LGBTQIAP

(Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer/Questioning, Intersex, Asexual, Pansexual)

General Guide Lines For Life

Determining Someones Gender: It is essential that gender can only be determined accurately from self report of the person in question. Do not assume anyone's gender even if their gender expression may lean towards what is considered masculine or feminine. Do not be afraid to ask for someone's pronouns. I encourage to incorporate they/them pronouns into your everyday vocabulary. Though if a nonbinary person does not use they/them pronouns please do not refer to that person with they/them pronouns and think it is okay.

Misgendering: If you ignore the above it could lead to misgendering. If you are aware of someones pronouns and you misgender them by-accident you must actively work towards thinking before you speak. Make sure to quickly and effectively correct yourself and apologize(do not make it about you, do not come up with an excuse, do not make the person you misgendered even more uncomfortable by going on and on). Lastly make sure to correct people around you, it may seem like an awkward situaton but in the long run it is extremely important for the acceptance and inclusion of nonbinary folx. Though whether you misgender someone on purpose or by accident you are causing detrimental effects to that person's mental health that could lead to depression, suicidal thoughts/actions, and hospitalization.

Gender Expression vs Gender Identity: A crucial part to understanding gender in this day and age is knowing the difference between gender expression and gender identity. Gender Identity is a persons innermost concept of self as male, female, a blend of both or neither. One's gender identity can be the same or different from their sex assigned at birth. Gender expression is how a person chooses to appear to display their gender, which can be any array or combination of masculine and feminine components. It must not be assumed that a persons gender expression has a direct correlation to that persons gender identity based on traits under a binary view to be traditionally masculine or feminine.

Nonbinary terms: Two-spirit, agender, gender fluid, genderqueer, gender-nonconforming, third sex.

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/non-binary-pronouns-why-they-matter_b_5a03107be4b0230facb8419a

Commonly used pronouns for gender-nonconforming people: 'they', 'their' and 'them' is the most common; and ze, sie, xe, zie(pronounced zee), hir(prounounced here), xem(pronounced zem), xyr(pronounced zeer), co, and hy are used as well.