talk with someone, I think I'd need it, because I'm a person who can't just be silent, I need to make my voice loud. As I think I'd talk with a friend or another close person first, then I'd report all to my parents, or to my teachers, for example. It's really important to report your problems to someone, we always have to don't be afraid talking with another person about our feelings, you are NOT weak if you do that, you are NOT a freak, you are just a person who LOVE HIMSELF.

Furthmore, with the support of my family or my school, I'd report all my harassement, wich I suffered, to the athorities, wich can help me researching the mobbers.

In addition I'd meet my mobbers for clarify all with them.

In conclusion I'd talk with a specialist, if I need it, for support me to recover from the abuses and start smiling again, wich is the most important thing.

Let Simone talk

I've never been a victim of cyber-bullying or body-shaming, luckily, but I sometimes asked myself what I would do, if I had to deal with such abusing.

Firstly I would ignore them, letting them to live their own life, don't minding their harassement, because initially I'd think that their regret, would hurt them more than they could to me. BUT, I think that could be a bit wrong.

Then I'd realize that ignoring and denying abusing wouldn't be the right choice, or at least it wouldn't be enough! Following that I'd tell about my feelings with a friend, Just for have someone who can help me in case of need.

I don't really know if I would file a complaint, but I'd obviously try to start smiling again, with all the support of the people that I can rely on, it's the only thing that really matters.

THE VICTIM vs THE ABUSER

A contrast of figures

Are commonly clear to all of us the two role played in an abuse, which could be through internet or not. But now we want to show you what is behind each side, going in detail, seing all their motivations and issues.

THE VICTIM

The victim is the person who suffer the abuse, but, why is the victim a victim?

In the most of the cases the victim is an anxiouse, weak and unconfident subject, who is largely sensible, but it lacks in self-confidence. It is predisposed to be isolated, because he thinks he can not defend itself. Generally victim denies the existence of the abuse, in-fact he/she tends to give itself the fault, this in particular is the reason why the victim doesn't tell about the abuse. The effect of abuses, such us cyber-bullying or body-shaming on a teen could be, making an example, its closing to the outside world, deppression and the struggle to normally continue its routine or induced to self-harm or suiced in the worst cases.

THE ABUSER

The abuser is the person who harasses the victim, but, why does he/she do this? Isn't it just an abuser, but rather a victim itself?

On the whole the abuser is an aggressive subject, it is also charaterized by an impulsive behavior and the must to dominate others. It isn't able to manage his/her feelings and correctly interact with others. Overall the abuser harasses others, because it personificates its weakness, wich it doesn't accept, in its victim, in these cases we are able to see a bull-victim. In particular, the cyber-bulls manages to dissociate itself from the pain caused onto victim trought the tecnology.

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WHAT ABOUT US?

"What about us?", a really intriguing question. After all we have known after we raised our awerness we can finally say what in fact we think about Internet, this fascinting, as well dangerous, world. Harassements perpetuated online (as well in real life) are a cancer, wich withers our lifes, but we haven't to be afraid about that, we can stand togher against any cyber-bull or body-shamer, our life is our life and not anyone else's life. We are NOT alone, you are NOT alone, make your voice loud, make your ideas shine, don't permise to anyone to ruin your life. Anyone of us is weak, it's never your fault if you are the victim.

And now if there is a cyber-bull or a body-shamer who is reading in this moment this text, we are rerfering to you now, we love you, just because you don't love others, because you can't love yourself. You are NOT alone, too. Stop making others suffer, it isn't the solution. Now it's the right time for the right choice, we are offering you our support, are you going to accept it?