Respect
Children will listen to someone they have an independent respect for. As teachers, we need to create an environment where each child is viewed as having something of value to contribute that no other can offer.
Shifting the power of the teacher
Children have been trained to listen and focus on the teacher and not on each other.
When the desire to leap in and guide a conversation arises, allow at least 20 seconds of wait time or more.
Take notice of how much you are guiding or managing the conversations with your nonverbal cues.
When to step in:
Be a part of the conversation and model the behaviours you want to see.
Ask when you don't understand the meaning behind what someone says
Point out the difficulties. 'I just noticed that no one is responding to what ___ has said.' Then use another child's name. '____ why do you think that is?'
Physical Cues
Our eyes and actions show where our attention is directed.
Our whole body listens and responds.
What You Hear
What you hear may not always be right.
The person that is saying this may not know whether it is right or wrong. However, they are thinking and sharing. It is someone's thought or opinion as opposed to a finite piece of knowledge.
Focus on listening to what the person is saying rather than on its value or benefit to yourself.
Disagreeing is important
Disagreeing is different from arguing or putting down. It teaches that correct way to respond to something someone views as wrong.
How to
Record a session on an ipad using Online Voice Recorder.
If time is short analyse the data for only one student or for a set time limit. (eg 2 minutes)
Look for the positives. What behaviours are being used?
Share the Data
Tell children their strengths
Set a group goal based on gaps
Listen to the Data
Data often shows that what we think is happening is different to what is actually happening.