Embedded Files
My favorite song is
it always brings a tear to my eye.
Me personally
I live in Berkeley California with my wife of 44 years, and 2 cats. I'm a feeler. I'm strong at rapport, egoless, and tend to focus the attention on others instead of myself.
My brain likes to define things in very narrow contexts, which means I can have trouble generalizing into larger contexts. To cope with this, my brain makes tons of perspectives on every single topic, and I switch between them seamlessly. Most people don't work this way. This gives me terrific insights, but sometimes I can't "see the forest through the trees", because I'm zoomed in too close.
I'm sensitive, empathetic, and have strong visual, audio, and kinesthetic acuity. I notice things that many people often have no awareness of.
However my acuity does not however extend itself to my sense of smell or taste, so I'm not a foodie, although I am a vegetarian.
On the Myers Briggs personality test, I naturally fall on the dead center of all 4 axes. This tends to baffle Myers Briggs experts. As a teen, I was an INTJ. I now have the flexibility to step into any of the 16 types as needed. I can put on an ESFP coat to be in rapport with those folks. This flexibility lets me talk to you in your language, and makes communication much easier; it also allows me to put in boundaries when needed.
I don't put on airs, and who you see in the videos on this site is the authentic me. People generally describe me as: "nice", "smart", "a good guy", and the occasional "sweet".
My Personal History
My childhood was bewildering, I was born a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) to non-HSP parents. This was 30 years before "HSP" began to be popularized. I've always had a compulsion to understand how everything, including me, works. I began taking personal development classes along with engineering classes at age 19 to figure out all this stuff, and how the world became the way it is. Soon I could teach those classes, however the materials from different classes just didn't tend to integrate into a whole. This was my narrow context problem I described above.
I spent 10 years as an engineer in silicon valley, making computer chips and programming computers. I found myself disappointed in how these companies were run. The profit motive, I found to be too hard on the lives of the workers, including myself. I decided to see for myself if it had to be that way.
Later I purchased my family's retail store and ran that for 30 years. This is where I gained most of my knowledge and hands-on experience into how people's brains actually work. As time went on, I learned to only hire empaths, and by doing so, it created a magical, highly productive environment. Everybody was able to "feel into" everyone else, and this naturally gave them insight into what others needed. So a helping hand was often proffered without even having to ask!
In our store, there was no need or desire to dominate each other, as that would break the empathetic connection we all had. It was magical, and customers felt it too, but they couldn't voice what made us different, "nice" and "good" were about as close as they could come.
My Quick Rant
By the way, empaths are the most non-judgmental people on the planet. We can see multiple perspectives all at once, and understand how each of those perspectives has a unique, valid context. From there, it's possible for us to envision a cross-contextual 3D model of how all those perspectives fit together to give us mastery of difficult situations. Once you have this model, judgements seem just dumb.
The "how people work" thing just isn't available in our culture. There is a disappointingly large number of manipulative and deceitful people and organizations who want to tell you their version of how it all works so as to influence and manipulate you.
In our culture, many loudly proclaim to have "the answer", and corresponding belief systems that reinforce that. However their belief systems are very poor models for reality. It's like trying to drive your car with both hands on the rearview mirror. It simply doesn't work very well, but that's all they have. ChatGPTs version of "how people work" is pretty good, but it leaves out some important areas.
I've had to search wide to discover empowering ways of operating; to discover how everything, including people, actually work from a 3D perspective. The rise of the internet did help speed things along.
I usually get people unstuck in one session. I’ll work with almost anyone on anything. I enjoy challenging problems that require me to come up with unique perspectives.
Be Aware
I’m not a medical professional, a licensed psychologist or psychiatrist.
I’m just really good at helping people get unstuck, and move forward with life.
Another great song is
We Care a Lot by Faith No More,
It starts the waterworks too.
Report abuse