We all think we know how to relax. But chilling out in front of the TV or computer isn't true relaxation. (Depending on what you're watching or doing, it could even make you more tense.) What the body really needs is daily practice of a relaxation technique — like deep breathing or yoga — that has a physical effect on the mind. For example, deep breathing helps to relax a major nerve that runs from the diaphragm to the brain, sending a message to the entire body to let go and loosen up.
Take care of yourself physically. Eat well-balanced meals on a regular basis. Drink less caffeine. Get enough sleep, and exercise on a regular basis.
Make a list of the things that are causing your stress. Think about your friends, family, school, and other activities. Accept that you can’t control everything on your list.
Take control of what you can. For example, maybe you don’t have enough time to study to get the grades you want. You may need to cut back your work hours. Or you might have to drop one of your activities after school, or tell your friends you can't hang out today.
Give yourself a break. Remember that you can’t make everyone in your life happy all the time. And it’s okay to make mistakes now and then.
Don’t over-commit yourself. If you’re already too busy, don’t promise to decorate for the school dance. If you’re tired and don’t want to go out, tell your friends you’ll go another night.
Find someone to talk to. Talking to your friends or family can help. It gives you a chance to express your feelings. If you feel like you can’t talk to your family or a friend, talk to someone outside the situation.
Engage in a hobby or activity you enjoy. Go for a walk. Listen to music. Play a sport. Read a book. Find an activity that you enjoy, and do it.