Coping Skills- Anger Iceberg

The Anger Iceberg represents the idea that, although anger is displayed outwardly, other emotions may be hidden beneath the surface. These other feelings—such as sadness, fear, or guilt—might cause a person to feel vulnerable, or they may not have the skills to manage them effectively.

By exploring what’s beneath the surface, we can gain insight into our anger.

The Anger Iceberg worksheet can be used in multiple ways. It works well as a group discussion piece, or as an activity where students can identify and circle their own hidden emotions. Try the following discussion questions to get started:

- Imagine a friend is facing a situation that’s similar to one of your own anger triggers. What emotions do you think they might feel, other than anger?

- In your family, or in the culture you grew up in, what emotions do people freely express? What emotions do they keep to themselves?

- Imagine a person who handles difficult emotions—such as sadness, fear, or hurt— effectively. How do they show these emotions? What do they do to cope with them?

- Anger is sometimes used mask emotions that make a person feel vulnerable, such as hurt or shame. Can you think of a time you expressed anger in order to hide another emotion you were feeling?